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Have a good weekend brahs

Just got home (7am here) from smashing 36yo. Pretty dumb night. I meet her at a bar at 11:45. Her and her friends are annoyingly drunk and kind of talking **** to each other while pretending it's in good spirit. 2 drinks later I ride back with them and get dropped off at her house. We kill a $2 bottle of pinot and then proceed to **** for 3.5hrs. Not exaggerating. I was her first in 7months and kept having to go slow, take breaks, and wear a condom. Eventually no condom but still taking breaks anytime I'm close to coming. Finally at 4am I'm going to cum during this slow, passionate sex and ask her if I can finish. She says no keep going, I say I cant control it, she says just keep going dont stop, I say I'm going go cum inside you, she says just don't stop. I cum (third girl ever, first time ever without a condom and without having monitored consistency birth control intake). My half hard dick inside rubbing makes her cum 15seconds after. It was hot but **** I felt ******ed. We talked after and she seemed mad I even brought it up. I was like ok so let's just do plan b in the morning to rest easy. She goes into a thing about not having eggs and 36yo, already having a kId and doesn't want another, and gets an attitude as if I'm over reacting. I was just casually and calmly bringing it up but asserted my point that in no way am I having a kid, even if it's "unlikely" and that id pay for the plan b in the morning just for the peace of mind. She didn't want to discuss it further, only said "don't worry, you have no responsibility from here on out". That's when I knew this would never be more than just a hookup. She actually said she kind of caught feelings and didn't want this to be a one time thing.

We slept for 2hrs then her alarm went off and she said she had to get her son. Shes financially independent from her ex husband so she seems to have enough to lose SOOO please jesus don't let her get pregnant.

A friend of mine has some sort of Facebook hack where he can see all the pictures of people even if they are not friends and even if they are not under their photos (but just tagged in the post). Anyone of you aware by any chance?

Yes. A friend of mine loves to brag about it.

I have a Halloween bar crawl today and next weekend. This one I bought a referee shirt and whistle and have a 1-9 flip sign (like they use in rating dunk contests). Obv I'll rate hot girls but could also rate like someone chugging a beer, etc. Was really hoping I'd have two friends in the same outfit but looks like no luck. Kind of second guessing it but this ones not even on Halloween so I think I'll live with it.

I bought the referee shirt at Sports Authority for $45 so I'm thinking of returning it when I'm done for neon pink north-face girl's sweater and leggings. Then adding glasses and Starbucks cup to be a basic white girl. But not sure how sexually appealing that is.

I haven't worked out due to my shoulder injury so I'm more insecure than normal about my skinniness. Thoughts/what are people doing?

I lifted for the first time in probably 1.5 years. Embarrassing.

I don't have aspirations of getting big, but would at least like to not be so awkwardly skinny. Weighed myself at the gym in clothes/shoes. 6'1" 165 lbs. Yikes.

Current girlfriend is great for me. Could easily see myself with her in the future, and the thought makes me happy.
However..
She is Muslim. She has strict Muslim parents. To marry, I would need to convert to Islam. She would like our wedding to be religiously legitmate so she hopes I convert.
I feel physically sick about the thought of converting.
To give you an indication of how seriously she takes Islam day by day - she drinks and has sex with me. She doesn't eat pork. She fasts.
help.

Is marriage in the near-term? How long have you been together? What does converting consist of?

Sorry but this is dumb. It's a complete lack of respect by her to ask you to change religions. Also lol religious weddings.

Marriage isn't too close. We've been together a year. Marriage gets discussed because of the challenges we know we face.
Converting simply consists of saying a few things to get a certificate, but the principle of it makes me sick. This doesn't seem the right answer. I'm willing to compromise on a lot - but this feels too much..

+1 to Housenuts not worth it

I have personal experience with that, I dated an Israeli girl for two years and would've had to convert.

If the thought makes you ill, then you'll never do it. If you'll never do it, it'll kill your relationship. I'm sorry man, but this will break you up (unless something else beats the religion issue to it).

That being said, I don't agree with housenuts at all that she's somehow being disrespectful. She's merely communicating her needs in a partner, it's up to you to decide whether or not you can and want to meet them. Here you pretty clearly do not.

Those needs are selfish. Jon should communicate his needs to her that he will not adopt a religion. If a girl can't get past this she's 100% not worth dating, let alone marrying.

If a girl I was with insisted on a religious wedding I'd probably go thru with that. If it required me to change my beliefs or swear on the Koran or something, I would not do that.

That doesn't make any sense. All needs are selfish. A need for a religious wedding is also selfish. One happens to be over your personal line and the other doesn't. Other people are comfortable with either of those things. Others are uncomfortable with both. Her behavior is fine, you just don't like her needs.

Do you date obese girls? I would guess not. Your needs for a partner includes being not obese. Is that inherently disrespectful? Of course not.

still dont see where any of this indicates a lack of respect

Cause if you actually like someone you shouldn't require they change one if their fundamental values. She likes him now even though he's not Islamic.

To me I don't understand why you'd date someone if there was an uncrossable barrier to marriage.

I wouldn't date an obese girl for a year, tell her I loved her and wanted to get married, but wouldn't marry her until she lost weight. That's the difference. If i like someone enough to date them and we got along great, I'd be willing to marry them without requiring them to vastly alter something that was otherwise acceptable in our dating life.

I don't know about this relationship, but in mine the girl put it on the table basically immediately that she could never marry me unless I was Jewish. No reason to assume they didn't have a similar conversation prior to that stuff.

This is tricky. Its not like she can logically just say early on in the relationship that if we cant get married until you convert without seeming insane/psycho/moving to fast/etc. I gues she could say offhand she will only marry somone who practices islam.

If she held out in hopes of "trapping" you into the relationship by waiting until it was really really serious to tell you, then that is completely disrespectful and I dont know how anyone can argue otherwise.

If she told you rather early, or made it clear, and you stuck around hoping she would relax that, then you can only really blame yourself, and that is kind of disrespectful to her.

Those are hardly the only possible scenarios.

Are you even religious in the first place?

Man Im white and would have no desire to even convert to being a catholic let alone a Muslim.

Religion is dying move along OP

Never said they were. Two ifs, not an if and an else. Coding brah.

^ this.

I'd sooner convert to follow the religion of the flying spaghetti monster and get married with a colander on my head than I would convert islam, judaism, catholicism, etc

Ok, then the post was of very little use.