"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2013 Year of the Tall Blonde

[goofyballer]

Yeah, when Jen broke up with me the worst part was the paralyzing fear of feeling like I'd lost something I'd worked so hard for and would have to start completely over wrt trying to meet new girls.

[SoloAJ]

Frankly, I haven't tried at all since my last girlfriend, and that was a long time ago.

That doesn't mean I haven't had girls come on to me when they came over to make rice krispie treats.

Or coworkers that say, "I have a crush on you, so I feel kind of awkward." lol.

Those teases aside...It can be rough going through all of that if you're not really looking for it. I really haven't put any effort in, and I'm starting to worry that it's becoming a lifestyle of solitude. Even when people want to set me up right now, I just think "ehhh seems like a lot of work." That needs to change.

[goofyballer]

Wait, so you're not even trying when stuff falls into your lap? wtf @ this rice krispie treats thing?

[Karak]

If the effort doesn't seem worth it, then the girl probably isn't worth it. But you should try looking for some girls who interest you.

I mean if you're happy single then you're happy single. I wouldn't go forcing anything. Problem is you can't let that attitude continue into mid-late 30s if you eventually want to marry someone and have kids haha.

[SoloAJ]

Originally Posted by goofyballer

Wait, so you're not even trying when stuff falls into your lap? wtf @ this rice krispie treats thing?

Well. The rice krispie thing was with an engaged girl who I (for better or worse) didn't do anything with even though...well I could have. I don't have a couch, so my bed became a place for her to lie down and, etc etc. Didn't do anything even though I could have.

Her fiance (two hrs away) later gave her crap about going to my place to hang out like that. She then said to me that she found it weird he would be upset. So she was basically acting like it was no big deal and she didn't think anything of it. I have ZERO doubts in my mind that we could have hooked up and she would have wanted it. And coming from someone like me, that tells you something, since I'm not someone to see a girl is interested unless a hammer is used on my head.

At the time I was being morally sound, but in hindsight...I don't know.

The recent active pursuing girl just was clingy and shy, etc. I've talked about her before. In that case, I just wasn't feeling it nearly as much as she was. Hard to temper the expectations of a girl with a crush (especially one who is socially behind her age).

Originally Posted by Karak

If the effort doesn't seem worth it, then the girl probably isn't worth it. But you should try looking for some girls who interest you.

I mean if you're happy single then you're happy single. I wouldn't go forcing anything. Problem is you can't let that attitude continue into mid-late 30s if you eventually want to marry someone and have kids haha.

These are my thoughts entirely on this right now. I'm fine and dandy single right now. I'm just worried it will carry on too far into my 30s or whatever, and then I'll regret not having done something about it when I was in my 20s (25 now).

[SoloAJ]

That was a pretty crappy quasi TR about the rice krispie thing, but it was pretty entertaining.

[thebigeasy59]

grunching a lot of posts here- DON'T LIKE THE ****ING STATUS.

[goofyballer]

As for electrical engineer chick (roommate's gf set me up with her, we went out last Thurs and chatted for a bit amongst a group, get along pretty well, I got her #) - thoughts on ice skating as a first date? She used to ice skate and I've always wanted to learn (but will assuredly be terrible at it my first time), I figure there can be some goofy hand-holding involved while I find my balance and it'd be fun. Want/do not want?

[Mittens]

Originally Posted by goofyballer

As for electrical engineer chick (roommate's gf set me up with her, we went out last Thurs and chatted for a bit amongst a group, get along pretty well, I got her #) - thoughts on ice skating as a first date? She used to ice skate and I've always wanted to learn (but will assuredly be terrible at it my first time), I figure there can be some goofy hand-holding involved while I find my balance and it'd be fun. Want/do not want?

You have a hockey avatar and have never ice-skated?

[zugzwang83]

go bowling obv

[goofyballer]

Originally Posted by Mittens

You have a hockey avatar and have never ice-skated?

Dude, I'm from the bay area, who the **** learns to ice skate here?

[SoloAJ]

Ice skating is a fine idea. You won't be nearly as bad at it as you think. It's like rollerblading on square wheels or something. It's weird feeling at first, but you probably won't crash around if you have any agility/balance.

I like the idea. Especially considering where you are. It's something she likes. It's something you legitimately want to do. Sounds like a go.

goofy, any update on FC?

[goofyballer]

I texted FC today to ask if she wanted to get drinks sometime this week after work, she said this week is awfulllllll due to work/social calendar and she'll give me a call when she's in the city (she lives like 45 miles north of SF, but only 20-25 miles from where I work).

[SoloAJ]

Well at least she made it easy. Kind of in her court exclusively at this point.

[goofyballer]

Yeah, it's nice not having to sweat about it, and she seemed to enjoy chatting on the phone. But if she doesn't call, no biggie.