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Originally Posted by DerrtySlime
it was a small point. Girls want to be approached by great looking men only in non-standard situations.
Also I think your english needs some work because I never said "don't approach hot girls in clubs". I said it's not always the best situation to continue something after the night because you were both drunk... sometimes there can be friends that will cockblock you etc. Some of the negatives that exist in clubs don't exist in non-standard situations and vica versa.
I still dont get the point you are trying to make.
Obviously things can go wrong.
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Originally Posted by DerrtySlime
...if this means you think most guys should approach any girl they want because hot girls should have to take on a huge burdenfor penalty for being hot youre ****ed.
So you are saying hot girls should always get what they want?
Ask hot girls if they would trade their looks for not being annoyed by all kinds of guys all the time, ergo turn ugly, who would seriously consider this?
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Originally Posted by Henry17
Localization -- I can't be in two places at once.
Cant argue with that. It's also irrelevant.
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Originally Posted by Henry17
That isn't what I said. I said approaching women. If a women wants to be approached she'll make it quite clear. The problem is that guys are going up to random women who have not given any indication that they are open to being approached.
This is not my problem. When I approach a girl, I know I am differnt than every other guy. Do you really think her day is ruined by an approach of an otherwise awesome man?
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Originally Posted by Henry17
The girl is not in a situation where she is trapped or required to be nice. She has bouncers she can call on. It is part of the deal when you go to these places. You at least know she is in a social mood.
You make it look like speaking to strangers in a daily setting is the equivalent of sexual harassment.
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Originally Posted by Henry17
There is a difference between talking to and trying to pick up. I'll exchange pleasantries with anyone but quick and disengage. If I see them again in a social setting they might look familiar or we might not even remember each other but I'm at neutral or positive impression. Compare that to a few weeks back my GF let a guy go ahead of her in line because he only had a few items -- that led to him seeing that as an invitation to ask her to go go-karking and then getting abrasive when she said she no thanks. The way to play meeting people on the street is just to be nice, make a good impression, but never try to actually close unless the interaction is extensive. The value is in having all these people circulating who somewhat remember you at some level and that they had a positive opinion. The last thing you want is a bunch of people circulating saying oh I remember that guy I made room for him on the bus and he took that as an opening to hit on me and try to ask me out.
As I said, I am not day gaming and I agree that being pushy in such a setting is stupid and makes you look like a creep.
But when I strike up a conversation with someone and it looks like it's leading somewhere, I would obviously close.
Furthermore would I not avoid conversation, like you seem to do.
Your obsession with other's opinion on you is very weird. Your standard advice for people is to only care about what the respective peer group thinks, but your own standards are different.
If you havent seen that girl ever before, a) chances are slim you'll see her again and b) she probably wont tell any person in your peer group about it, so it shouldnt really matter.
And if she sees you again in a club setting, you'll be balling out of control and rather than talking bad about you, she will try to initiate conversation with you again.
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Originally Posted by wsopmichael
@ Henry17,
thats the whole point of day game, We dont care if she wants to be approached or not, Becaues we know when we approach her she will feel bettter about her day since she has now discussed it with someone.
Dont bring daygaming into this.
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Originally Posted by Henry17
No. I know a lot of hot girls and not one feels this way.
This obviously depends on who the guy is. When girls talk about this, the bias in their opinion is not measureable, they will obviously only remember the bad attempts unless they are currently involved with someone who she met this way.
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Originally Posted by yeotaJMU
When you brought up a work setting as an argument that is totally different. You wouldnt go in on your first day of work and hit on girls who youve never met before while they are in a cubicle or something. Work relationships come from interacting with the person over time and doing activities outside the office in social settings.
The time frame is differnt, but that's because you got WORK to do.
If you came into the workplace and had 0 work, would be sitting in the cafeteria the whole time, would it really take longer? No, it wouldnt.
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Originally Posted by yeotaJMU
It mostly comes down to the ability to read body language. If I were waiting forever in a line at a store and there was a hot chick behind me maybe I would say something like "Can you believe this? Its ridiculous". However if she just laughs or doesnt initiate further convo I would just turn around. Im not going to then use that as an opening to hit on her, if that makes sense.
As I said, I am not going to talk to the girl further if she acts uninterested.
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Originally Posted by Karak
I think Spurious' argument as to approaching girls on the street/in other non-social gathering places is: why not? What's the worst that can happen? I get rejected? So what?
And I don't see an issue with that.
In a nut-shell.