I guess some people view it like that. I'm good friends with two girls who I'm almost certain aren't interested in me that I've expressed interest in them in the past. They didn't want that so I see no problem treating them as just friends.

I think I'm in the minority that are able to think like this though.

seems to blatant imo

Does she arrive early, late or on time to class? Just arrive at the same time as her and start talking. When she sits down, sit with her.

B just called me and invited me over to AB's house where A will cook me dinner and ill hang out with them for the night

with the weather as it is now, if i stay late at all ill get stranded tehre. i might be able to talk one of my roommates into accompanying me.

thoughts?

ive been stuck inside the house all day and im bored as ****. im going stir crazy. i should just stick my plan of avoiding them, right?

or wut

Go. I may be saying this solely because I want to see more CAPS.

Srsly, going crazy will be more entertaining for all of us than being inside your house all day.

Though tbh, I can't even begin to handle crazy right now. Just going to go home and watch deadwood and sleep. YEAH. I will also eat thai food. Mmm.

this is the only way i could think of talking to her. too bad it's a 9am and i always arrive right before class starts.

my roommate agreed to go so im going

plus they are feeding me dinner

if anything, this will provide some fun TRs. ive never been to their house before. i hope A's boyfriend is there.

me too

I don't have a feeling that this will turn out into a karakrant tr to be honest. It will probably produce one or two amusing moments when both A and B say something flirty though. Gogogo anyways. At least you're having fun on a friday night.

the plan is to show up, eat, play some games (board games) with them and then my roommate is leaving at midnight

he's like "you want to take 2 separate cars in case you want to stay?"
and i said "dude if it's midnight and im staying then i wont need my car the next day anyways... but i want you to drag my ass out of there at midnight no matter what happens."
"deal"

im trying to avoid complicating things or causing any drama. im done with these two chicks outside of fun hanging out and friend **** or wahtever.

board games on a friday night? i'm not looking forward to getting old at all

karak just sets himself up for disappointment. sounds so f bad its unbelievable (please let me be wrong tho)

how can you set yourself up for disappointment when you have zero expectations?

Disappointment is A/B playing normal push/pull games that lead to our great amusement in the form of KARANT.

he no longer has interest in their games, thus no expectations, thus no disappointment

you cannot have disappointment with zero expectations, it's not possible. to have disappointment something has to be worse/less than you anticipated

/me being a nit

+1

I think that's too much...be cordial and nice or w/e, but if she wants to hang out then come up with excuses not to and don't go out of your way to include her in your life, if that makes sense. It's certainly not attractive to be visibly bitter.

For Friday (well, I guess that's right now, fml): see, you don't have to live up to your word. It seems obvious that she takes you for granted and it would probably be good for you if you kicked that notion out of her mind that you're Mr. Dependable and always there for her.

But if you are going to whatever it is, then yeah, it's a fine plan to just make the focus something other than hanging out with her. Same with Sunday - okay, she's there, say hi, talk to her or w/e, but she's background noise. Don't focus on her.

Like, I think this post will help illustrate where your mind should be at...

So do it!

Don't deliberately avoid her!

Don't snub her! You can talk to her. It's totally ok, unless operation: detach is more along the lines of "I really like this girl and it hurts to be around her and I really just need a break from her until I can get rid of these stupid feelings", in which case yeah, maybe you should be avoiding her until you can work that out. But if that isn't the problem, and it's just that you see yourself giving way too much attention to her, then you don't need to overcorrect 180 degrees in the opposite direction. Just treat her like a normal person/friend. That in itself is a bit of a step down from how you've been treating her, which is something she might notice and which might trip her up. And if she doesn't notice, then whatever - the whole point is that you don't care what she thinks anymore.

dude you have no ****ing idea. 18-21 years old, i might have skipped going out with friends maybe 10 Thurs-Sat nights total. i'm 26 now, it's 11pm on a Friday night, and I'm watching sportscenter and browsing 2p2. this isn't too unusual.

enjoy your college years while you can.

I was gunna make fun of you TUTS, but this one was just too easy. I couldn't take pleasure in it.

Won't happen. I have 0 interest in either girl anymore. I'm juts done with them. I was able to "flip that switch" quite easily. I'm willing to open things back up with A, I guess, should her circumstances change, but that is doubtful and as long as things stay the way they are now I could care less.

However, the night was enjoyable. A cooked a good meal, B was mildly entertaining and A's boyfriend did indeed show up. He's a decent enough guy, but I can tell from his interaction with A that he's definitely ****ed (and not in the good way). She's going to dump him somewhat soon, just not sure when. It will have nothing to do with me. I could honestly care less. He was pretty good conversation, and he and I teamed up pretty well making fun of A.

Highlight of the night is when AB's roommate (a dude) showed up and started ranting about Avatar. It was so ****ing hilarious I was crying from laughing so hard.

Some guy that is pursuing B also showed up (even though B tried to talk him out of coming lol). Guy was such a creep. B was hiding behind me by the end of the evening. He tried to get her to take him back to her room when we were all leaving, but she got him to leave too. Then he went to kiss her when they left and it was SOOOOOO awkward. I was loling pretty hard.

Solid entertainment and fun.

Without looking back I'm pretty sure I immediately clarified my post to say the above, right?

No more karants.

That said, well played.

probably hitting up bottle service at one of the nicer clubs downtown tmw night so hopefully i can bring some better TRs from that

oh im sure there will be karants again... just not about A/B

cant wait for E, F and G to enter the show

Meh. Whole thing just frustrates me. Did go to the Friday thing, I was cordial but she followed me around the bar the entire night. Excused myself from the conversation to go to the bathroom or whatever countless times, came out and would go seek out a new conversation, suddenly she would be there.

I received a decent bit of advice not to engage her in conversation that much, but if she's going to force the issue (which apparently she is) then I'm going to continue to have tons of interaction with her. Whatever, I'll deal. Just saying that I only have so much control over how much I talk to her. Situation isn't really worth continuing to post about at this point.

LKJ,

Maybe you should just talk to her and tell her how you feel. I don't think there's necessarily a high % chance of her liking you back romantically, but she's either gonna do that or back off some, and either beats the status quo, yeah?

Agree.

Now THIS was a concurrence that I didn't expect.