There's absolutely nothing wrong with taking a dance class, even if it is just to learn to dance and not meet girls. I was a dancer in all of my HS' musicals (big productions), and I'm very straight. When people make fun of you or question your sexuality it's either out of immaturity or their own insecurity. I wouldn't be ashamed of it at all.

You will suck. Don't be embarrassed. That's why you are taking the class.

I think it's more that some people have trouble remembering this forum is not BBV4Life.

not a class, just a club

hoping it goes well. will let you guys know next semester

female dominated clubs are the way to go imo

well if you say so.

lol

Just wondering for your thoughts on this situation. Out last night at club/bar and was speaking to azn girl (i'm not azn and i've been immunised against yellow fever so wasn't interested) but just have good chat and then we get onto how hot white guys are etc. So then she/i start pointing to guys and talking about if they hot or not. She also spoke about how guys can't be smaller than her (i was taller than her). I'm sure other blokes been in this situation and i don't know whether this shows that i've been clean plonked into the friend basket or she is trying to say she thinks (a white guy, who is ugly btw) is hot. Pretty sure i think the former but just for future reference because pretty sure it has happened before.Discuss.

NB: I'm not gay so wasn't commented on hotness of guysin that way

being a semi-hip hop dancer myself, trust me girls love when you can dance and im not just talking about the standard grind either. sometimes its necessary to do something solo, so just try to be funny and not uptight and it should be no problem. i dont mean doing the robot though, just have fun with it.

Also when grinding with a girl you have to make sure she knows your in control to a certain extent. Obv its nice when a girl will just do her thing and go crazy and do anything apart from dropping her pants and ****ing you but make sure she feels your presence and knows its not her doing all the work(And no presence != ****).

bumpy bump.

Dont give girls a reason not to date you make them found out for them self. You need t realize that the guy scale isnt nearly as critical as the girl scale is. Most girls dont rely heavily on guys apart from choosing who to go up to if they feel. So if you go up to her you already cut the looks part out of the equation and now its just getting to know her and making her realize that your a good guy.

Another tip i an can give is that girls have been approached by guys or just tlaked to by guys probably thousands of times(if they are like >21) in their lifetime. You have to make sure to not be just one of them. Dont go around telling her how damn pretty she is, most girls realize, sure you can give some compliments but they are not needed at the beginning when you first meet her. Just go up and be yourself, act confident and just get to know her. if you actually get a decent conversation going with a girl the next day she wont be..ughhh remember that guy I made out with , so awkward!, she will be like, wow that one guy and I had an amazing conversation, I want to get to know him more.

You dont need to be the classic definition of handsome by any means to get good looking girls.

Also read bonds post in 4l:

http://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/62...-worth-645602/

i was walking to class, she was presumably walking home from class, and we crossed paths. I basically just asked her if she wanted to get together sometime over the next while and get lunch whenever she needs a break from studying for exams (we have finals starting monday until next wednesday or thursday or w/e). She said "i'd love to" and put her digits in my phone and I did the same. She doesn't have facebook lol.

Two posts from EDF re: texts that I wanted to x-quote over here:

RE Text--

I have to disagree to some extent on this one.

I don't know what Thremp's background is but Henry, for one, doesn't even have a cell phone I don't think. I remember him several times saying that he doesn't ever get phone numbers. So in spite of his generally impressive knowledge and ability to handle difficult relationship situations this is hardly his best area.

Second texting is a social norm among people my age (21) anyway. There is of course something to be said for an actual phone call but the cell phone has become a messaging device in a lot of ways.

While Henry brings up a valid point that if she wants to talk you two can go out and get a drink, texting is another valuable option. For example it allows you to communicate and build your relationship/her attraction/whatever while you are doing things such as homework. Obviously you can't go out and get drinks while doing homework.

So I think that viewing the "text conversation" as a negative is a mistake, especially for the younger people among us. Rather, it should be used to supplement face to face interaction at times that this isn't possible.

I think I actually agree with you. You made some good points. Nice post.

Thinly veiled brag inc

I have law finals coming up. Why are situations with girls presenting themselves to me? I have no time for this. Seriously. But I feel like I should at least do something so the opportunities don't fade. Ahhhhhhhh FML.

Just exert both heads....its not that hard, if you maneuver right you can do both at the same time...gl

yes but conversations through text can still be incessant and annoying. if its a tuesday night and i feel like discussing new moon the nth degree that that is annoying and useless.

i do agree that you can build attraction by text messaging but it only if there is something to build upon. i dont think its possible to create attraction through text messaging and i think if you dont have a somewhat established relationship then texting will only work to your disadvantage. meeting a girl once and sending her 15 text messages shows neediness and i think you brand yourself a creep here often. in addition i think its a bad idea to try and "build your relationship" through text. You may accomplish the fact that shes now thinking about you which is a good thing but one can go too far with this relationship building goal. irl still provides a much better opportunity for all goals.

and on to my thesis...

Quick TR from last night.

I've had terrible approach anxiety at bars for a while. For whatever reason when I go to a club I have no issues at all but something about the bar scene has never worked for me. Obv I'm trying to correct this.

So last night I had my first successful (and first overall) cold approach at a bar. I didn't hook up with the girl because she was a first year (I have some morals) but I certainly could have if I wanted to. Actually now I regret it a little because she was a cute ginger and I've never hooked up with a ginger.

Cliffs- IM has moderate AA in bars and uses one of Bond18's lines successfully.

met a girl at the bar last night. got her to put her number in my phone, only to find out that she has the same name as my mom. i'm fairly certain that i verbalized my displeasure with this situation saying something along the lines of "yeah right" and walked away.

tell us which line obv

why cant you hook up with first years? and you can only tell if the line "worked" if you hooked up with her ( sex)

no

i larfed

This is pure awesome.

wtf martilo share the line