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Originally Posted by kaby
These are good examples what I mean
Where is this even coming from? How is she emotionally flaky? She wants sex, bangs a guy a couple of times, she (correctly) starts to feel he's getting romantically interested, so she blocks him off. A+ adult human behaviour imo.
Why is this necessary? Person A is just looking for sex, person B wants more. Person A picks up on this and breaks it off before there's even more emotional hassle (s)he doesn't want.
There's literally 0 need to include gender in any explanation of the events. This situation happens thousands of times every day, with A male and B female and the other way around.
Oh and not having anyone to share your emotions with is called loneliness. It's hell for humans and has a huge detrimental effect on your health and lifespan. Being a man (rather, being a human) is not about struggling with everything yourself, but it is about creating a life for yourself so you don't think a person you've seen 3 times is your emotional soulmate.
The reason I've included gender is bc deep down, the people we see in the world that look like females spend anywhere from a fair amount of their day to a majority of their day acting and feeling like a man in the world. Most of the guys posting in here, their main issue is acting too much like a girl. Being too clingy, needy, emotional, etc...
I'm speaking to the guys that post here about role reversals so they can hopefully see that in taking on the female role and pushing themselves on a girl, they're forcing her to act/be/feel like even more of a man which just pushes the girl away even more.
Yea sure, it is as simple as Person A wants sex and Person B wants more at just a surface level, however when Person B is posting here asking what went wrong and how to fix it...I find it prudent to let him know the truth which is he's acting like a bitch which is forcing the girl to take on the man's role in the short relationship. She however would prefer to feel like a woman so she will need someone that knows how to BE a man around her.
Here's the kicker. All this worrying this guy is doing about keeping this girl around and not losing her. If he was just BEing a man and living his life, content with himself, not dumping all his emotions onto her but was available to let her dump her emotions on him(assuming they aren't too insane/burdening)if he feels like dealing with it. This girl wouldn't leave him alone, but he wouldn't really care that much either way. He'd be happy with her or without her, it just wouldn't matter that much in the long run.