Man, you guys are drama queens.

don't be to forward/blunt about it. just find a group event with alcohol around to invite her to. or you can go to starbucks or something one on one and she'll either be your future wife or you'll be friendzoned forever

Lol. I like the new thread title.

you would

Yep. Who wouldn't?

Boats n' Hoes is funnier. You know this.

Striper Update.

So Stripper comes back to the hotel tonight after working her shift, I am working overnights 11pm-7am so we start talking again, she tells me how she got in trouble tonight at work for not performing on stage....and how shes having a rough night..


We continue talking a bit, and then start cuddling watching tv in the lobby (this hotel has no cameras so no way of me getting in trouble for spooning with a customer of the hotel lol.)


Eventiualy the talk leads to serious conversation, somehow it came up that shes been raped in the past and has also molested....she asked if I thought she was degrading herself by being a stripper....I told her that I don't pass judgment on anyone and there are circumstances that would be compeltely understandable of her job (in this case it was, based on her history and the fact tht shes been living by herself since she was 16 years old.) ...I told her what bothes me is that most of the guys in there are degrading to the woman and that I don't like seeing that...she told me I was adorable and that she liked me and we started makin out lol.


Tomorrow were going to dinner and ice skating....She also told me shes not seeing anyone else and would like to see me exclusivly ..Can i really trust a stripper to not see anyone else?


after spending a little over an hour down here, shes starting t fall asleep in her chair, so I told her to go to sleep gave her a kiss goodnight and sent her to her room...(Too bad I'm on the clock I would have loved to accompny her)


....I guess, im just filled with excitement over the situation, but am wondering if it is really possible to have an "Exclusive" relationship with a stripper, and was my answer right to her ? In regards to degardingness?

butnahh nvm

I had the TV date tonight with Jennifer, and...wow.

So, uh, I'm not gonna hold out on you guys like Vintage. She comes over, we start watching our shows, making out during commercials, a little bit of clothing starts coming off as things get heavier and we start paying less and less attention to the TV. Then the dreaded conversation begins:

"So, what are you looking for?" (her obv)
I sigh inside. "What do you mean?"
"You know...a relationship? Just looking to date?" asdfasdfasdf
"I don't know, what are you looking for?"
"I asked you first!"

Soo now I'm trying to gauge what's going on in her head as well as figure out if I should be honest with her. I know what I want; I like this girl, and I'd probably like a relationship with her. Eventually I say **** it and say "I dunno, I hadn't thought about it too much but I suppose I'd like a relationship".
"I'm too busy for a relationship...I'm just looking to date right now. I've been dating around a little..."
"Well, I mean, I'm not set on that right now or anything."
"Okay...that's good. Because I'd like to sleep with you tonight, I just wanted to make sure we're on the same page first."



"...you can tell I'm pretty direct about things."


Soooo yeah. Obviously that sounded fine to me, and we went ahead with it...but tbh, I don't like the idea of her seeing other people, and I couldn't tell if the "dating around" thing was past tense or present tense, but the rest of the night I was definitely thinking in the back of my mind about when she's kissing me, when she puts her hands on me, if there's some other guy(s) making her feel the same way I do. Didn't like that.

I eventually walked her back to her car and said goodnight, and we're going on a date tomorrow, so I think I'm gonna have to ask her about whether she's dating anyone else and/or plans to. Being "casual" in the sense that we don't take things super seriously and don't have to hang out 5 times a week is fine for me right now, but I guess I'm selfish and don't want to share her, so that part isn't.

Can you trust a stripper to not see anyone else? Possibly.

Can you trust a stripper not to suck anyone's dick for money? Definitely not.

I almost drunk responded last night but thought better of it...instead I just saved it for tonight.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=chH7mXCI57k

But you didn't mind your name being attached to "ask out a girl"? Really??? Your standards are so high...

You're attaching far too much meaning to being the OP of the thread. This is most definitely not one of those threads that is actually about the OP. Like, barely at all. Other people came in and started posting interesting stuff (in spite of the really dumb name you gave it), so it caught on. Really doesn't matter that it started with you.

Sounds like she was as straightforward as she could be with you, which is respectable. It doesn't really sound from your details like your desire for exclusivity is going to necessarily be reciprocated though.

Also, if a LTR is what you want, do you really want to be exclusive with someone who doesn't want that?

In any case, congrats on the successful TR. Nicely done.

OMG get a blog already.

Perhaps there should be a "Lets talk/blog about our antics with the wimminz" thread as well.

this seems like a really bad idea.

goofy, please continue to **** the **** out of her until you find somebody that is looking for LTR

kthnx

Goofy, women tend to settle down and have sex with just one guy naturally. Its ingrained into to them as part of the never wanting to be seen as a slut. She has come out and told you she doesn't want anything too serious. That doesn't mean she is going to go out and bang the football team.


If you are what she wants, IE not clingy not being all boyfriendy, but are instead a cool guy to hang out with who gives her good sex, she will end up being exclusive with you a month or two down the road.


Never bring up exclusivity before she does though. Remember your too cool and awesome to care if she is seeing other guys. This will drive her towards you. Make her chase you, and she will end up wanting to make you settle down with her.

PS There is a chance she really is a slut ( usually stems from family or abuse issues ). Hopefully you will figure this out. But if shes normal what I wrote above applies.

Why do you think so?

Because she basically told you she wants her options open right now, so asking her to close them is going to fail.


Goofy, if you can't handle it, so be it. But asking her to stop seeing other guys is going to be an epic fail this early on. Put it out of your mind, and be the coolest ( not necessarily nicest ) guy she has in her life.

high soulcrush potential here imo

but i wouldnt back off of the situation... simply be prepared to handle that.

sounds like a ****ttest to me goofy.

I eventually walked her back to her car and said goodnight, and we're going on a date tomorrow, so I think I'm gonna have to ask her about whether she's dating anyone else and/or plans to. Being "casual" in the sense that we don't take things super seriously and don't have to hang out 5 times a week is fine for me right now, but I guess I'm selfish and don't want to share her, so that part isn't.


Somehow missed this the first time around. Since you are about to ask her to do the complete opposite of what she (without your prompting) volunteered she was willing to do, this is likely to fail.

How is this a **** test?

When I think **** test, I think, "Hey why don't you give me 3 reasons why I should give you my number"

not

"before I **** you, I'm just letting you know this doesn't mean we're in a relationship."

goofy,

This was what your 3rd date/get together? I wouldn't be worried at all about what she said. In most cases it isn't the girl wanting to sleep around/keep her options wide open but instead it is more of a "too early to tell" sort of thing from her perspective and doesn't wanted to get tied into something quite yet.

I'd continue seeing as her as often as would be appropriate for the first month of seeing someone (few times a week maybe). After a month or 6 weeks if you are really still into her and she hasn't made it clear she's exclusive, I'd look to have that talk. Not necessarily the "I want to be your boyfriend talk", but more the "I don't want to waste my time if this isn't heading in the right direction, the relationship direction" talk.

Sounds promising so far though, good luck.