Update: Pathetically, even after being flaked on twice and going three weeks with no contact, I texted her inviting her out to a bar on Wednesday night. She responded instantly: "That sounds awesome!," but ten seconds later said, "Unfortunately, I have dinner plans with Jamie [her best friend]" Event started at 9:30, and this exact flake formula has been used on me before.

I deleted her number from my phone. I feel pathetic doing this, it's incredibly immature, but I know at some point I would have contacted her again. On to the next.

It's not bad. You took a shot, she clearly has no interest, you delete the number. Perfect execution.

I blocked and deleted SDSU's this year and currently ignore my first gf. Life is crazy complicated. She didn't "win" or you "lose".

Considering we all have a poker background and know that the best players in the world have like a 52-54% winning session rate we should all be accustomed to losing as not really losing, if that makes sense.

I found personally for me I like to accomplish something before asking out another girl. Like the two girls who flaked day of my tinder/bumble dates pretty recently rocked my confidence, when that happened I'll do something like ok I'm going to workout for 5 days straight before I ask another girl. Or I'll buy a new shirt before I go out with friends to bars. It just helps me think something changed and I'm not in a rut.

Good post, 52-54 is not really true though

Depends how long your sessions are

The source was Isaac Haxton on Joe Ingrams podcast but I may be butchering the quote. I googled it but it's a bunch of noobs saying 60%. Maybe it was only applicable to nosebleed hsnl

Yeah don't sweat it Brad, I've done similar stuff before and it feels bad. But the thing is just keep talking to more girls that way you wont just be hung up on her.

This really is so important. Need to at least have 2 or 3 things going on at once. Way too easy to obsess over the little stuff otherwise.

Talked with a girl yesterday and asked her out for drinks, she accepted. ��

Spoke with another girl today, the friend that I wasnt sure if I would ask out to screw our friendship. She kinda asked me out tomorrow.

Thinga turned around pretty quickly. Hope the rungood continues

Thanks for input!

Good ****. The problem with you has been a lack of confidence. You just need to go out on dates, and it'll work out.

I'm a driver, im a winner. Things are gonna change. I can feel it

I just found this girl from this post in 2012 on fb. She has a fb post in 2013 saying she just went to her first AA meeting lol. I kept going to see if I ever TR but I didn't so maybe ill do a fbf and write it soon. I'm leaving now for a friend's birthday dinner.

Also this was the following TR from that era. We dun grown up

You look like "dad" to them. They know you are 35+. Unless you are wealthy or really ripped and handsome, focus on women your own age. Girls that adore the teacher are mostly using the teacher's reaction as a hedge against failing.

Oh god. Shes coming home to me. Im so friggin nervous.

And I have to clean...

Alpha male mode: ON

She came here. We went out to buy candy and then went to my place. We watched some tv and talked a lot. Shes a super chill girl so directly when she came (lol) my nervousness stopped. I gave her one compliment but didnt kiss her or anything because I dont know how she feels. As you know by now I am super bad at taking up signals but I am not sure I got any. All in all we had a good time and laughed alot and we will hang out tomorrow morning with a quiz activity.

You're gonna get yourself friend zoned again if you don't make a move. Stop waiting for girls to tell you/show you how they feel before you express that you like them. You're still running from rejection. Be physical and flirty and if she doesn't stop you, pull away, or give you a weird look....she likes it most likely. But regardless of any of that don't be afraid to make mistakes and learn from them. You're not gonna get better with girls by playing it safe....if you play it that way, if you're lucky you'll get a pity kiss and if you're really lucky you'll get a pity ****, then you'll be so excited you'll try to make her your gf and get super depressed when she runs from you after pity ****ing you. Guys that are really good with girls are great leaders, they lead the interaction in almost every way and make it easy for the girl to follow.

But good job on everything else and keep pushing through your fears!

Brief TR last night:

Went to a friend's birthday. I could tell I was thinking about pulling because after 3 drinks at first bar I purposely had a water. Get to second bar around 10ish, drunk friend sees a group he knows and him and this girl just start going out. They're with a group so I join. The table is kind of awkward because the two are like grabbing boobs and dick over his pants and stuff but it's fun. Then at one point this gay guy/lesbian girl (Asian so idk) I'm sitting next to says you should go sit at the other side of the table.

