I dunno I really enjoy Brad's candidness.

Kirills snap is lit af

and GG, you need to get a new phone!

lol this forum is going to be one thread - maybe 2 with the style thread.

where is the talk about jobs, careers, internships, etc? you young bros have that all figured out, or only care about girls?

at least update the this thread to 2016

Going to Colorado to be a counselor at a wilderness camp this summer. Super excited but probably not a whole lot of girl potential, besides some inter-counselor shenanigans potentially.

From my friends anecdotes, camp counselors do nothing but bang each other.

This forum started to die with black friday. Pretty much every poster itt is well past being in school besides a couple new peeps writing TRs. If this forum is new to you its prob a decent read to just start from the beginning.

You will struggle on getting actual school adivce outside of social life **** in here. Most internships and questions like that have prob been sort of answered in the last couple years.

You could always contribute to an NL Loki thread if you want to.

Theres been quite a bit of talk about that stuff you just have to go through the thread. Back in the day literally 50% of the posters in the thread were law students so they were mostly posting in that thread.

Don't really have some sick tr, but I got to party with 50 cent last weekend for free. I was in VIP (really just a couch and some seats elevated like 6 inches off the dance floor lol) of this other bar when he rolled in and asked to join us. Brought a few bottles of his new liquor, like 10 girls and sat down.

Whole place exploded and there was a line to get a picture with him. I decided not to since A. it was a long ass line and B. decided I never get to hang with 50 again in my life probably, so might as well enjoy it instead of waiting for some picture for the gram. It was cool, venue started playing all 50 music too, which was a nice touch. Nothing special to report really, he seemed like a nice guy in the minimal chats we had. Took a shot with him before he left and got a slap on the way out.

The trickle down bang was hilarious afterwards too. Had probably a dozen girls ask me if I knew 50 and how I knew him. I'm in a ltr, but I think every guy in our crew scored above their league that night just from being around 50 for a few hours.

im calling bs

1. no pictures
2. 50 doesnt drink
3. its effen vodka, how do u not remember this

Lol, I mean, I don't know what to tell you. 50 debuted a new drink, I didn't exactly look at it. I could pull the flyer for the spot with his face on it, but I would somewhat out myself. I'm sure if you think I'm lying you could do a 2 second google search and find it haha.

Sounds like someone jelly .

Not much to brag about there,so I don't think it's a lie,just a interesting moment.

And fitty don't drank?

How does he know his Vodka is any good?

He came to the bar I go to the most to promote that, but I didn't go. Looked at the event photos after and it brought out a bunch of trashy ppl. He stood behind the bar at that event. Would be cool to have it show up unannounced when you're already there in VIP. I'm sure ppl in big cities like Boston/Chicago etc have that happen a lot with athletes. Sacramento not so much.

I've had a bartender make a really good drink out of cucumber Effen vodka which is a flavor I haven't seen fron Ciroc etc

And ya Dante I either need to fix my screen so I can have the front facing camera/mic work or just replace all together. I should just get a iphone6. Life update: finally got rid of that small ass poverty bed I was using

Speaking of snapchat, last weekend I snapped me waking up at a hotel. What wasn't shown on mine but on a friends is me pissing behind an ice machine when we got lost and my dick was viewed by 78 ppl before it was deleted.

Also was told I or we pissed off that balcony and directly under us was the main lobby entrance. Such a ******ed **** show

There is this lesbian I work with (not a hot one) and she's apparently not that much of a lesbian.... We were drinking after work and she was talking about how she was thinking about going back to guys and if she were to get a boyfriend he would have to be really understanding. I pretty much dismissed it and later she aggressively insisted I come back to her place and ended up sleeping in her bed and next thing I know she's cupping my balls. I was pretty drunk so I didn't exactly stop her but I didn't let things progress either.

Never been so frozen in my entire life. I don't know how to diffuse this without blowing up my work environment since we work closely together. I was definitely flirting with her but only because I thought she was a lesbian so I guess I lead her on and she definitely takes on the masculine role in her relationships, never met such an aggressive girl in my life. Literally doesn't take no for an answer. This happened last night and she's been texting me all day. She'll send like 7 texts and then maybe I'll answer one.

wat do

I feel like I have a couple options

She will probably get mad and not talk to me for awhile if I go direct and just say I'm not into you let's just be friends. I can probably swallow the awkwardness but honestly I don't know what she'll do. My read is she won't take it that well.

Maybe I can just **** her once and be really bad at sex/smelly so she doesn't want to again. She'll most likely tell all coworkers but I don't really give a **** about that but would prefer not to have everyone think I'm bad at sex but I have to bite at least one bullet here I think.

