i found the worst part of it was the rule of not being able to take a leak otherwise you are disqualified....effing sucks

just bring it up. if you dont you will regret it.

my situation girl- we are still dating aorn- and i didnt have that talk before break, she didnt know where i was at and banged a guy over break a few times thinking i was doing the same. dont let that happen to you because it sucks.

Only at Tech.

We'll teach you how to drink if you ever come out to Athens.

We played that you could take a leak on multiples on 25, but if you aren't back by the 26, you incur a penalty shot for every 10 seconds that you're late.

I could never do that. I have the smallest bladder known to man. When I'm drinking I need to pee every 30 minutes. It's horribly annoying.

yeah seriously karak is a vag when it comes to peeing

Depends on the size of the shot glasses too. More often than not those that manage the centurian have patheticly sized shot glasses.

Girl A got dropped twice in cheerleading practice yesterday and now has a slight limp lol.

go get your prey while she is weak

man once the floodgates open with me, its game over and yea its every 30 mins

tackle the gazelle!

Yeah wtfff at not peeing for a full power hour, after my seal breaks (usually 4 beers in or so) I just have to go every 15 min or so lol

edit - maybe exaggerating a bit but it's A LOT

Alright need some advice.

So I'm in high school, and just recently me and this girl have started talking more and more through texting, Facebook IM , in person etc. Now she's always been in the same group of friends as me, and I've known her for a while, but I never really considered her to be girlfriend material until recently. She's a really great girl, a lot of fun to be around and I think I'm really starting to like her. I just can't tell if she's actually into me though. Prior to this, she dated one of my best friends for around two months during the summer. I really don't think my friend would mind if I dated her, they really don't seem to get along now anyway. So me and a bunch of friends, including her, were planning on going to the movies this weekend. The guy she dated will not be there. What's the best way to get her alone and tell her how I feel about this whole thing, and see if she likes me back? What's the best way to word it? Should I just come right out with it and say "I think I'm starting to like you" and see how she reacts? When's the best time to do it because I kinda wanna stay away from any akwardness if I have to?

Thanks for your help.

im about the same, but a centurion is essentially ~8 beers, so by the time ur done 4, just man it up for the other 4 lol

im usually concerned about my stomach too much to pay attention to my bladder

Why don't you invite her out where it is just the two of you instead of you and a group ?

I was thinking of asking her to go to a different movie with it being just us. What's the best way to tell her I like her and see what her thoughts are though?

cut a hole in the bottom of the popcorn bag and "show her how you feel"

i swear if i find out you're a gimmick

lmao

that kinda sucks . i haven't hooked up with anyone since i posted about the girl from out of town i think like 3-4 weeks ago. i got sick for a week and now i'm talking to a girl i want to date and don't want to start the relationship off like that. but i'm 100% sure she's not hooking up with anyone so that makes it easier.

because it's highschool. he probably doesn't have a car. just go to a sporting event with her or like a play. once your officially together i'm sure you'll both be comfortable coming to each others houses. then just constantly **** because that's all the relationship is good for at this point. oh and for girls your just a for sure date for prom which means everything to them.

seemed too real of a story to me. exactly how a highschooler would think imo.

DONT TELL GIRLS YOU LIKE THEM JUST ASK THEM OUT

haha no this is a real situation and why to the above

My Story coming up in a second... gotta pee first....but IT'S DEEP

THIS TIMES 1000.

The ONLY exception is those times you are SURE she likes you back. Then you can tell her you like her. However, since you are hayyyy and not knowyourenemy, DO NOT TELL HER YOU LIKE HER.

It's just creepy, unless you can make it romantic. And the only way you can make it romantic is if the feeling is mutual.

Probably not the right thread for this, but if you relationship guru's can help me out I'd greatly appreciate it..


Here's the situation.

I met this girl who I'll refer to as "Cat" in high school. She was a sophomore and I was a Senior. I was 18 years old and on probation, she was 15 and a great person....We met through "Band Camp" I was her section leader (we both played saxophone)

I made my feelings clear, and unfortunately she told me that a relationship wouldn't work out, when she was little her father cheated on her mother and she grew up without him in her life..and she didn't trust guys. I told her no problem, and we were friends. A few months later, we ended up getting together, and had a 4 year relationship. (off and on..mostly on) We were each other's "first love"

We did everything together those four years together. It wasn't easy having 2 years of our relationship be long distance due to me going away to college, but we made it through.

