chis,
iirc, what alinea requests is that all diners get the same length of menu so that serving times aren't ridiculous. with respect to wine, i think that you will be fine not getting pairings if you don't want to. shouldn't be a problem. i'd want to say that if you liked something someone got brought you could probably ask for a glass, but i honestly don't know. lots of stuff available in pairings aren't available by the glass, so i don't know where the intersection of good service and "we aren't selling that by the glass" winds up. idk which wines have high alcohol %s or whatever (and think that's a kind of weird thing to have an issue with, but whatever) but probably with their current emphasis on pairing things like liquors/liqueurs going on you're safest to just get out of the way of the pairings.
the place i'm looking forward to trying with a family type group that's not in chicago is "burt's place," the pizza place in morton's grove, but probably you're asking about places with like, food, not pizza?
i had a really good time at nightwood
link:
http://www.nightwoodrestaurant.com/about.html
which has a lot of very straight forward, but good, food.
very american type food that most people wouldn't be scared of, i would think, nice atmosphere, not super expensive (or super cheap), and good/decent wine/beer/cockails choices.
also been hearing great things about kith & kin, which i guess is right in your neighborhood, iirc?
http://chicago.metromix.com/restaura...640668/content
might be a little more adventurous, but not hugely so.
then again, if you're a fan of kith & kin already, you might also just want the info that they're opening a new place soon in andersonville. pretty quick for a 2nd place, but i'm excited since it'll be like a block and a half from me.
important, i guess: will there be little kids with you or just family? i guess that makes a pretty big difference.
another good (but not good for little kids) option is cafe spiaggia.
http://www.spiaggiarestaurant.com/#/cafe/general-info/
if there are kids (and even if there aren't) you might want to consider osteria via stato:
http://www.osteriaviastato.com/