Do not bang her,not worth it.

If she's not attractive to you and as possessive as it seems,you may end up out of a job or worse,in jail on a bogus charge.

So tell her you're not in a space to get with anyone.

Let her down easy,take the blame for leading her on,and hope for the best.

If she didn't take the hint already, just tell her how you don't hook up with coworkers. Basically just say the stuff girls say. No actual need to be direct, that's mean for them, they're supposed to figure it out.

Hey, hoping I could get some solid advice here. I'm kind of a nerdy guy--not that I'm socially awkward, just that my passions and interests aren't mainstream and so because of this, all my friends tend to be pretty beta. Not that I'd consider myself very alpha, but the point is I don't really have anyone IRL that I can get good advice about this kind of stuff, and the latest situation has been bothering me.

Ok, so I met this girl like 5 or 6 years ago, she was new to NYC and just started college. We had a magical night, but nothing happened and I was too much of a wuss to do anything other than get her phone number, send her what I'm guessing were low-value text messages (I had VERY bad self-esteem at the time) and become friends with her on facebook. We basically stopped talking after that, and have not hung out at all except for once or twice when I randomly saw her at a concert of the same obscure band that we both like--but we were both with other groups of people, so it was a very warm (happy to see each other) but brief.

a few weeks ago we were talking on facebook and i mentioned we should get together over spring break (we're both teachers) and she seemed over-the-top excited by the idea. she always 'likes' my **** on facebook and i got the vibe that she was maybe into me, especially given our history, but it's always hard to tell with this of course. anyway, i text her and ask her to have dinner with me, she again is super excited and happily agrees.

so we meet up, and bear in mind i'm not 100% sure that it's a date or if we're just friends catching up...i haven't seen her in a while and don't know what exactly my intentions with her are, or what hers with me are...but i know that there's the possibility that it was a date. anyway, it starts off EXTREMELY well. amazing conversation, she's constantly touching me, leaning in close, and I'm pretty much an idiot for not trying to kiss her as soon as we left the restaurant. I also paid the check and told her she could get it next time, and we even talked about starting to make this (our getting together) a regular thing.

Second part of the date didn't go as well--we went to a karaoke bar and while it wasn't terrible, i felt like it was just OK. Definitely not nearly as good as dinner went. The conversation became less flirty, less interesting, and even turned to subjects that were awkward to talk about (past relationships, being cheated on, etc.), and just overall I felt her energy and interest dip at this point. I walk her to the train station afterward and I did the standard "text me when you get home" and she asked me to do the same. I didn't kiss her goodnight and yeah, I'm an idiot for not trying I think, at the very least it would've defined things and not have me in the situation i'm in now. Onto specifics:

I text her a picture of the statue of liberty on my way home, and when she gets home she says "that's a beautiful picture! I just got home. Dream sweetly!" and then I send her a similar kind of text when I get home. So even though I'm annoyed at myself for not having kissed her, I think ok, I at least didn't screw it up beyond saving.

So the next morning at around 11:30 am, I text her a song that during the date I said I would, and the following message: "So I'm up to my ears in work for the rest of the break, but let's get together the following weekend? Have a great day; happy grocery shopping "

She doesn't respond until THIS morning, around 10:30 (and she did post on facebook yesterday afternoon). I don't know if she's just playing games, or is having second thoughts, or what, but her message was: "Ooh! I like that song! And I hear that! Hope you're getting through the work mountain alright!"

Obviously, I'm concerned that she didn't respond at all to my suggestion of getting together the following weekend. I know it's some time away, but combined with the fact that she waited 24 hours to respond, I can't help but feel like she's not really interested. I also worry that my not trying to kiss her miscommunicated to her that *I* wasn't interested in her in that way.

My plan is to respond casually to her tonight just saying thanks yeah or whatever, and then as the following weekend gets closer, text her again with the suggestion that we do something. Make sense? Basically, I don't know whether the problem is that I didn't show enough romantic interest (by not kissing her), or if she just had a change of heart due to whatever reason (and in which case I shouldn't waste my time pursuing her).

Sorry for the long read, and thanks for any help...

You've like this girl for 5-6 years. You asked her out and made no moves at anything sexual. You took her to dinner and paid. You treated her like you were in a relationship already(talking about future plans, telling her to text you when she gets home safe, you doing the same, texting her songs, etc).

You're also likely texting her or talking to her on FB too much and over communicating with her in general. There's no sense of urgency to see you again bc even tho you're busy you're making yourself available ASAP and you also want confirmation she wants to see you then bc you're insecure about the thought of her not feeling the same way. An attractive guy doesn't act like that or do any of that. 2nd date isn't gonna happen and if it does it will only be bc she's bored and doesn't have a better offer that night.

