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Old 10-26-2009, 05:08 PM   #1
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"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2014 Year of the Petite Brunette and Pissing On Dudes

ive read a lot of threads here on student life and 2+2, and a common theme (as well as a common theme with me and my friends) is our insecurity when it comes to approaching a girl we have interest in.

in this thread, i propose we share stories (success and failures), tips, and propbets to help the community with girls.

i will start. there is a girl in my class (MWF) and we have "flirted" (i hate using that word, but i dont know what else to call it) for the last couple weeks. I am not sure if she has a bf, which always tilts me because i hate making things uncomfortable no matter where i am. if she has a bf, i have to be in class with her the rest of the semester. if she rejects me, the same awkwardness.

whats my move?
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Old 10-26-2009, 05:13 PM   #2
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Re: SL "Ask Out A Girl" Thread

This is so simple really. Best thing to do is just ask her what she's doing right after class one day and if she says nothing go get coffee with her right then.

If she has another class or says she has plans just say we should get together outside of class sometime and go from there. If you make plans right then cool, if not come up with something fun and comfortable for her within the next class or two. In other words, don't invite her to your place...
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Old 10-26-2009, 05:21 PM   #3
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Re: SL "Ask Out A Girl" Thread

are you ****ing serious? usually i just go with "do you have a boyfriend?" if i want to find out. but it doesn't matter if she is getting regularly plowed or not by some other guy as she could still have sex with you.
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Old 10-26-2009, 05:25 PM   #4
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Re: SL "Ask Out A Girl" Thread

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are you ****ing serious? usually i just go with "do you have a boyfriend?" if i want to find out. but it doesn't matter if she is getting regularly plowed or not by some other guy as she could still have sex with you.
only took 2 posts to show why i almost didnt make this thread. well done. this thread is intended to be the SL version of the relationship advice thread, please dont kill it.
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Old 10-26-2009, 05:26 PM   #5
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im all for talking about girls. but you need to be told not to be such a pussy. most guys do.
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Old 10-26-2009, 05:43 PM   #6
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Re: SL "Ask Out A Girl" Thread

I understand you dont like the way slime said what he said, but there is a large truth in it. In your original statment, you make the jump from finding out that she has a bf to things immediately becoming awkward. Assuming you know how to talk to a girl that you like versus any other girl, then things shouldnt be awkward if you find out that she has a bf. This can easily be found out from one of the two following ways:
1.)just straight up asking like slime says
2.)making some comment about hanging out sometime, which in turn she replies i have a bf

Honestly OP i think you are overanalyzing. The only one who would become awkard is you, not the girl. If being up front with her is not you style(which im presuming is not), then just time it right, say when you both laugh about a movie or you both agree that you like to go to a certain bar,resataurant,coffee shop. At that point in time you can make a comment about doing one of those things.

I find that ive rarely if ever, regretted going for something. But I always regret the times where i never went for it...and this goes beyond just women.

Hope that helps
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Old 10-26-2009, 05:50 PM   #7
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OK here's one.

I met this girl maybe a month and a half ago at a bar with some friends. We hit it off and been going out maybe once a week since then combined with one phone call a week. Pretty early on i found out that she was sexually prudish and called her/arranged dates less frequently. I haven;t talked to her in like a week and i just lost my cell phone on Friday. Currently i have lost all interest in this girl and just want to cut it off. Now that i don't have a phone though i can't do it through texting/call. Is it OK to just stop calling her/blaming the loss of a cellphone as means of cutting her off?
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Old 10-26-2009, 06:53 PM   #8
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Re: SL "Ask Out A Girl" Thread

OP, no need to put the whole situation on a pedestal and make it such an intense situation, which as above...makes you be awkward, nobody else.

In school/on campus, go for a coffee..keep it in "neutral/common" surroundings so it doesnt seem such a big deal. Then you'll know by the time you're done with coffee/lunch whether she wants to give you her number and hook up some other time.


DerrtySlime.. Nobody likes it but we all do it and its uber standard. Its like saying "its not you, its me" yada yada. She gets it.
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Old 10-26-2009, 06:53 PM   #9
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Re: SL "Ask Out A Girl" Thread

You really already did the hard part, starting a "freindship" is prob the hardest or most akward thing to do. Add her on facebook? You will see if she has a boyfreind... just don't go all stalker. But just ask her to do something after class one day...

You: "Ughhh I'm so hungry, I didn't eat all day"
Her: "Me too "
You: "wanna get food after class?"

