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Originally Posted by cplo42
Its hard to articulate why, but it is not this. This happens to me all the time, but in those cases its more like "eh, id do it again, but im not all that excited anymore", where in this one its more like "ugh, how did I ever find her attractive" when I realize that I definitely used to, and objectively shes pretty attractive.
Yea, might be pretty situational in your case, maybe something she said or did or how she acted. I do think though that your point does have some validity and that a "friend zone" does exist to some extent. Its just more a personal thing that you have to judge on a case by case basis.
The funny thing is that sometimes stuff happens and you just know that you could never ever hookup with a girl ever. For instance, I was once getting a know a girl, took quite a while to become good friends (all the while I thought we might be moving towards hooking up or something more) until one night we just had a long conversation about all sorts of meaningful things and we ended up sharing quite a bit with each other. I left that conversation knowing that I had pretty much sacrificed all shot of hooking up with her. In the end it was good to have a another close friend, but sometimes unsaid and unintentional things happen to effectively lock you out forever.