maybe I'm crazy but I think her face looks perfect too, easy 10/10

Was I linked to a different girl? She's ****ing stunning!

Bonafide dime. No question.

6 maybe

Pelas >>>>>>>>>> other

A+

just going to cliff my life and day as it's been a while since i posted much here

i think most of you know or i posted about dating S and then S2 - and I think I posted about meeting my neighbor girl and we became a thing.

As I do, we ended up dating for idk 8 or 9 months. last few months it's been shaky. i never got to the point of saying the ily to her (though I think thats a long relationship for not) but she clearly wanted to.

she's an alcoholic. no other way to put it. i think she's often not too bad but then she has days she just drinks for no reason and then we end up having a near-breakup experience due to her crazy drunk talking. this happened more and more frequently over the past few months. the feelings i did have for her have been slipping more and more, and i let the relationship drag as i tend to do since im a pussy.

then today happened..

i play with this random tennis group - mostly dudes but definitely a good number of chicks. i dont play w/ them super often

theres one girl who ive seen play a bunch but never really talked to her.

today we "met" for the first time, just normal tennis things but im def into her and she seems to be flirty back.

i get home, doing my normal thing and she fb adds me, i accept cause why not, and she opens me on messenger. we talk a bit and it gets obviously flirty, i get her number and she basically invites herself on a date with me.

at this point, im feeling guilty. though NG (neighbor girl) and I have been struggling of sorts i still think it's bad.

******heres where i want some opinions if i handled correctly:
- feeling guilty toward both of these girls. ironically at this time my gf asks to come over (she was pissed about another little nonsense thing)
-i quickly end the convo with tennis girl and give her reason/tell her to text me tomorrow (confident she will or I just will, w/e)
-NG comes over, hangout a bit, talk and i get into the break up conversation. she seems very against it today though like less than 2 weeks ago we've had the talk and she was leading the charge at that time.
-i make it clear i dont think anything will change, and we break up. gather her things and she goes. its awkward and i hate break ups.


thoughts?

i dont know what im doing with my life.

OH AND ALSO:
so I never tell my parents anything about my life, we never were super close but I am working on that as I do think it's important. so I text my dad adn tell them.

there response, and I quote: "We think u should reconsider."

thanks for the support! but she's a nice person and they liked her, so i am not making anything of that. just a fun fact.

did meeting tennis girl play a large part in you initiating the break up? I mean every relationship gets rocky but if it's not worth it anymore to you than you probably made a good call. in a few days you'll know if it was an impulsive decision or not.

as far as your parents' advice goes, do they know about her excessive drinking/belligerent behavior? if you never really came to them for advice, I'd imagine they don't know a whole lot about how you are in relationships, which subsequently makes their advice kinda weak IMO.

I'd say hold off on doing anything with tennis girl, at least for a couple weeks just incase you change your mind about NG. seems like she's not going anywhere

actually forget all that, have sex with tennis girl and see how u feel after

Your relationship needed to end. If it wasn't tennis girl that was the straw that broke the camel's back it would've been something else. Go enjoy tennis girl and don't get back with the ex. If you're not close with your parents I wouldn't put much value in their opinion because they don't know you or the relationship that well (neither do I obviously but you probably give details here that you leave out to your non-close parents). Oh and don't date alcoholics.

Shes very much closet alcoholic so it took months to realize.

I'm a pretty stereotypical overthinker so chances I want to get back with NG are damn close to 0. Just how I work.

Yep, +1 to all of this, especially not putting any weight in what they think about this. The most important thing is that you are happy, and it sounds like you were not and just going through the motions to avoid an awkward breakup or hurting her feelings.

As a side note, i think you gotta be 24-25 by now, right? If you're in an exclusive relationship for 9 months and you haven't said I love you or talked about being really serious at least that's a sign you shouldn't be in that relationship IMO. That's a pretty long time to waste on a girl that you prob have no future with and the lack of commitment would likely cause problems with any girl. This even disregarding the fact that she's an alcoholic which should pretty much be an immediate sign you should end it (especially if you are not serious about the relationship)

Go have some fun with tennis girl/other girls and try not to dive into an exclusive relationship too soon again

Yeah mullen that middle paragraph hits it on the head. I knew it was going nowhere. She wanted to keep trying but nothing was going to change. I'm 25, none of my last 3 relationships have got to the ily stage though this one and one other the girl pressed for it.

Sucks to hear man, you handled it well though +1 to scrolls and mullen too

surprised it hasnt been said yet...

yous an alcoholic, i dont got no time for you - Keith "Chief Keef" Cozart

College football is almost here thank god

Go Noles GO Rams

Great evidence for the fact that most people have no idea what they want. And the whole nice guy vs ******* thing is so ****in stupid.

I believe many people don't even take the time to think about what they want. I sure didn't when I was in my low to mid 20s.

The best part is like 1:26 anyway "I like baddd bitchessss"

Also its just entertainment its in Tallahassee lol

Yea, it's a somewhat silly argument that has been played out 100k times but there is def some relevance to it. It just comes down to the emotional impact you leave on a girl. Nice guys don't create much emotional impact which is what girls are ultimately addicted to.

Canna - long term i do know what i want. The harrd part is being ready/knowing ur there

Yeah I feel ya. Keep trucking. You'll get there.

Thoughts on taking my sisters best friend on first date to a pay n play golf course and after grab a coffee?

fyi: I play golf, she used to play like 10 years ago

Date last night went hella well.

Will just cliff it but basically she was wearing tiny shorts and a sad excuse for a shirt. It was like just a layer of lacy/silky material with open back - I'm sure it's more common in warmer areas but never see em in the Midwest.

Within 2 hours we had made and ate dinner, watched some random shows (but mostly talking/bantering) and got into the bedroom. Had sex 3 times thruout the night. Was a really good time.

She's going for her doctorates and is hell smart too apparently, no idea how a chick like this has fallen into my lap

To quote Mike Stud "Ya never know"

But for real glad it was awesome and a fun time man