Originally Posted by TimeLady
Hmmm, somewhat awkward question
I have date with guy tonight, but. Well. I'm on anti-depressants and the main side effect I have is that I have like no libido right now. How do I approach telling him this? "I do wanna have sex with you, just not right now."? The odds he pushes for sex tonight is like 50/50 btw.
Try to get a feel for who he is as a person, and then decide how to proceed. Not to be all cynical, but this is gonna come as a pretty big red flag to most guys for a couple very important reasons. 1. You have a history of depression, which is tough to deal with in a relationship and 2. you are going to have a very low libido for the indefinite future.
Depending on the vibes you get from the guy, the best strategy ranges from never telling him (I think this probably won't work cause he'll get tired of the no sex thing when he doesn't understand why you're holding out) or selling yourself as best you can as a happy, normal person so he gets hooked, then letting him know about the anti-depressant thing and hope he sticks around until you get back to normal again.
Is it out of the question to give him a blowjob to keep him satisfied for the time being?