For like 2seconds I'm like wtf did I do to make you hate me? Then I realized oh this other girl was sitting there and went to the bathroom and they probably talked about her wanting me. So I sit and she comes back and sits by me and our legs touch so I know I'm in. We keep drinking and <20min later making out.

My friend leaves with the girl he knows back to his place. Around 1am I text him asking for his address. He's solid and let's me bring her back to his place. I put on my smash playlist off my phone and we hookup. Got condoms out of his roommates room who wasn't there. I never came because lol_condoms but she blew me a lot but didn't like go deep. But whatevs was fun. She was like half Asian half something, pretty cute.

She woke me up at 7am saying she needs a ride back to her car before work or school at 9am so Ubered there, kissed and she said text me soon. Spent $115 on the night+ubers but my friend spent more and then got hit with a $100 bodily fluid fee on his Uber back lol, he blacked out so he has no idea how.

Going out again rn for ufc and warriors game but I only have like $80 on me.

Also TB sent me the most fireeee video of her in like stalkings under her skirt for this dinner she's throwing. I may post a screenshot of it on my Twitter that doesn't show her face because God damn it still blows my insecure middle school self mind

Good job, but doing stuff in the morning right after meeting sounds like a 1 way ticket to friend zone. Its better to do stuff in the evening or night if youre trying to hook up with a girl.

Also when you feel like making a move just make a move, dont think about it in your head just do it.

Well, we decided this morning activity way before we decided to hang out yesterday evening.

Had a fun time today as well. Felt like making a move when she dropped me off but we were sitting in the car so the situation wasnt optimal, I just gave her a hug. She wanted me to download a series that we could watch together. I definetely need to make a move if she comes over this week!

Valentines is next sunday, If I havent made a move then is sending her flowers out of the question?

again you keep thinking about the situation before making a move, why does it matter if youre in a car? You keep making excuses because youre scared of rejection, you will soon learn that sometimes theres no perfect moment and all it really takes is courage. The longer you wait to make a move the quicker her attraction will drop.

and dont buy her flowers.

Got it.

Have another date planned on friday or saturday. Will try giving more compliments and not think about the situation in advance. But when you say kiss you mean a kiss on the cheek? We're going out for drinks.

Stop worrying about/counting the number of compliments you give this girl. Ask yourself honestly...do you think anyone is referring to a kiss on the cheek? You know the answers to these questions, you're just over analyzing.

Weekend TR:

Thursday night I went to a pre-party hosted by French students from a local university. For 8 euro you got entry in to their party (rented out a big venue and made their own bar), a mixed drink, and entry into a club which is normally 10 euro. The event was for their "cheerleading" team which isn't even a thing in France but I guess they made one. Was an awesome night cause it was my first time really interacting a lot with French kids my age. Super easy to approach French girls by just asking them a basic question in French and then them instantly realizing my French sucks and we start talking in English haha.

Club was fun and bought a couple drinks for BOGO so was pretty turnt. Didn't really go for any girls but a girl I'm decently attracted to told me she knew I was in to her roommate which I'm not, but I understand where she is coming from. Felt like I should give her the cold shoulder for a bit and then initiate some other time.

Did some stuff working for my school Friday and hit it off with one of the TA's. She is 24 and went to my same college 3 years ago. She invited me to pregame at her apartment which we did with a couple of other friends. She brought some of her French friends and apparently one of them got jealous when the other one was talking with me? Nice ego boost to hear that girls were arguing about which one could talk/hook up with me.

Anyways we go to a club at 2-3am and I'm catching the TA's vibes pretty hard. We dance and make out at the club and then head to her apartment around 4:30am. End up smashing at her place. Had unreal endurance even with no condom and she was super in to it. She had been saying how the French guys she had banged were all terrible and I really stepped up to the plate haha. Feels good because I've had some rough patches in the past where I was in my head a lot psyching myself out, but my last 6 months have been a huge upswing. Slept at her place until 2 in the afternoon and made "breakfast" which was soooo good cause I can't cook at my place.

Went out again last night but was a bit worn down from the previous two nights. Had a decent time and drank a good amount but just didn't have the energy I did before. Still was fun, but slept like 10 hours today haha. First time I can remember going out 3 nights in a row in a long time, 'twas an awesome weekend.

Nice. Wear a condom

Yeah... need to work on that. In the moment if I don't have one I pretty much always say w/e and do it which is obv stupid. Need to just buy a bunch and not worry about it.