"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2013 Year of the Tall Blonde - Page 6

nbaaddict · 11-01-2009, 11:39 AM

ok that's all right. i actually really didn't wanna hang out with her. i also think there's a pretty good chance she already had a bf based on some evidence i saw. i just wanted a one night stand cause i could tell she would be a 10/10 at sex, cause she was the best ****ing grinder ever.

in fact i was just about to ask her to head back to my room when she said she said she was leaving with her friends

TurnUpTheSun · 11-01-2009, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by BamBam192

I am going to be honest with you. There are many different things that could have happened. 1) Her phone died so therefor she wasn't able to get your text. 2)Did show and just never saw each other. 3) She and friends decided to go to another party. So those are the 3 positive scenarios. But sadly there is a bad scenario. 4) She didn't respond on purpose. If this is the case I would say she is a lost cause. If she didn't respond then she is just not interested. My advice to you is to just leave it alone. Don't text her and just leave her alone. If she wants to talk to you and text you, she will do that. So sorry to say unless she talks or text you saying "sorry I didn't see you my phone or *insert another excuse*" she is a lost cause.

she just texted me and said "im terrible at texting people back when im blacked out. sorry."

having a text-convo now. too bad im terrible at saying cool things so shes gonna think im lame.

CCuster_911 · 11-01-2009, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by TurnUpTheSun

she just texted me and said "im terrible at texting people back when im blacked out. sorry."

having a text-convo now. too bad im terrible at saying cool things so shes gonna think im lame.

should of responded- "Yea im pretty bad at doing things when I african american out too"

BamBam192 · 11-01-2009, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by TurnUpTheSun

she just texted me and said "im terrible at texting people back when im blacked out. sorry."

having a text-convo now. too bad im terrible at saying cool things so shes gonna think im lame.

Let me know how the text convo goes. Say something along the lines of "Haha its ok I was so messed up too."

TurnUpTheSun · 11-01-2009, 04:30 PM

coulda gone better, but really, i have no idea.
she ended up asking me something about class.
i had some good lines i guess.
its just frustrating not knowing what shes thinking.
like did she want to see me at the bar?

BamBam192 · 11-01-2009, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by TurnUpTheSun

coulda gone better, but really, i have no idea.
she ended up asking me something about class.
i had some good lines i guess.
its just frustrating not knowing what shes thinking.
like did she want to see me at the bar?

Maybe yes maybe no. The problem with girls like her is you never really know. You need to either go balls to the wall and ask her out on a date or just leave it like it is.

TurnUpTheSun · 11-01-2009, 06:21 PM

from talking to friends, they have told me im expecting something way too fast and most times when there is potential, it involves games, texting, and not knowing anything about what is going on. they said this is normal.
i think it sucks.

tom_dwonk · 11-01-2009, 06:52 PM

^^ it does suck, thats why i have adopted a new method, the "i just dont give a **** method," being dry (other then flirting) is playing half the game, you cant give the women the upper hand, ie drop L bombs, or let her know that you are weak for her (even if you are).

Go with the flow, if you ask a girl to do something and they say no who cares, on to the next, its like multi tableing 1.75 18 mans on stars, if you bust you load up another one and forget about the last one

GeoGeo · 11-01-2009, 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by tom_dwonk

^^ it does suck, thats why i have adopted a new method, the "i just dont give a **** method," being dry (other then flirting) is playing half the game, you cant give the women the upper hand, ie drop L bombs, or let her know that you are weak for her (even if you are).

Go with the flow, if you ask a girl to do something and they say no who cares, on to the next, its like multi tableing 1.75 18 mans on stars, if you bust you load up another one and forget about the last one

love it

DerrtySlime · 11-01-2009, 07:05 PM

pretending to not care while actually caring, while increasing the number of girls you are going to involve yourself with just seems like way more frustration and emotional stress. Sure you might get a few more chicks in the long run but the cost is substantial. I say it's better to improve yourself. Guys who are big and strong and who are in the top social group get way more choice and way less frustration. feel free to disagree with this.

tom_dwonk · 11-01-2009, 07:06 PM

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love it

and unlike poker, girls are getting easier, and will continue to get easier as you get older.... dont think this games gunna be dryin up any time soooon

Korlit · 11-01-2009, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by tom_dwonk

^^ it does suck, thats why i have adopted a new method, the "i just dont give a **** method," being dry (other then flirting) is playing half the game, you cant give the women the upper hand, ie drop L bombs, or let her know that you are weak for her (even if you are).

Go with the flow, if you ask a girl to do something and they say no who cares, on to the next, its like multi tableing 1.75 18 mans on stars, if you bust you load up another one and forget about the last one

great post, man.

yeotaJMU · 11-01-2009, 10:20 PM

OP imo the chick is in to you, you just need to relax a bit about her. stop asking her to dinner and stuff constantly you need to not force it. you are in a good place here id bet that you can get with her this weekend.

maybe let her initiate once in awhile. instead of running up to her like a puppy as soon as class is over just leave next time. maybe she will text you saying something like "hey whyd you leave so fast", maybe she wont. if she doesnt who cares. you arent dating yet. thats the mentality you need to have.

also, rather than try to get her in dating situations all the time like dinner/movie, try to get her in social situations with other people and eventually isolate her.

you are doing well though, from what you describe she is into you and as long as you dont go desperate stalker you are money.

Skinz · 11-01-2009, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by yeotaJMU

OP imo the chick is in to you, you just need to relax a bit about her. stop asking her to dinner and stuff constantly you need to not force it. you are in a good place here id bet that you can get with her this weekend.

maybe let her initiate once in awhile. instead of running up to her like a puppy as soon as class is over just leave next time. maybe she will text you saying something like "hey whyd you leave so fast", maybe she wont. if she doesnt who cares. you arent dating yet. thats the mentality you need to have.

also, rather than try to get her in dating situations all the time like dinner/movie, try to get her in social situations with other people and eventually isolate her.

you are doing well though, from what you describe she is into you and as long as you dont go desperate stalker you are money.

I agree with this completly. There are two lines with girls: 1. You're looking for a relationship. 2: You're looking for a "one night stand"/hookup.

It's cool to rush things with the 2nd one cause if it fails who cares. But if you are looking to date this girl you need patience. And even when you do start hooking up it'll prob be a few months before you are official anyway (as other posters said there is always that "we're together/exclusive" stage.)

But with that said get to know her a bit. Try to hang out with her more, casually not like 5 star resteruant official date with flowers and wine. And if you are nervous about making a move do it drunk, always excusible.

TurnUpTheSun · 11-01-2009, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by yeotaJMU

OP imo the chick is in to you, you just need to relax a bit about her. stop asking her to dinner and stuff constantly you need to not force it. you are in a good place here id bet that you can get with her this weekend.

maybe let her initiate once in awhile. instead of running up to her like a puppy as soon as class is over just leave next time. maybe she will text you saying something like "hey whyd you leave so fast", maybe she wont. if she doesnt who cares. you arent dating yet. thats the mentality you need to have.

also, rather than try to get her in dating situations all the time like dinner/movie, try to get her in social situations with other people and eventually isolate her.

you are doing well though, from what you describe she is into you and as long as you dont go desperate stalker you are money.

i only asked her to go to lunch once, not really sure where this dinner/movie stuff youre talking about happened. but besides that, i really gotta say it makes sense. maybe i will play games or whatever and do the ignore her thing. i can see that backfiring because like i said, shes a shy girl (i think). however since she did text me today, who knows.