NOT ALL ABOUT DA LOOKZ BRAH.
NOT EVENNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN CLOSE.

lol

question:

i have been banging this girl (brag) for about 2-3 months. we arent dating. i knew her as a friend for a couple years, though i didnt really hang out with her (she plays trumpet in the band, so do i). after losing a bunch of weight over the summer we started hooking up. skip to the bottom if you just wanna see my question without background.

some background on our relationship:
i like her, she is really easy going and i can 100% be myself around her which is cool. we havent really talked about our "status" or whatever, but id rather not be dating anyone because i dont want that atm. we usually only hang out 3 days a week (thur, fri, sat) when we drink/party. she also hosts a poker night once in awhile and when she does i stay over. i dont think there has been a weekend night that we both are out that i havent ended up with her at the end of. we text occasionally but not often. we arent all over eachother or anything in public, in fact usually at parties we get separated but at the end of the night we are both around and we go home together. we have hooked up sober several times so its not like we are just smashed and bang. there was a weekend when she had swine flu and i hooked up with 2 different girls that weekend (i say that so you can see where my commitment is at). i felt slightly guilty but like 1% guilty i didnt really care. the way i describe our relationship is is that if she gave me an ultimatum saying we need to date or stop hooking up, i would date her. not only for the sex but because i enjoy spending time with her too.

anyway, but my question is what do i do for christmas? i dont really want to give her a gift but i dont want her to end up getting me something and then im like ****. should i not care about that? remember that i said we havent discussed our relationship, so for all i know she could consider us to be "exclusive" even if we arent dating.

my thoughts are to buy a giftcard for like starbucks or barnes and noble and give it to her if she gives me something, otherwise **** it. thoughts?


sorry this got long i wanted to give some background to make answering my question easier.

hahaha yeota you are in a relationship bro

(and you accused ME before? a christmas gift??!?)

i get her something. its nice. and its christmas.

seriously though yeota just understand that with a christmas gift you are screaming relationship with your behavior

your actions speak much, much louder than words... ESPECIALLY when it comes to women. they will read your behavior 100 % even if your words say something completely different.

yeah i know thats why i dont want to get her anything. i was really wondering if that is like proper protocol because ive never had a f***buddy or whatever **** you want to call it for this long- in the past every girl that ive been banging was for <1.5 months, and most are 1 or 2 nighters.

the more i think about it though getting a gift is probably a bad idea for me.

if it's not a relationship yet then it will be when you get her something for xmas. unless you get her something ******ed, then you won't be ****buddies anymore either.

why, exactly, dont you want to date her? cause of her history?

Cause who the **** wants to be tied down

also yeota i think you'll find this helpful in this situation:

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thanks that helps

Three options:

A) You get her something nice but not expensive, just kind of a token gift.
B) You get her something nice, wrap it, save in case she gets you something. If not, return it.
C) You get her/the-two-of-you something totally filthy and nasty to enhance sexytimes.

all 3 options scream relationship still, especially C.

Advice for moving things forward over finals week/christmas break?

I got a couple numbers this past weekend and would like to not lose the opportunity but finals and break seem to threaten that.

Asked this girl from my law school out last weekend when we were both at the library. She said yes and seemed happy about it. Got her # and told her I'd call today (both of our last exams were today). Have seen her a few times in the interim and everything seemed alright. Anyway, called her today after the final and left a voice message which she has not yet returned. It's been a few hours so I just made other plans for tonight instead. Usually when this happens I just blow it off, don't worry about it, and if I happen to see the same girl out wait for a strong signal before asking out on another date or whatever. What do you guys think of this approach?

FWIW I'll likely see her at our post-finals party this weekend. Do you guys think my usual stand-off type approach sounds alright for the party?

the whole formal ask-out-on-a-date thing is so awkward

better off just getting her # (and getting the #s of girls in law school is so ridiculously easy for a number of reasons) and then framing it as a casual thing

at this point i dunno. if she never responds to your VM then that's pretty awk. i'd just blow her off for a while and reevaluate.

this is a really good question and something ive been wondering myself recently.

texts are a good way of just keeping things warm until you get back i think

i think you might want to work your way up to dick pics...girls love that...assuming your camera has a zoom...ba-dum-chhh

i left a voicemail one time. biggest mistake of my life. just a dumb idea for a girl you dont know.

texts and fb, even some fb chat are great for over the winter break.

you have made your play and have done all you can do. it is possible that you did not build enough attraction to begin with but i digress. looking at my Rolex it is only 4:38pm so there is still enough time for her to call you. what i would do is go out and have a good time and not think about her. easier said than done because i nail girls all the time but i think you should make an effort to adopt my attitude. If i saw her again i would not make it a big deal. whatever you do do not be emo because that will repel her and work against you. act like its not a big deal and try your best to nail other chicks during the party so that she becomes very jealous.

not funny after the first 2 posts.
ban.

TUTS u obv havent read enough Henry to appreciate the brilliance

no, i have. and i said in another thread that it was funny. but then after 4 posts, it became unfunny to me. because schtick isnt funny when its overdone, it becomes redundant and old.