Baggage- Personal baggage was a pretty big issue in our relationship. I had a rocky relationship with my parents, I attempted suicide often, had drinking problems, and as i had said, i was probation...

Her baggage, was the fact that she didn't trust guys, and she cut, (slit her wrists and other parts of her body)

as much as it was a good relationship at times, we also had our breaks...

Once my freshman year ended, she was still in school, and we ended up breaking up.The day she got out of school, i took her on a date to the amusement park, (where we shared lots of memories prior to this date) we ended up flirting, and when we got back to my truck, things got pretty physical, (if you know what i mean hehe)

After that happend, however she told me we weren't gong to be getting back together, but could be friends....everyday we'd talk she'd remind me our relationship was over and it was never going to happen again..


Enter Kt- Kt was Cat's best friend. She was also my best friend, and she knew how much I had been struggling and for how long I had been struggling over me and cat breaking up. One day she invited me over her pad while her parents were out, I accepted...we ended up showering together and getting pretty physical.


..Although Cat and I had broken up and she had told me "Never again" things didn't turn out to be "Never Again." We ended up starting to casually date, and eventually made our way back into a relationship. At one point she broke down crying telling me she had overheard someone saying how Nick and KT took a shower together, during the time me and her were broken up...I told her it wasn't true, she believed me life went on.


I told her a year later, we broke up for a while, but then got back together and we had a steady relationship for the next 2 years.



Fast forward to March 09. - In March cat found out that her karate instructor was getting a divorce. She took this pretty hard because she looked to him as the dad she never had...My sister ironically was dating her karate instructors son and I knew that that he was getting a divorce because he cheated on his wife.

Cat asked me why they were getting divorced, and she said please dont tell me he's like my dad...I told her I couldn't tell her that, that he did indeed cheat on his wife...Cat took it really hard and started cutting again, (she had been clean from that for well over a year)

Me and cat's relationship changed greatly after that. We went from being best friends who were in a great relationship to not telling each other anything, and basically only screwing around sexually. She started treating me pretty ****ty. (I can elaboratoe on how if you guys need to know. )

The end of April, we were spending the weekend together at her dorm. Friday night was date night, and we went out to our favorite restraunt and then back to the room to have a sexual night.

Saturday, She got piss drunk with me and all of her friends. we went back to her room and she decided she wanted to finally lose her virginity, and have me lose mine. (we hadn't had sexual intercourse the entire 4 years we were together, however we were very very sexually into foreplay.)

I told her that night, that I couldn't do that she was completely drunk, and that I'm not going to lose my virginity and more importantly take hers when she was drunk. She pleaded I told her to shutup and go to sleep, and two minutes later she passed out.

She woke up in the morning to tell me how shes never felt more respected by anyone, and how she truly loved me and wanted to get married soon blah blha blah, and that she thought it was time...we made love for the first time ever that day.

(PS- we were not a prude couple at all, we were always having foreplay staying in very very nice hotels such as The Intercontinental in Boston, and the Westin also in Boston, we showered together, etc etc we just had never had intercourse up until then)

4 days later cat told me that she had lied to me, hadn't wanted to be with me for a while, hadn't been in love with me for a while, lied to get my Virginity and now that she had it didn't want to be together anymore...


That was all in April.



June- In June we hung out, over cheesecake and talked about things not working out in our relationship, we decided we'd be friends and we had a good evening, at the end of the night however when i dropped her back off at her place, we ended up having a very long "last kiss for closure"

4 days later she called to appologise to tell me we were never getting back together, that she wasn't in love with me anymore..


August- August comes around and I have finally started to get over her and am starting to be intersted in someone else. Cat calls me often on the weekends at this time shes in MA and I am living in CT, she trys making plans often but I tell her I am busy with this other girl...One night cat decides to call me off guard on a weekday and tells me we are going to see CREED in concert, I accept, and we go to see Creed.

