lol, thanks, hadn't seen that before

hahaha glad I can amuse you gb

Haha, my reputation as a good poker player amongst my friends might even help my game for once.

Like I mentioned, headed to Vegas for spring break amongst a bunch of other friends, at least three different girls today who have never been there and are clueless about gambling were asking me to teach them how to play while we're there. They're mostly just going to drink and party. I'm the only one who's any kind of gambler.

Girl A: "I'm just going to hand you $50 and watch you gamble it for me while we drink."
Me: "Okay, but I'd better get something out of it if I win for you."

Girl B: "Can you give me lessons on how to win at poker while we're there?"
Me: "Umm...it'd probably be easier if you were just my arm candy while I try to take down the rest of the table."
Her: <laughs and agrees>

I don't know, anytime you're in the position of showing experience and knowing what you're doing in a situation where a girl doesn't have a clue, it seems like you're in a pretty good dynamic.

hmm going to vegas with girls.
free drinks.
girls.
you.
hmmmm.
looks like yer out of luck, sorry mate.

ha, completely forgot about that story

Let me get this straight, I am one of the worst people in the world at reading signals that a girl gives you. Most of the time I don't realise anything happened out of the ordinary until a friend points it out later and then it sometimes clicks or I deny that there were any signals

Last semester at a house party she randomly grabbed my hand and took me out to the kitchen (no real reads on this to be honest.) but we met some mutual friends in there (damn) and then proceeded to eat the good bits off of a cake. Yesterday at prelash partyish thing at my house she and her housemates came round to join in before we left for a club. It wasn't too long before she came round and started talking to me and my Italian friend and we were all flirting a little but we all went to go to the club so nothing more happened and I didn't really see her in the club at all.

The girl I originally posted in this thread about (a looooong time ago I almost forgot I mentioned her in here) is still going with her boyfriend. She's the type of girl who has always been in a relationship since she was 13. We always really connect well and have great conversations together. We even went to a music festival together with her boyfriend too. Pretty much every time we see eachother in group settings we end up having one on one conversations by accident at least one point in the evening while the rest of the group is talking about something else. When this happens at house parties I know some of my friends make a comment or two about it behind my back. I occasionally flirt a little but she's pretty conservative so I've no idea if she would be interested if she was single or not. Either way not a lot I can or want to do. Still.

Theres another girl who I usually sit next to in one of my classes who as we hadnt seen eachother for a few weeks greeted me with a hug and perhaps tried to kiss me on the cheek today, I'm not really sure as I never expected her to try that. I was at an awkward angle in the hug for her to try that anyways. She also possibly tried to invite me to a beginners salsa session tonight, not entirely sure. See if anything develops in the future. Not really likely as I only have one class a week with her and I have another class after so I can't suggest we hang out after it and we only have one mutual friend in common.

Damn that was long. I should start calling them girls A, B and C like karak to be honest.

I know it. By my count, there are three guys and like 7-8 girls. All of them attractive. Even removing the two from the equation who are in LTRs and probably wouldn't even cheat in Vegas, odds are solid.

None that I would want to date long-term, but who cares, it's ****ing Vegas.

here's a video of the night

skip to the 3 minute mark to see me get well acquainted with the floor

Just got back from the States last sunday (NY and Chicago)

And I gotta say, I feel sorry for you Americans. Might be that I was at the wrong places, but I definitely think Dutch (/Europeans) girls are better looking overall.

/flame

if shes above an 8, please tell me you took/will take her up on this. eziest in imo (unless she thinks you're ghey)

C was the only one who you talk about showing any kind of interest, and even then it's kind of confusing because you say that she "perhaps" tried to kiss you on the cheek and "possibly" tried to invite you to a salsa lesson.

Why is it that you need to hang out directly after class? She invited you to something in the evening (maybe) and you can't just ask her out?

MOTHER ****ER WHY DO I ****ING ALWAYS **** THIS **** UP. JESUS ****ING CHRIST I HAD A PERFECT SHOT TODAY. AND WHAT THE **** DOES MY ****HEAD BRAIN TELL ME TO DO? ****ING LINGER DOING NOTHING TO THE POINT WHERE IVE OVERSTAYED MY WELCOME. ****!

you broke my #1 rule

Don't ****ing linger?!

you have to be the one to leave, always leave them wanting more.
dont stick around and talk too long.
make them miss you, dont let them be the one to say "o look at the time, i got to be going".
always make them miss you, especially if its going well.

Yeah that was the plan going in.

I might be overreacting to how bad this was since it just happened.

/karanting.

Yeah I'm sorry for being vague but I because I'm so bad at reading people I'm never entirely sure.

