hahahahahahaha

explain this concept?

why dont we all rate ourselfs out of 10, i would say im a 6, im a pretty average looking dude but at best i might be a 7.

talked to a girl today. My friend wanted to go hangout at the Student Centre where people were playing video games in public to play Halo. Anyway there was some various shenanigans going on, a girl shave her head to raise money for charity... and off to the side where i was hanging out in the video game pit was a girl with IMO amazing body taking pictures to raise money for charity. I think i opened with "so what are you guys doing?" ...then she asked if I wanted to get my picture taken. We talked and i mentioned
1.I like photography and I have 3 lights with a backdrop at my house
2.I play soccer and like taking sports pictures

So ya i just basically talked about myself but there was some back and forth. Tried to highlight good points about me that she might like.

When I left I didn't really know what to say, then she said the pictures will be on FaceBook later on tonight then I said K bye. So i guess my question is how do I close/escalate ? and do you think sending a Facebook message is a good move?

She goes to your school so you'll run into her again.

Women don't really rate men on looks. Its more of a yes/no. And any amount of power makes looks debatable. See Mickey Rourke who is incredibly bad looking.


Especially not the women you want to date. I'm sure that it does occur and women will **** a young underwear model based on looks. But lol at that constituting "dating".

unlikely. She said she was in a different program and I would guess at least 3rd year. Not to mention there are very few occurrences where people actually socialize on campus. I have realized that there are not enough standard pickup situations that exist, so I have to do what I can in nonstandard situations.

Yeah this. I was involved with some pretty attractive women when I was at the absolute peak of my fatness (disclaimer: now fat free) in college, and it was mainly due to other characteristics of me outweighing any physical detriments (ex: popular guy, leadership in the organizations we were in, funny, etc.). Plus I wasn't really fugly or anything, just overweight. I've definitely noticed as I'm getting into mid-20s that women REALLY don't seem to care. I've seen some truly disproportional couples walking around DC. A guy who is clearly an intelligent, successful professional who looks like a total n00b walking around with a hot blonde, etc. And I don't even mean that the dude is overwhelmingly rich or anything... just a successful, confident mid-20s dude.

I think most men who don't have top end looks (as they perceive it) self-select themselves out of women more often than the women not desiring them.

Yeah I know it isn't a campus given to gathering but it is tiny so odds are you'll run into her at some point. I don't see what other options you have unless this charity thing has future events you can show up to. Do you even have a last name?

edit: do have a last name. the internet makes things like this very easy.

edit2: Jesus there is even a profile page with some of her interests.

dont be creepy dude

hand check

surprise!

Dirrrty, next time she says something on fb, give her your last name and let her find you. Then you don't have this problem.

In your current state of affairs I would go with hoping you run into her again, beginning the conversation with a reference to the pictures (so she remembers who the **** you are) and then close properly.

You can't contact her on FB without coming off as creepy.

Ya you should of given her your name so she could send you the photos over facebook.

agree...
agree.
sigh.

yea wtf for such an angry, hateful poster derrty you should have this down

have sporadically texted girl last few weeks, going to try to get her to come with me to my friend's birthday friday. i figure it is a freeroll, either she comes and that is good or not and my friend has hot friends to get drunk with

girls birthday is in two weeks, i figure this will determine if i go to that or not. i don't know anyone that is going other than her so would be awkward/boring if i don't know anyone and have no chance of hooking up with her

quick update: no girl, no potential girl.
cheerio.
id have done her, shoot: http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20101013...especieswhales

just comment on one of the fb pics and try to bump into her again. no use sweating a girl you met only briefly

All/Derrrrty:

1: Everyone's saying can't contact on FB, but: "then she said the pictures will be on FaceBook later on tonight" This implies that she gave Derrrty either her name or the group's name where the pics will be posted. If she is associated w/ the group, good chance she'll be an admin or something of the group and it will not be super weird for Derrrty to send her a message.

2: "1.I like photography and I have 3 lights with a backdrop at my house" seems a little challenging to drop into conversation without coming off a little creepy!

I must say...if everyone could use exclamation marks as well as Diablo, I wouldn't be so adamantly against their use.

Yea, me neither!

yeah study girl is definitely not over me. we went back to her place today and messed around. afterwards she said she just needs some time to "be by herself" because she's basically been in one relationship or the other since she was 17 (brag?). She said all this **** like "you're making this really hard for me, you're so ****ing cute, i want to do this with you, it's just bad timing, etc etc". I took your advice El D and didn't really engage her in logical conversation about what was going on between us. Said things like "that's funny you think that, you worry too much, let's just hang and see what develops, etc". Unfortunately she's a very organized almost control freak sort of person and won't drop the issue....she needs to have things figured out before embarking on any sort of relationship.

A few hours ago she said she was dtf in my room tonight. half hour after i left she sent me another long ass text saying the same kind of thing that she needed time alone and being with me tonight would force her into something with me. I texted back "let me if you change your mind. besides, what are you gonna do, never see me again? "

Not much else I can do here, right? Just continue flirting and being awesome around her while waiting for her to get her stuff sorted out? No sense in pressuring her to make up her mind right now or have sex with me now, right? I'm just keeping the attitude right now of "i know you'll get with me eventually, so i'll wait around until you actually do". should i be more persistent?