Bring something unique, not just the regular stuff that everyone does, show her some thought.

Except if you found out by stalking her, that'd be rather creepy, but let's assume you just happened to know from talking to someone else about it.

Go get it tiger

Bringing a gift/flowers would be creepy. She didn't tell you it was her birthday and you barely know her.

Bring nothing but condoms and money, she wants that dirty birthday sex.

Assuming you found about it through normal means go to a bar that serves desert and order a desert discretely(to surprise her) then split it. Dont make them sing happy birthday though, obv.

I wouldnt bring a gift.

Definitely no gift/flowers. Acknowledging it or not depends on how you found out.

100% agree on no gift. Way too much too soon.

Good sign that she cancelled her other plans if you're into her, though.

This is the best suggestion given so far.

If she tells you it's her birthday while you're at a restaurant that does some smoozy happy birthday song and you DON'T make them embarrass her then you sir have no sense of humor.

you've never brought a girl flowers on a date? this isn't a tinder**** palooza

I honestly find it ridiculous that you write paragraphs on paragraphs concerning deep emotional analysis and thought and then proceed to say that bringing flowers is creepy. Mind boggling.

Meh I agree with him. I've never bought flowers for a girl I wasn't exclusive with. My current gf and I talked about something like this awhile ago and she agreed it comes off as needy and trying too hard. Obviously some girls would love it though.

Ya seems like no flowers will never hurt you so why choose a higher variance strat.

Flowers is almost always horrible if you're not official, not even close.

There isn't that much to say about it. It's pretty creepy if you think you need to bring flowers or a gift to impress a girl you barely know. Have you ever considered she wants to be with a guy that she felt like she needed to impress, that she wanted to win over, and be chosen by? As soon as you give her flowers/gift you become a guy that's trying to impress her and no longer fall into any of those categories by default. Of course she would thank you multiple times, tell you how nice and thoughtful you are, and at the same time lose respect and attraction for you.

She already canceled plans with her friends to go out with him, she's already chasing him. Why would it ever be a good idea for him to start chasing her and make her doubt whether he's worth her time in pursuing him by reversing the roles?

Anyone else think it was weird of her to drop her plans to hang out with a guy she barley
t knows on her bday?

For sure

Yea a bit but not surprising. I would expect a girl with low self esteem to do something like that. The bigger the plans she canceled the lower her self esteem probably is that she would cancel to get validation from some guy she likes. There really isn't anything else that her actions could mean considering she's known him for 1.5 weeks, it's just a matter of what level of neediness is going on.

And the fact that he's thinking about getting her a gift after 1.5 weeks means he's likely a needy guy himself which she probably picked up on and realizes she will get plenty of validation from him. The problem is this can never work w/o both people remaining needy and co-dependent. A girl with higher self esteem doesn't want a guy that tries to impress her or feels the need to impress her and on top of that she also doesn't want a guy that's easily impressed by her...she wants a challenge and wants to feel like she has to win the guy over.

She wants to get laid.

Well then I think the ole Dick in the box is the perfect gift

Lolz

Lucid,

Still waiting for you to post a picture of yourself.

and all the 9/10 chicks you have banged.

Even if that higher self-esteem comment were true, most girls do not seem to have high self-esteem.

That's because you are only able to attract women with low self esteem. If you would just present them a challenge you would get all the confident 10s.

G's host mom was out of town so she invited me over last night. Helped me update my resume (she's a graphic design major) while we drank wine and listened to music. Had some awesome sex then passed out.

Got 5 hours of sleep and hustled home, leaving now to catch a flight to Rome for the week of "winter break" with my friend from back in California. Should be a dope vacation.

fwiw I agree with what he said. Most women prefer a chase from my experience. Ever notice the girls that you dont seem to care about are the ones that tend to be more into you? when you remove your attention from some women they get curious and chase more. I dont think it has anything to do with high or low self esteem, i think its more human nature to want something we cant have