Have a test coming up? Project? Homework? Ask her to meet up some time to do something relating to class if your nervous. I wouldn't really worry about trying to find out if she has a boyfreind, if you've talked a lot and she hasn't mentioned him he prob doesn't exist. But seriouslly just ask her to hang outside of class sometime, you've already talked to her its not like you started this thread by saying "This girl in the front row is so hot, I stare at her everyday Tips??" And even if she does have a boyfriend it wouldn't be akward if you act like your intentions are freindly, what's the worst that happens you hang out outside of class, find out she has a BF and then just stop talking to her as much? It's akward if you are like "xxxx would you like to go on an official date and be steady?"
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Old 10-26-2009, 07:40 PM   #10
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Re: SL "Ask Out A Girl" Thread

OP, don't go gettin yourself put in the "friendzone" with all this advice about coffee and homework. You might as well be her new gay friend if that's the route you take.

Keep things cool and find a way to say something like "hey come to my friends house tonight there's gonna be lots of crazy drunk people their". Her answer will pretty much tell you what she thinks of you... If she likes you she'll show up even if she has a bf. Tell her to bring some hot friends too so she doesn't think ur stalkin her.

If she says "can I bring my bf?", counter with "meh, I don't know... only if you promise it won't cut into our quality time ----- say with semi-smirky grin... it's all in the delivery

Or screw everything I've said and make things awkard with questions like "do you have a bf"...

I remember this one time back in the day this chic was totally giving me all the signals for the first three weeks of class - similar to what you're describing. Then one day I see her getting dropped off by some dude and giving him some slobby slob tongue. In class I was like, yo save that stuff for church nympho... she laughed and said she can't help herself. I told her I noticed some flaws in her method and I'd be glad to give her some pointers -- chics love being challenged, she said "I doubt it", I'm like after class around the corner, she smiled... after class she tried going the other way - I said "chicken", she smiled and walked toward me then I just grabbed her and kissed her while grabbin her ass. She loved it of course and we went to my apartment.

Good times.... gonna go have a cry now cuz I just remembered my life blows now
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I remember this one time back in the day this chic was totally giving me all the signals for the first three weeks of class - similar to what you're describing. Then one day I see her getting dropped off by some dude and giving him some slobby slob tongue. In class I was like, yo save that stuff for church nympho... she laughed and said she can't help herself. I told her I noticed some flaws in her method and I'd be glad to give her some pointers -- chics love being challenged, she said "I doubt it", I'm like after class around the corner, she smiled... after class she tried going the other way - I said "chicken", she smiled and walked toward me then I just grabbed her and kissed her while grabbin her ass. She loved it of course and we went to my apartment.
If this ridiculous story is true I'm pretty sure it was a fluke.
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Old 10-27-2009, 03:27 AM   #12
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Re: SL "Ask Out A Girl" Thread

hey Sun the most important thing to know is, not having an outcome or even with any girl!..But if you really like this girl go for it Sun..GO with that core intent..little by little let her know that your interested.

If she sees you as this kewl, fun, confident guy. then shes probably going to want to hang out with you..One thing i always tell some of my friends is, always have abundance of girls in your life.If nothing good happens with this girl you'll always have another one right around the corner.

You also say that you hate making things uncomfortable? Again, not having outcome dependence.. ALSO ANOTHER BIG THING TO REMEMBER " WHATEVER YOU FEEL, SHES FEELS ASWELL"Stop thinking in your head what your gonna say next, just let it come out naturally. For one thing right now is Sun, is to get her number, go on a fun date. So right there should tell you if she indeed has a bf..need any help just ask =)
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in this thread, i propose we share stories (success and failures), tips, and propbets to help the community with girls.
Probably an opportune time to link a Student Life classic. Maybe there are lessons to be learned there! It's funny for me to read after all this time, that was almost three years ago.
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Old 10-27-2009, 12:11 PM   #14
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Re: SL "Ask Out A Girl" Thread

goofy i read that thread for like an hour and have no idea what's going on.
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Old 10-27-2009, 12:47 PM   #15
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Re: SL "Ask Out A Girl" Thread

Ill share one of my dilemmas. I have this girl who id say is 9.5/10 in the looks department but honestly she bores me. She isn't THAT much fun and our main interests are in different things. I want to continue banging her, shes fantastic in bed. However i don't want the relationship, but the more we get together the more she is texting, wanting to do things together, etc...basically move towards a relationship.

So my question is this: What is my play in order to maintain the status quo. Am i just going to have to discuss how i feel with her and risk that she will not be interested in that type of relationship, or can i just avoid the hanging out often enough to drag this out.
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