That night we ended up cuddling, showing affection, and then ended up having oral in my car...once the concert was over...



September- she called to appolgise saying she wasn't in love wtih me didn't want ot be wtih my etc etc...I decided enough was enough and changed my phone number, and started moving on with my life...but try as I might i wasn't able to. In november I contacted her, she didn't reply until the night before christmas eve asking me if we can spend the holidays together...we did we ended up hooking up and took a few day trips together.. yet she told me were never gettting back together, (at this point however she knew I was moving out to the west coast wehre I currently am living. )



January- January me and cat have a serious conversation about how she keeps saying were never getting back together. She's starting to really come annoyed wtih the person I've become, in the last few months I became addicted to alcohal (drinking to the point of being drunk every night), weed, started smoking cigs, and for the last 3 months had truly just wanted to die.

A heart to heart? The last night I spoke to cat in January over the phone, I told her i truly loved her and wanted to be together again, she told me never again and that we could be friends....However shortly after she burst down in tears over the phone and said "Nick, can i ask u something? I said sure., she said How do you expect me to give you my heart? How am i supposed to truly let you in when i know how badly you want to die? The reason y i say never again is because I know how much you struggle with suicide, I need someone who i will know is going to be there for me when I wake up in the morning and who I won';t give my heart to just to have them crush it by killing themselves. I need you to change for you and not for me and not for your parents and not for anyone except for yourself, and then and only then we can have a serious discussion about us getting back together....Honestly nick us getting back together is completely dependent on YOU, and the ball is in YOUR court.


That night I called her back to tell her I had some personal **** i needed to work through and alhtough she had remained one of my biggest support systems she was also one of my biggest distractions. That i needed the rest of Jan and ALL of February to focus on me and I'd call her in march. She said not even V-day? i said no, then i said well...i guess, and she said no don't i support you doing this for you...


hence - WHERE I am now. January 31st I let go of a secret that I had been holding in for years. (Since i was 13, I am now 22)...I finally told my parents that when I was in eigth grade I was sexually molested by a church leader, and that they performed oral sex on me. (Something I have never told Cat)..I decided to quit drinking smoking and weed, the first of this month, and have stuck to it although the withdrawals are ****ing wtih my head and are crazy.

Sexual molestation, I believe changed my life and controlled it for years. that was when I first started rebelling, hating my parents, getting in trouble at schooll, I went from being an A student to failing classes....but most importantly it affected the realtionsihp I had with cat. Cat loved me unconditionally, she really did. I loved her too, but everytime we'd get too close, I'd freak out because I felt as though I was about to tell her of the molestation and I hadn't been ready to do so. Towards the very end of our relationsihp she was telling me nick I need a man not a little boy anymore, yet I knew that being a man, meant letting this secret out, and starting to heal and I still hadn't been ready....(the leader who had molested me and performed oral sex on me threatend my life if I had ever told anyone, told me he'd kill my family and whoever I told...I had believed him and to this day and am still scared....


MY Questions, if any of you read this...

Where DO I go from here?
Do I tell Cat?
Do me and Cat have a chance at restoring our relationship?
How Do I seperate what happend from the church, and from God?
How do I restore my relationship with my family?
When Do I tell Cat?


One of me and Cat's biggest problems in our relationsihp was that our good times were great and our bad times were horrible. This directly correlated to how well I was surpressing the memories of this happening. in January that last night we talked, she balled her eyes out asking me nick where did your passion for life go? Where did your passion for helping people, reaching out to the homeless, hell nick where did your passion even go for showing me that you truly love me and don't want to leave me and kill yourself?

Oh jeez, oh jeez, oh jeez. I don't think any one of us are qualified to tell you what to do here. Goddamn man.

1) I think you two have a very strong bond, and I think that at the very least, you should be honest with each other.
2) You have way more important issues than the girl.
3) You should probably be in therapy. It's good ****.
4) She's right. Until you get your life together, you guys shouldn't be dating. It might be good for you, but it's not good or fair to her.

You got some growing up to do I guess. But I think we all do.