"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2013 Year of the Tall Blonde

[BamBam192]

Originally Posted by Flyingbanana

I can't really remember how she reacted but was along the lines of her laughing and generally denying it but looking at me at the same time. It definitely wasn't badly received.

Hm, interesting example, is that pretty standard? That seems a bit too obvious at first glance. Or is that what I want? To be bold and put my intentions out in the open?

I don't want to steal anyone away from a boyfriend. Thats a bit too below the belt for me.

Might have to post a trip report sometime then

Ok, well if she was laughing and generally denying that is a good sign. I do not think it is a standar play. By standard I mean the average guy. Its only obvious if you let be obvious. You can just say it, look at her and smile and then move on with the conversation. Throwing it out there like that will cause her to stop and think, whether she thinks about it for a few seconds or all day. I do not think this a very bold move, depending on how its used it can be the most subtle thing you ever do. Being bold would be to say that line and then ask her the very next sentence lol. I think by saying stuff like that, it will help you because of a few things. She will get used to laughing with you and having you say witty things and making her laugh/smile. That way when she is around other guys she will realize how much more funny, smarter, and all around better you are. Also by flirting with her little by little she will open up and flirt with you more and more and think about you more and more until wham bam thank you mam, she is all yours.

Since he is a nice guy girlfriend stealing isn't the best choice, but is some cases it is needed.

[Le Alexandre]

Originally Posted by BamBam192

Yes, I still do. Situations are not always clear, many different thing could possibly happen. So you have to keep yourself open to different outcomes. I say text her tomorrow and ask her to do something.

Ya that sounds good. I actually initially thought about taking the day off since I don't think anyone thinks it's particularly pleasant to have anyone you just met start contacting you every day/moment w/o break etc.

[BamBam192]

Originally Posted by Le Alexandre

Ya that sounds good. I actually initially thought about taking the day off since I don't think anyone thinks it's particularly pleasant to have anyone you just met start contacting you every day/moment w/o break etc.

Yeah you don't want to come off needy, or stalkerish

[TurnUpTheSun]

update:
class today, very little eye contact, body language, etc.
i left immediately after class.
she apparently walks very fast and passed me during the walk, neither said a word.
fml.

[yeotaJMU]

le alex... you are good. just ask her to do something, no need to panic here.

flyingbanana... while i agree with the majority of things that bambam is saying, i dont like his line making it so obvious like that. i think that would come off a little creepy, especially if she doesnt reciprocate. a line like that (so obvious) basically puts it out there but at the same time it isnt 100% in the open and i feel like that could lead to awkwardness. if she is in to you she could misinterpret that you meant her, or if she isnt in to you she could realize what you did and then feel awkward.

i think a better line would be to try and get her isolated and 1 on 1 and playfully and casually make physical contact, whether it be putting your hand on her hip while talking, grabbing her hand while making a joke (i dont mean like holding her hand, i mean like "no you have a great smile" *grab hand while saying it and release*), etc. given your situation i find her hard to read and she may be apprehensive about the BF thing, so you need to let her know he doesnt matter and its just you now.

[yeotaJMU]

Originally Posted by TurnUpTheSun

update:
class today, very little eye contact, body language, etc.
i left immediately after class.
she apparently walks very fast and passed me during the walk, neither said a word.
fml.

wow... that just seems weird in general, even if you were just friends. im not even sure how to read that. maybe she is having a bad day or something and just wasnt in the mood to talk?

the way i see it you have a couple choices here that i will list below:
1. ignore it. dont let it bug you, you arent dating, shrug it off. maybe she was **** testing you to see what your reaction was gonna be.
2. text her sometime this afternoon saying like "lol did you walk past me today?" and see her response to that. hopefully its something like "yeah sorry i was in a hurry i needed to do X thing" or "no i dont think so?" and you can reply accordingly
3. just ride it out through the day and then re initiate after class on wednesday as you have been doing and try to read her
4. maybe she read your leaving as you being mad at her for some reason which made her mad/frustrated

4, while it seems like a bad thing, is a good thing because that means she is into you. i think option 2 is probably the worst one as that comes off a little desperate, but i dont mind it either as long as you play your cards right. number 3 is probably the best reaction, number 1 is similar except that you would force her to initiate.

like i said, i just find it odd in general. especially if you guys are usually walking together after class. thats just a weird thing for a person to do, and it sounded like she was into you. im betting she just had an off day or didnt see you, or option 4. if you dont go the option 2 route, then definitely dont initiate anything today and see what happens tomorrow.

[BamBam192]

Originally Posted by TurnUpTheSun

update:
class today, very little eye contact, body language, etc.
i left immediately after class.
she apparently walks very fast and passed me during the walk, neither said a word.
fml.

She could have been having a bad day or you are screwed. Play it by ear

Originally Posted by yeotaJMU

le alex... you are good. just ask her to do something, no need to panic here.

flyingbanana... while i agree with the majority of things that bambam is saying, i dont like his line making it so obvious like that. i think that would come off a little creepy, especially if she doesnt reciprocate. a line like that (so obvious) basically puts it out there but at the same time it isnt 100% in the open and i feel like that could lead to awkwardness. if she is in to you she could misinterpret that you meant her, or if she isnt in to you she could realize what you did and then feel awkward.

i think a better line would be to try and get her isolated and 1 on 1 and playfully and casually make physical contact, whether it be putting your hand on her hip while talking, grabbing her hand while making a joke (i dont mean like holding her hand, i mean like "no you have a great smile" *grab hand while saying it and release*), etc. given your situation i find her hard to read and she may be apprehensive about the BF thing, so you need to let her know he doesnt matter and its just you now.

Agreed with some points. I should have pointed out. You need to know exactly what you are doing when using that line and understand the risk and gains. Good advice

[BamBam192]

Originally Posted by yeotaJMU

2. text her sometime this afternoon saying like "lol did you walk past me today?"

Instead of that I would suggest saying "Hey is everything ok you seemed upset today?"

[yeotaJMU]

^like

[TurnUpTheSun]

Originally Posted by yeotaJMU

4. maybe she read your leaving as you being mad at her for some reason which made her mad/frustrated

i want to believe its this. cause i did notice her looking over at me during class, but i just sat there with my hood up with a blank expression on my face. however, im scared i might have overdone it and made it seem like im mad about the whole bar thing, which not only isnt true, but would look like im a psycho. i did ask her a question during class to break the ice, and that went well. but besides that, didnt say a word or look over.

then after class i immediately left (and chatted a little with another girl on the way out lol).
theres no way she didnt see me, cause when we were walking back, i almost got ran over by a wheelchair. it was this tiny asian chick in a motorized wheelchair and was hilarious so naturally i looked behind me to see if anyone saw it, and i saw her, blank expression, not even sure if she noticed me to be honest.

was thinking about sending a "cute" text like "i like that class a lot more when you smile".
thoughts?

[yeotaJMU]

i wouldnt do that, because then you are putting yourself on the chase side again when optimally you want her to want you (if that makes sense?).

i like bambam's line if you wanna go the route where you text her. also overdoing it is not a bad thing if she thinks you are mad she is only gonna stew over it more and more and try to remedy the situation by trying to please you.

[BamBam192]

^^^ like

Also I would say that your mind is going to good places if you are thinking of lines like that. Just keep those in the vault and use when needed, or during specific situations. I think going the caring route is best for the moment

[TurnUpTheSun]

saying "is everything ok" isnt too desperate, creepy, strong?

[yeotaJMU]

yeah thats a good line but doesnt fit in the context of the play you made

[yeotaJMU]

id literally say "looked like you were upset today... anything wrong/whats up/everything alright?"