With C, I'm about 80% sure that she tried to do this kiss and about 65% about the salsa. We got talking about it because she does it a lot and she brought up that I should give it a go and there was a beginners session that night and gave the the time and place. I said I'd think about it. She's at least an 8 imo.
I think my play is to ask if she can teach me some basics in a 1 on 1 session at some point if I'm going to follow that route.
There is no need to hang out directly after class. Thanks. For some reason I had a mind blank about that. I'll ask if she wants to do something next time I see her. Going to be hard to think of something thats casual though (apart from the salsa)..

I was actually busy that night as one of my housemates wanted me to go to kickboxing with her and another group wanted me to go to a pub quiz. I went to the pub quiz in the end and turns out girl B was going as well and was on our team. As usual we chat a lot and have a few long conversations without the rest of the group with occasional light flirting. Nothing happening here though.

Also I didn't have any smartish shoes for salsa as I lost one on a night out lol. No idea where it is. I'll have to go shopping this weekend. Sigh.

Sorry if I ramble or say too much but typing it all out seems to help me get perspective on things.

Did I figure it out?

unless you're hammered at the time, I wouldn't suggest this and stick to going to the public lessons IMO


LOL

Semi-knowing how to salsa dance is so money for some girls. Spend an hour alone locked in your room learning the steps, you'll thank me down the road.

You probably don't need to worry that much about being as casual as possible in this case. It sounds like you've already made her take some initiative, so there's no reason not to go ahead and ask her to something at least somewhat obviously date-like if nothing casual comes to mind.

With that said, since she's led you toward salsa, something semi-active (and casual) might be good, something like bowling or miniature golf where you're actively doing something but won't/shouldn't break into a sweat. That way you can continue on to asking her to grab a drink afterward or just going for a walk or something.

Man speaks the truth. Living in South America was definitely good for this if nothing else. But it does not work with every girl.

So I've read a good majority of this thread and I feel like I'm posting in here because I'm being a pussy and need confidence and encouragement to ask this girl out.

We have known of each other for almost 2 year and started talking regularly (ie not awkwardly talking) about this time last year. We went to high schools in the same district but now go to colleges about an hour apart. I would say we became pretty good friends in the summer and was always interested in her, but really wasn't sure if she put me into the potential boyfriend category or friend category.

Sometime in the fall I was at MSU (where she goes) and went to a party with some friends and while walking away from the party she grabs my hand and we walk ahead of everyone else holding hands to another party. Oh I almost forgot, she had came over the night before and while playing beerpong/drinking games we were continuously flirting/kissing. Anyway the security came to the next party and broke it up and she was scared since she is a Resident Advisor in the dorms and getting in trouble would get her in trouble with the dorms also. So I comfort her and she goes home with some friends, both of us knowing we would see each other the next weekend since she invited me and another friend of mine to Canada to celebrate her birthday along with some other people I knew, but really had never talked to.

So we got to Canada and obviously my friend and I got there earlier to grind, so I make $170 or so and tell her drinks are on me for the night. My friend and I meet her and her friends at the hotel we were staying at. We were all staying in the same room and while pregaming she clearly states that she doesn't want to hook up with anyone that night. Well anyway we go to the clubs and hold hands and dance while there. We get back to the room and I change and start passing out on the floor when she clearly tells me that I am sleeping next to her. So I get in bed with here and we obviously start making out and eventually hook up (waited until the other 7 people in the room were asleep obv).

Anyway since that night, I have had really strong feelings for her. I have seen her multiple times since then and similar things have happened. We also seem to have quite alot in common and always have a good time together.

I really want to ask her out in the next couple weeks, however I am not really sure how to go about this. It's usually customary to go on dates or w/e before becoming official which is fine with me, but I'm really not sure where to take her. I was thinking taking her to a nice place for dinner then out to a party or something, then hopefully back to her place, but I would really like other suggestions/lines.

I know this post sounds ******ed and ppl are going to say "ZOMG ur so in/grow a pair" but it really is a confidence issue and could really use some extra motivation.

TLDR
Cliffs: Attracted to a girl ive know for a while, very flirty with each other, have hooked up, kissed multiple times, need advice on asking her out

Thanks

ZOMG ur so in/grow a pair!

You could just start hanging out with her one on one. Invite her over, go to an intimate bar, go for dinner, etc. After a little of that, I guess could have a talk and make it official.

There is nothing any of us can do if you are lacking self confidence. Only you can change that.

just arrange to hangout more. go to more party's together. then have her over for a movie or something sometime later. if she wants the relationship then you'll basically be a couple without the label. from there it'll be easy to be like "sooo is this official?"

she'll say yep i think and just leave it at that

that was a brag post if ive ever seen one.