Dating/Relationship General Advice Thread - Volume 10 --Spring 2012 Edition - Page 3 - EDF Forum

DcifrThs · 03-07-2012, 04:56 AM

Pete: I just noticed you've graced everybody with your actual name again in fb. Congrats. In terms if texting vs calling, you come across as exactly that way. Eld less so but the purpose of calling isn't just to schedule dates and shoot the ****. It's to get to know the other person. I guess I'm just behind the times. She's 30 though.

LucidDream · 03-07-2012, 05:21 AM

That's what dating is for...otherwise why not just do all your dates over the phone?

MegaFossil · 03-07-2012, 05:50 AM

I think I'd be ecstatic to find a girl like Dcifr's who was into me, but didn't really care to waste time BS'ing via phone calls or text. The less she learns about me between dates, the better in my opinion.

daryn · 03-07-2012, 06:41 AM

yeah, it's like some weird kind of role reversal here w/ dcifr.

Interbeed · 03-07-2012, 07:20 AM

How do you know when you're in love? & how do you tell someone?

There is this bird who I work with, hang out with a lot and shes awesome. Has the same interests and all that stuff.

We're very close friends and I love spending time with her, shes one on my favorite people to hang out with.

I wouldn't want to lose her as a friend but taking a huge leap but it would kill me to see her settle down with someone else

DcifrThs · 03-07-2012, 08:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Interbeed

How do you know when you're in love? & how do you tell someone?

There is this bird who I work with, hang out with a lot and shes awesome. Has the same interests and all that stuff.

We're very close friends and I love spending time with her, shes one on my favorite people to hang out with.

I wouldn't want to lose her as a friend but taking a huge leap but it would kill me to see her settle down with someone else

wait, are you saying you want to tell this girl you work with that you love her? just like outta the blue like that?

DcifrThs · 03-07-2012, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by MegaFossil

I think I'd be ecstatic to find a girl like Dcifr's who was into me, but didn't really care to waste time BS'ing via phone calls or text. The less she learns about me between dates, the better in my opinion.

I guess I'm outdated. ElD, that seems an efficient arrangement.

I will not be so demanding in my head and let things just fall as they may.

I'll text her thurs night to finalize plans and that's it.

Interbeed · 03-07-2012, 08:51 AM

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Originally Posted by DcifrThs

wait, are you saying you want to tell this girl you work with that you love her? just like outta the blue like that?

it works in the movies?

but i dont really want to drop it on her from the middle of nowhere.

I've made mention to her in the past that I have feelings for her and has told me she she didn't see her more than a great friend.

we're going out for dinner tonight so i might see what sort of vibes i get

scrolls · 03-07-2012, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Interbeed

it works in the movies?

but i dont really want to drop it on her from the middle of nowhere.

I've made mention to her in the past that I have feelings for her and has told me she she didn't see her more than a great friend.

we're going out for dinner tonight so i might see what sort of vibes i get

from the few details you've provided it sounds like you're firmly in the friendzone.

El Diablo · 03-07-2012, 02:17 PM

Inter,

"I've made mention to her in the past that I have feelings for her and has told me she she didn't see her more than a great friend."

How long ago was that? What in your relationship with her has changed since then?

nitwitnit · 03-07-2012, 03:32 PM

inter,

Definitely way too early to tell her you love her. You sound pretty friend-zoned to be honest.

Chitown3b18 · 03-07-2012, 03:32 PM

Dcifr,

First, you sound like a needy 14yo school girl with the way you text, and I can't imagine it being +EV in any manner for you. 'Yum yum'? Seriously dude, don't ever text something that stupid again, as long as you live.

Next, I feel you with regards to the talking on the phone thing. Personally, I need a girl who wants to talk and communicate on the phone, and is simply interested in shooting the **** for 30 minutes at times. It doesn't mean I need to talk or even contact her every day, but I need it every once in a while. This girl doesn't seem to like that nor want that, and that's fine on her part, but you have to come to terms with that. Either accept that fact about her, or find someone who suits your needs better.

nitwitnit · 03-07-2012, 03:35 PM

There has got to be more important **** in dating than the phone thing. I think in general if you don't know the girl well getting her to pickup the phone>>>texting her. She is texting him about mundane bull**** which can be a huge trap.

Interbeed · 03-08-2012, 03:52 AM

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Originally Posted by El Diablo

Inter,

"I've made mention to her in the past that I have feelings for her and has told me she she didn't see her more than a great friend."

How long ago was that? What in your relationship with her has changed since then?

I told her this is mid Jan and since then we've been closer than ever. Opening up to each other a lot more about things and just growing closer and closer.

I thought I was firmly in the friendzone but I took her out last night and we hooked up and agreed to go out again so let's see what happens next

LucidDream · 03-08-2012, 10:04 AM

As seems to be the case quite often when someone used the term "hooked up"...what do you mean by that?