Originally Posted by zzthe3rd
How to convey your needs to lose weight discretely? This is pretty much always an issue for me and girlfriends/girls I date for extended periods. Since April I'd say gf has gone from 110 to around 120. 120 is still not so bad at all but I wouldve said her body was 10 before vs 8.5 now, and each point as you approach extremes is more noticeable so the difference is a bit disappointing (had it been 8.5 when we started dating though I probably wouldn't care at all right now).
It is not as easy as saying "hey I am going to start working out, wanna come?" because I already have a high metabolism, work out a lot, and play soccer tons, which is what gives me the leeway to drink a lot and eat out without ever really worrying about anything. Don't really see a way to incorporate the "lets do this together!" strategy. She came with me to the gym a bunch back in the beginning but hasn't for probably the last month (tbf she also started a job along with classes so has less time/later nights but still I don't think is is too unreasonable to expect someone to adjust and make small sacrifices to stay in shape right?).
Do you guys live together? I can't keep track of your zany romance.
If you do don't keep junk food in the house. If you don't then say you miss her at the gym or something and insist she come along. Sounds like she's getting complacent and lazy since she's busy and already in a relationship so she doesn't feel the need to be at 100% physically (and I agree with you that this is a slippery slope). Eat healthy when you go out for meals.
Pretty tough spot though. I honestly can't think of anything.