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Right next to it actually.

Quick question. Ran into an ex-roommate while going out tonight. Before, we were acquinted but nothing more than that. Shallow friends I guess. She approached me and after a few hello's told me she broken up with her boyfriend (first guy she had sex with and been together for a long time) two weeks ago.
I was pretty happy with that but obv didnt show. We were both very touchy which I would interpret as being interested, but when she was my roommate she didnt seem that interested which confused me. Also she was def a bit drunk. Touching was in a way that the next step would be going some place quiet together but didnt trust my read so invited her to my goodbye party tomorrow night instead.

(i go study abroad for 6 months and tomorrow is my last night here)

Two problems. Any way to differentiate friendly roommate banter and touching with actual sexual touching?
And since I left my room I have no place to go if things go well. I would crash at a friend but obv thats not an option then. Go for a hotel or her place?

If your story is accurate she likely would've banged you tonight. Actively told you she broke up with her boyfriend without you asking and was escalating physically. But your question about differentiating between friendly and sexual banter does leave some room to be skeptical.

Just re-open where things left off the previous night. No need to get ahead of yourself and start planning where you'd go, that'll work itself out in the moment.

"Actively" seems a bit of a stretch considering they're ex-roommates. A stranger talking about a recent breakup is much different than friends catching up on life.

1. She wasnt interested cause she had a bf and wasnt gonna stir the pot
2. She straight up tells you she broke up with her bf
3. She was flirting and touchy feely with you


Bro

Well, I don't have any successes with women to report, but I've been crushing the gym, am dressing like a boss every time I go out, and have been forcing myself to go out at night on my own and talk to people in the bar with no expectation of any outcome.

I'm still a bit meek in bars, but I'm getting better.

I know I'm supposed to take a few months to work on myself and this for many may not include going out, but for me, getting over my social anxiety is probably the toughest thing I have to work on, so going out in an outcome independent way is helpful, I hope.

+1

Good work Brad, sounds like you are putting in the effort. Keep grinding and the results will come.

She was always pretty open about everything going on in her life, so I read less into the fact that she told me about her break-up.
She has a few deadlines tonight and told me she was not planning on going out, but that she would try her best to make it. If she manages to come and is flirty again I guess I have my answer.

Thanks for the responses everyone

She couldnt make it tonight because of her deadlines. Too bad, guess I will never know.

Moving to Shanghai soon. Interesting new environnement. If anyone has some tips let me know.

If you like Asian girls, you will like it.

Going out on a date tonight. We havent spoken a lot on Tinder which is good. I know the basic stuff about her but not much more than that so hopefully we will have something to tall about. I asked her out for drinks but was unsure if she expected us to eat, guess ill find out. Standard is i buy first drink, right? Then see how it continues.

Hopefully having a date tomorrow as well but unsure if she has friendzoned me already or if she is insecure because she asked if another girl friend wanted to join us as well.

"Date" tomorrow is take your gay friend out for a drink night for her.

You should absolutely be buying the first drink and probably all of the other ones too.

Its our joint friend and she is not gay lol

I think he was referring to you as the gay one. Saying she views you as just another girl or something along those lines

Lame

Not good she asked another girl to go,that is not a date,especially if she didn't ask you if it was OK.
But go,impress her and try to bang the third wheel.
Ya nevah know,might be a penthouse letter in it

Actually she asked me if it was okay. she wrote like "ask emma?".

Will TR yesterdays date as well later.

If you agreed to letting her 3rd wheel friend come along you just shot yourself in the foot and told her everything she needed to know about you...her even trying to invite a friend along is already telling enough that she either doesn't think it's a date/want it to be a date or she wants to have a threesome with you. I'm guessing it's the former however

Its not much I can do about it really.

Anyway yesterday went decent. Both me and her were a bit late and met up outside the restaurant. We went in and I thought the place was really empty but the bar was on the second floor and was pretty crowded. Shes been there before so she takes the lead and finds us a spot that is relatively empty. Immediately when we went into the bar I felt like such a gamma male and I wonder how the hell I got a date with a 8. Anyway we sit down and I ask what she likes and go order two mojitos. I was really nervous but I could tell she was a bit tipsy because she had been doing a quiz with some friends.

We chat about everything from golf and ping pong to how males and females are different when it comes to argument and solving problems. (Wtf) During the conversation a company of guys sits down at the table next to us and I could see they were looking at us and probably thinking how the hell a guy like me could date that girl. After one hour I order a glass of wine for us and we chat for a total of 2.5 hours. I felt that we connected, we laughed and discussed serious things.

At this point she is a bit more than tipsy. She gets a call from a girl friend that is really drunk and needs help. Yeah, I know this sounds like the standard getaway. But I could tell from the atmosphere and that she actually didnt escape like it sounds. I believe her. We are going in the same direction and I give her a hug when we split. It felt like a good date considering i am not used to it. My plan is to wait 2-3 days and then message her. If she doesnt respond or are short Ill just leave it.

I meet up with my friends and we drink some and go out. All I could think about was being a alpha male and I have no ****ing idea how to behave like one. All girls that wanna sex with me are to ugly and the girls that I want to sex with dont want to.

But im positive!

Waiting 2-3 days is not necessary but do whatever you're comfortable with. A huge % of girls IME are going to text YOU that night or the next morning if they had a good time. If I don't receive that message from the girl, it's typically a bad sign (IME).

From my experience i agree with LT22, It doesn't matter when you text if she has high attraction for you. Also if the goal is to not appear needy by waiting 2-3 days then it wont matter as long as youre not needy. If youre needy but wait for 2-3 days, your neediness will still show somehow because you're needy. Do what i do and text her when you feel like it.

Well,the first post I wrote didn't show up,I guess .Went clubbing with two exes.
It's not going good.
One is soo drunk she's puking her guts out.
The other is crying about her last boyfriend.
I dunno if I can salvage the night.