the brightside of breaking up with someone you love is that music will take on a new meaning. you can now relate to all those lyrics that you thought people were just making up before.

i'm just hoping that one day i can find someone to truly fall in love with so that all those ******ed status updates start to make sense.

"You say i made you fall in love with me, wish i could make you fall in love with you"

Hi!

Okay wtf, have we learned nothing from my misadventures in this thread??

Wait wat? Now you're gonna hit it and quit it? Still going to poundtown with this chick?

goofy you dropped off the face of the earth what happened to you and why have there been no TR's lately?

I think martilo uses an alternative definition of "hook up" also, though I'm not sure.

Not much, I've still been posting in this thread I just don't have any adventures of my own to share. Haven't really felt motivated to check out POF lately, not really meeting chicks elsewhere, so not much to talk about on my end.

what about the girls at your apartment? any interactions or nothing since that day you moved in?

He's currently planning to film their weddings and fap to the video. After that...who knows.

What % of the posts ITT do you think are just a self-masturbatory attempt to make the posters here feel better about their insecurities by giving some sort of illusion that they are in control?

2630/12535 = ~21%.

LOL I GET IT

Yeah, I'm in control, I'm in ****in control!

jager bombz

damnit i assumed that was a reference to someones postcount and was thisssss close to a zing, but couldnt figure out how to view posts per thread or w/e. so for future reference... how do i look at that? forumming is hard.

Click on the number of posts when you're looking at the whole forum. It will give you a popup window with a breakdown.

Only met one other chick that lives here and haven't even seen her in a few weeks. So, meh.

hahahahah this x a mirrion. i used to be like wtf are these people saying? now it kinda makes sense as I have become emo all the time unfortunately

and on the improving yourself thing;
not to sound like a d-bag, but i consider myself to be perfectly fine in the physical/material aspect(in shape, have $, have friends, go out). but I just feel really ****ty all the time and in bad moods in general alot over it

it's not like i have been locked in my room for 6 months just crying though, i've been at college, partying getting with girls...i was even with a different girl for a good portion of the summer that i wasn't really crazy about since she wasn't the ex-gf. and now the girl from the summer sends me an inbox saying that she's in love with me...like wtf! i'm not even over the other girl yet

there has to be something more constructive I can do besides trying to be busy all the time, no? i get it take time, but 6 months its pretty long.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qvpNa5O-0-8&ob=av2e

we sound like we have a similar situation. it sucks.

goofy: What happened to the girl your sister picked up for you?

smoke: "also don't rag me about not pushing harder for NSA sex, i went for it like no other but she wouldnt budge. sucks" Ugh. Seems like you flipped the way you act w/ her from super chill cool guy down for whatever to desperate for sex guy in the course of one conversation. Relax, forget about this convo, and start hanging out w/ her, having a good time, and not stressing about where anything goes. Do that and don't be all needy, and you'll likely have the chance to sleep with and/or date her.

ilm: This may be just a function of the way you write and what you choose to write about, but your posts often come off like you way overanalyze things and have so much stuff/plans set in your head in terms of how things should go that it's v hard for things to develop naturally. Based on how you describe your normal social interactions w/ women when you're out just having fun, it just feels like maybe situations like the one w/ M might go better if you had more of a "go with the flow" attitude.

My last relationship ended in more or less the most soulcrushing way possible, and it's been over a year since then. We were "together" for 2 years and involved for 3+. I'm like 98% over it, but it still really bothers me from time to time. I don't think you ever COMPLETELY get over it until you move on and find someone else, and I don't just mean a girl you are hooking up with or who fulfills some needs. I certainly don't think about it every day or even every week, but I do give pause to think about it from time to time, especially when I see/talk to her. 5-6 months is nothing, but rest assured that once you hit the year+ point it fades really quick and you'll be fine. It seems like you are progressing normally right now.

Nope, el d you're about 1000% right. The problem is more in that I don't know how to fix it than in that I don't know there's an issue there.

Overanalysis is how my brain works though-- I'm entering graduate studies in Applied Math for a reason. You can't really consciously make yourself not overanalyze stuff you know? Surely there are times where I get out of that mindset and I'm infinitely happier when it happens, I just haven't found a reliable way of getting there.

You might well be perfectly fine. But think about this, do you like to bang chicks in "perfectly fine" shape, with "perfectly fine" senses of humor, and "perfectly fine" intellects? Or, do you like girls in awesome shape, with awesome personalities, and awesome intellects? Starting in a good place doesn't mean you shouldn't improve yourself. It just means you have a head start.

I wasn't suggesting that you don't already do fine and are a sub-par individual. My point was more along the lines that there are ALWAYS things we can improve about ourselves, and if my laundry list of failed relationships has taught me anything, it is that the post break-up period is a perfect time to work on them.

edit-- After reading the rest of what you said, I agree with Karak. It sounds like you are already doing many of the right things, but sometimes it's helpful to have a reminder to keep doing them.

Aces Suited,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8slB-mYCPw#t=52s

Never even met her, I don't think my sis got her contact info.