So do you think I should just not respond to her last text message and move on? And that if she is really interested in me she'll eventually text me again inquiring or responding to my suggestion for getting together the following weekend? I know I screwed up by not escalating physically during the date--what's my best play now though?

Exactly, let it go. If she likes you still she will reach out and ask if you still want to get together but I think the chances of that are pretty slim. As men we need to stop having this mindset of believing we need to make something happen or figure out what the next best play is...do you realize attractive guys that get laid all the time never think like that.

An attractive guy knows that the girl is naturally attracted to him and trying to impress him. And if a girl decides she isn't into him then he just writes it off as her loss or realizes what he did wrong and corrects it the next time, he doesn't sit around pining over her and trying to figure out how to get that 1 girl back....move on and meet other women. Learning to let it go and move on is attractive in and of itself and sometimes when you do so the girl will text you weeks later and ask what you're up to. Just don't fall into the trap of then chasing her again and trying to impress her....let her want to impress you and chase you.

Also let go of this idea of yourself that you're beta and not powerful enough to step into your sexuality and escalate towards sex with a girl bc you aren't sure what she thinks of you. You should operate under the pretense that every girl wants to **** you bc you're a man and you guys are both built for that. Then you choose who you want to **** and move it towards that. If you're second guessing yourself all along the way the girl is gonna realize that and it's going to make the sexual tension really awkward if there even is any and she won't want to go any further.

Everything you're saying makes sense, but here's the problem. I'm not an attractive guy who gets laid all the time. I've made a lot of progress from my really socially awkward high school years, but I also have a really long way to go in terms of being super confident and attractive. I also beat myself up about it for a long time, and spent most of my childhood/adolescence with really low self-esteem. Not saying I'm some complete awkward loser, and I know I do have a lot going for me, but I'm aware of my flaws. But so yeah, when I really connect with someone, and I like her and she seems to like me, of course I get excited.

So I'll try to be more like that, but it feels pretty difficult to authentically hold that attitude and project that behavior when psychologically, it's so incongruent with how I feel.

Until you stop making excuses and change it, you will always have interactions with girls just like this. And the few times you do get laid, you'll be so worried you won't see her again that you'll become totally insecure, over pursue her, smother her, and chase her away.

I can write more on it later if you have specific questions but you need to daydream about what it would be like to be a ladies man, how it would feel in your body to have that life, and tell yourself you already have that life all the time. This probably sounds crazy to most people but it's simply how your mind works. Your subconscious mind can't tell the difference between imagination and reality so if you imagine something long enough your subconscious mind goes to work in your daily life creating it and proving it exists. If you actually think about your entire life so far, this is how everything has worked. What you think about most and daydream of is what shows up in your reality...so just start thinking about the things YOU want most rather than what society has told you to want and BE who you want to be, not who society has told you that you should be.

You're trying way too hard (text me when you get home, texting her about the statue of liberty, texting her some song) and it comes off as needy/low value. Don't feel like you have to constantly be in contact; she won't suddenly forget you exist if you two don't communicate for a few days. Don't respond to her last text (honestly, why would you? there's nothing to respond to), but I'd text her a few days before you want to hang out again, something simple: "Supposed to be beautiful Saturday! Let's get some summery beers on x bar's patio." I think you have a better chance at date #2 than Lucid does, but if she says no just learn the lesson and move on.

I'm pretty anti-texting in general, but when I was dating I texted to set up plans and that's about it. If something came up in my life that was both funny and directly related to a girl I was seeing, I'd text her briefly about that. Those are about the only two scenarios I sent texts. Again, that's kinda my personality but I think it had the added benefit of giving off an "I have a life and I'm too busy to be texting you about dumb ****" vibe which is a good thing, whereas texting someone you barely know about the smallest things gives the opposite vibe.

Thanks. I'm fairly confident that if I was really persistent about it, I could get date#2, but of course I don't want to waste my time and energy if I screwed it up already.

I like your point about only really texting to make plans. I usually stick by that too, except the night before our first date, she texted me and we did some flirting/talking by text there, so I just assumed she was into that kind of thing.

Also, I guess I just thought that being myself, being honest, being vulnerable, etc. was fine because this girl isn't a 10 by society's standards--i think she's beautiful of course but most people would probably say she's a 7. Maybe you'd say that this doesn't exist, but I actually am looking for a girl who I don't have to feel like I'm walking on eggshells around because I might say "say something that's low-value" and don't have to feel afraid of being perceived as needy just because I want to text or enjoy communicating with her.