If you are not monogamous then don't act petty. Judge this woman by her actions, not her words: if she continues to have sex with you then she is just fine with you the way you are, don't mention anything about other girls and continue to enjoy yourself. If she stops and mentions things about you being "too serious" then you can mention other girls - until then it really just comes across as you being petty or slighted... which is exactly what someone casually having sex doesn't want in a partner.

I mean, I don't blame her - she told me from the start (you read the msgs we exchanged, right?) that she was looking to get married but was happy to casually date or whatever until she met Mr. Right, and when we went out one of the things we talked about was our dating experiences, and I think when she mentioned she had a date w/ someone coming up I asked her to tell me how it went.

Age difference didn't bother me. She's smart and sophisticated, age gap might have made it a little harder to relate in certain areas but we still clicked decently in others and had fun.

Well then what is her telling me about her dates? I mean, like I said, it doesn't bother me, but I don't understand why me reciprocating makes me petty or slighted or w/e.

We didn't have sex on our first date, btw, just made out at the bar and she dropped me off at home.

yah u definitely gotta go younger then that

if im on a first date with someone and they start talking about other dates they have i would tell her to cut it out and or leave or not pay for her.

what if she told you about the dude she let rail her blackout drunk the night before 6 hours before you are supposed to go out with her?

im a fish imo

fyp

we are all fish

I mean, even if you know from the start she's gonna be dating other people and that your relationship can never get serious?

Discussing your dates with other people is what friends who do not have sex do. Like there is nothing more friend zone than talking about your respective efforts to sleep with 3rd parties.

If you really want to have a chance to bang this chick, don't ever mention that you have dates, but just be busy from time to time with things you don't invite her to.

Thanks Fly, that's a good way of putting it, I see what you're saying now.

I guess now I need to figure out how to retrain her view of us from "yay let's talk about dates we go on w/ other people" to "look, let me know when you find your husband but until then let's just focus on us".

This is very good advice IMO.

lol some girl just spelled it out for me that she wants to **** tonight. after "relieving myself" i reevaluated and decided i didn't want to arrange it tonight (she lives 15-20minutes away and like i posted earlier i still don't have my license loll). i sent some text about rain checking but not flaking etc. she sent this:
we just couldn't be too loud
we just couldn't be too loud
we just couldn't be too loud
we just couldn't be too loud
we just couldn't be too loud
we just couldn't be too loud

wat

wat @ ur whole post. I mean I get it, after you rub one out you don't wanna work as hard for it, but you're taking pussy to a whole new level

edit- ************** I just remembered that I gave you my number so you can send drunk texts. Get this girl to text me **************

the quote in different colors is a bbv thing i thought posters would get

but this is SL

[ ] BBV4Life

[x] checkboxes belong in BBV

[ ] correct

[ ] you guise are cool

[x] Vintage is pretending to be aloof because he realized that his mancrush on Karak was becoming too overt

[ ] LKJ does [x]'s correctly

=)

I do get it. I was joking at how obvious it was.

I'm pretty goddamn upset that I've given advice to like two people in this thread and people are all "oh that's good stuff" but I continue to accumulate a neverending string of epic fails in my personal life. It's poker all over again, I post better than I play.

fly same with karak you arent alone

I think it's safe to say that I post better than I play too, considering that I'd have to be a pretty ****ing terrible poster for that not to be the case.