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Originally Posted by goofyballer
Not only are poker analogies w/ women generally terrible but that one does not even make sense here. That would be more apt to describe why sending ****** messages to a lot of girls on POF is inferior to sending good messages to a smaller number of higher quality girls.
Perhaps my analogy was bad, so I'll explain what I was trying to say explicitly. It seems as though you know what you're doing is wrong in theory, however you proceed to say that you're going to keep doing it because maybe somehow it works, and if it doesn't, you don't care. In my mind, it sounded like someone who knows that limping PF is wrong in theory, yet they do it anyway because hey - it's only 1 bb to limp, so who cares if you lose it?
Now I realize you say you don't care about this particular chick, so GREAT!!! She should be used as a guinea pig for practicing things that don't come naturally to some of us, yet are absolutely necessary if you want to improve your results with the next girl who maybe you DO give a **** about.
As far as the POF theory you describe goes, optimal strategy (meaning not firing off a zillion cold emails unlikely to get a response) is to create a profile that shows, not tells, how awesome you are, post a pic that catches the eye, and only message quality girls that have already viewed your profile. While it may seem like they had the opportunity to say hi and didn't and thus would not be great candidates to write - empirically it's just not true. Usually the ugly ones say hi, and the hot ones don't need to, but would probably be happy if you did.