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Originally Posted by Henry17
It is always very hard to go above your level. If you went straight brute force you'd have some success but that is a really terrible idea. The much better approach is to get to their level. You said you're a 6 -- what would it take for you to be a 7? Do that. Once you're at a 7 repeat the process. The idea is not to try to go above your level but rather to raise your level to the degree required to get the type of girls you want.
The biggest obstacle is being honest and accurate in the initial evaluation and then in the list of what is required.
Yeah I think it's pretty tough. I mean if I keep hitting the gym I should eventually get an extra 0.5-1 point, but its hard work. Apart from that it's hard. My wardrobe has improved a ton in the last year but I think it probably went from a -0.5 points to marginally positive, as people dress pretty well here.
I feel like the main thing to improve on is becoming for lack of a better word 'cooler' or more 'alpha' and that's pretty tough. Get me one on one with a girl and I do pretty well because I become cocky, I'm reasonably funny, I make decent money and I have decent stories because I've done quite a lot of stuff, but I find none of this stuff is useful in a bar cold approaching a girl who is better looking than me.
Again, it's not like I feel like I'm bad with girls but there is definitely a ton of improvement to be made, and a lot of it is stuff that you can't tangibly see, which makes it tough.
I feel like the bar scene just might not be my thing (and again, I do OK, but not amazingly). I'm actually going to try online dating and will report back (sorry Henry). I feel like once I'm on the date i'm gold, it's just getting the date in the first place where I struggle. I think I've been on 4 dates lifetime, all with girls better looking than me, and I'm 3/4 for sex and 4/4 for a second date. I just don't go on enough clearly.
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Actually something I was thinking of doing. Been thinking about it a lot and I think I'm just too young to miss out on a such a cool experience because of a relationship. Thanks for confirming the right course of action.
This is the best decision you will ever make, UNLESS you are convinced you want to marry this girl (which you shouldnt be).