"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2013 Year of the Tall Blonde - Page 2241

Spurious · 10-27-2011, 11:31 AM

WHO DOUBTED IT?

Read LKJ's post again, it's all in there.

**LKJ** · 10-27-2011, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by dkgojackets

acting like thats the only social scene though is just wrong

I agree.

...so it's a good thing that nobody has done that.

Spurious · 10-27-2011, 11:32 AM

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Originally Posted by LKJ

I mean, I'm personally with you on how desirable this sounds, but "outdoorsy" is a pretty big niche and I wouldn't think it would be that limiting.

It came off different than I wanted it to be. I edit it out. I did point out that outdoorsy is a bad example for it.

**LKJ** · 10-27-2011, 11:33 AM

Ah, okay.

**dkgojackets** · 10-27-2011, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by LKJ

I agree.

...so it's a good thing that nobody has done that.

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You must go something for entertainment. When I said weekend I just meant about going to bars / clubs / parties.

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The-fryke · 10-27-2011, 11:42 AM

In the EDF thread, I remember disagreeing with almost everything Spurious wrote. In this thread, I agree with almost everything you write.

Weird

PS How is this an argument? DKGO stop arguing with yourself. In college drinking>other social activities>no social activities. However that is subjective (though supported by the majority), so people are conceding that social activities>no social activities.

You are still arguing about the subjective point re drinking>other social activities, which noone is arguing with you, because its subjective and that subjectivity (word?) has been conceded.

PPS But you are wrong

AKSpartan · 10-27-2011, 11:43 AM

You work 4 days a week and play cards the other 3 days. You can't take a day away each week from live degenery?

GoCubsGo · 10-27-2011, 11:43 AM

GG,

I likes that TR a lot.

Krayz,

The reasons you don't get women probably go far beyond your introversion. In a vacuum, that hurts but isnt debilitating. All the stuff that comes with it tho

**LKJ** · 10-27-2011, 11:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Henry17

You must go something for entertainment. When I said weekend I just meant about going to bars / clubs / parties. Not being available on weekends hurts those but you likely still do stuff. Do you go out during the week?

If you don't have a social life than your chances with any girl is close to zero.

You're for some reason omitting the sentences on either side of that one, the ones that give context. The one you keep quoting is the one where he explained why he told the guy to discuss what he was doing that weekend in order to strike up a convo. Those sentences that add context imply strongly that he understands that bars/clubs/parties are NOT the only things that comprise a social life.

And again, it's that last line that even made this a dispute.

**LKJ** · 10-27-2011, 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by The-fryke

In the EDF thread, I remember disagreeing with almost everything Spurious wrote. In this thread, I agree with almost everything you write.

Weird

I think he operates in seasons or something. I used to be a huge critic of his but don't disagree with him very often at all anymore.

**dkgojackets** · 10-27-2011, 11:54 AM

Last edited by LKJ; Today at 10:48 AM. Reason: u mad?

Henry17 · 10-27-2011, 12:18 PM

Social life does not require drinking. That said even as an adult alcohol does appear at pretty much every non-sport social activity and even at the sport based ones it often presents itself afterward.

When talking about students the bar / party scene does make up the vast majority of the options. You can choose other options but by doing so you are automatically excluding the majority of girls. Joining the SCA is a social activity but not one that will likely appeal to as many girls as going to dinner and a club. If you choose the SCA as your scene you have to accept that you've excluded 99.99% of the female population.

My point is that if all you have to offer is hanging out at home no girl is going to be interested in that.

diskoteque · 10-27-2011, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Henry17

My point is that if all you have to offer is hanging out at home no girl is going to be interested in that.

while this is generally true (80%++) there are some girls who prefer laying low and watching movies to the bar/club scene.

for a "cool" guy, i'm pretty damn nerdy (as if posting on this forum wasn't enough evidence). i spent plenty of weekend nights just hanging out watching TV/playing poker/videogames. i've dated a couple of girls pretty seriously--objective 7s--who actually enjoyed just sitting on my couch and doing her own thing. they were like grandmas-- cooking, cleaning, baking for me and if we went out it would be to a nice dinner.

interestingly, these girls were both incredibly insecure and jealous. they HATED when i'd go out and if i did they'd automatically assume i cheated and hit me with an interrogation when i got home.

in any event, the problem with this sort of semi anti-social behavior is that it limits the nights you can pick up women because you're certainly not meeting any in your apartment building or whatever.

Jasonsc · 10-27-2011, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Krayz

I mean you haven't seen guys that don't go out to bars and party have desirable girlfriends before?

And lol at having no social life = undesirable loser. You think people like Bill Gates and other nerdy or introverted types are undesirable to women?

Partying and drinking is a big part of the college lifestyle, but if you go to any decent school there are kids that aren't involved in it. And I've seen them with some smoking hot babes that ddon't give two ****s about that lifestyle.

And you can go shove the attitude up where the sun don't shine.

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Originally Posted by Henry17

Age doesn't matter. The form in which social life is expressed changes-- the booze gets better and the quantity consumed decreases-- but people still have lives way past university. Being boring will destroy any relationship either because the girl finds someone who isn't boring and leaves or if she is not attractive enough to do that the sex life diminishes drastically and they stop trying with respect to their physical appearance.

I got tired of the back and fourth and stopped reading. However I must ask, is it considered that a social life only revolves around events where drink is involved / general night time partying?

I love to party, as do most people. However I'm not sure I would consider someone who isn't into drinking a "loser". Someone who has two or three sporting activities or something and has a lot of friends within these activies wouldn't be considered a loser?
Trying to get a girl though, unless the girl was into the same hobbies as you I imagine she'd get bored pretty fast with not going out anywhere other than to your hobby events.

Jasonsc · 10-27-2011, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Henry17

They don't necessarily need to have been cheated on but they are insecure that they know it could happen to them and is even likely to happen to them.

Are you saying you assume guys who feel this way about the whole cheating thing (me, honestly) lack confidence and therefore feel insecure that it is likely they will be cheated on?

Or, is it that on average (or in general... whatever, I'm not really sure which works better) a person in a relationship has a high chance of being cheated on?

I feel it's entirely based on the girl to be honest.