"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2013 Year of the Tall Blonde - Page 2002

c4m1k4z3 · 08-25-2011, 05:39 AM

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Originally Posted by TimeLady

Hmmm, somewhat awkward question

I have date with guy tonight, but. Well. I'm on anti-depressants and the main side effect I have is that I have like no libido right now. How do I approach telling him this? "I do wanna have sex with you, just not right now."? The odds he pushes for sex tonight is like 50/50 btw.

ecstasy -> seratonin syndrome LDO

AKSpartan · 08-25-2011, 05:45 AM

Does not compute

Brownian_Motion · 08-25-2011, 08:09 AM

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Originally Posted by TimeLady

Hmmm, somewhat awkward question

I have date with guy tonight, but. Well. I'm on anti-depressants and the main side effect I have is that I have like no libido right now. How do I approach telling him this? "I do wanna have sex with you, just not right now."? The odds he pushes for sex tonight is like 50/50 btw.

Eat a ton of chocolate.

Failed Again · 08-25-2011, 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by DoubleD

95% of the time I am in the library I really don't want people coming up to talk to me. I don't see how this would be different if I was female.

Agreed but that awkwardness makes it weirder but better.

**dkgojackets** · 08-25-2011, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by goofyballer

this shows that despite all the new and individually funny gifs that people slobbered over in the draft, you cant go wrong with a classic response gif

Duerig · 08-25-2011, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by TimeLady

Hmmm, somewhat awkward question

I have date with guy tonight, but. Well. I'm on anti-depressants and the main side effect I have is that I have like no libido right now. How do I approach telling him this? "I do wanna have sex with you, just not right now."? The odds he pushes for sex tonight is like 50/50 btw.

How many dates have you been on? Are you going to end up at one of your places? How long until you will have a libido? You can probably get away with something vague like "now is not a good time" and he'll assume you're on your period.

Henry17 · 08-25-2011, 09:10 AM

goofyballer,

Sister situation sucks but those situations are very difficult to intervene in and pretty much impossible to do anything about from a distance.

TimeLady,

Don't tell him you are on anti-depressants.

AADYNASTY,

You wrote -- "it was kind of obvious she may have been into me" -- Why did you think this? Be very specific.

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I really have nothing to lose but do you guys think its too creepy to add her on facebook and say hey I was in your stats class, sat next to you etc etc would you like to go out to eat sometime or something?

Very creepy.

**LKJ** · 08-25-2011, 10:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Henry17

Ordering wine at a bar is possible (I use to do it) but you do look a little out of place - especially when it is two guys and you get a bottle of white with a ice bucket.

Glad I finally discovered a bar last night where this wasn't out of place. Wine is the primary special on Wednesday nights in this bar and it seemed like that was being consumed by about half of the people there as a result. Sitting out on the patio on a nice night and splitting a few bottles with a table of friends was a great low-key time.

AADYNASTY · 08-25-2011, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Henry17

goofyballer,

Sister situation sucks but those situations are very difficult to intervene in and pretty much impossible to do anything about from a distance.

TimeLady,

Don't tell him you are on anti-depressants.

AADYNASTY,

You wrote -- "it was kind of obvious she may have been into me" -- Why did you think this? Be very specific.

Very creepy.

She initiated conversation numerous times, and she would always help me out during the lab..Ok how about just adding her and saying hey I was in your stats class this past semester then just leave it at that and let her initiate something if she is interested? or would you just let it be.

mullen · 08-25-2011, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by AADYNASTY

She initiated conversation numerous times, and she would always help me out during the lab..Ok how about just adding her and saying hey I was in your stats class this past semester then just leave it at that and let her initiate something if she is interested? or would you just let it be.

This doesn't indicate romantic interest. I wouldn't add her on facebook months later when you don't actually see her every week. Run into her again and strike up conversation on campus.

TimeLady,

How long are these side effects? If they are fairly temporary I'd just say it's your period and go from there. If it's a long time you're in a pretty tough spot - I agree with Henry and if necessary I'd say you're on antibiotics that diminish sex drive.

skunkworks · 08-25-2011, 11:49 AM

Listen to mullen. You missed your opportunity while you had class with her. Don't miss it next time it happens. And who knows, maybe you'll run into that girl again, but you can't go chasing after it. You already missed it.

Krayz · 08-25-2011, 12:44 PM

Or you're on a new bc that reduces libido? I think that's a good out.

Krayz · 08-25-2011, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Krayz

Wait to run into her again and chat her up. Otherwise drop it.

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Henry17 · 08-25-2011, 12:51 PM

Just because she initiated conversation and helped you does not mean she was interested in your romantically. If that was all that was required to signal romantic interest then there are a few thousand girls interested in me and I've apparently signalled to several thousand that I am interested in them. People are friendly for reasons other than romantic or sexual attraction.

If you were interested in her the way you should have dealt with it was tit for tat escalation back then. Doing something now is not a good idea. Even if she was interested that would be enough to mak her not be interested.

I wouldn't think about this as a situation lost. The odds that she was just being friendly re overwhelmingly greater than that she was romantically interested.

GoCubsGo · 08-25-2011, 02:32 PM

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Originally Posted by TimeLady

Hmmm, somewhat awkward question

I have date with guy tonight, but. Well. I'm on anti-depressants and the main side effect I have is that I have like no libido right now. How do I approach telling him this? "I do wanna have sex with you, just not right now."? The odds he pushes for sex tonight is like 50/50 btw.

Try to get a feel for who he is as a person, and then decide how to proceed. Not to be all cynical, but this is gonna come as a pretty big red flag to most guys for a couple very important reasons. 1. You have a history of depression, which is tough to deal with in a relationship and 2. you are going to have a very low libido for the indefinite future.

Depending on the vibes you get from the guy, the best strategy ranges from never telling him (I think this probably won't work cause he'll get tired of the no sex thing when he doesn't understand why you're holding out) or selling yourself as best you can as a happy, normal person so he gets hooked, then letting him know about the anti-depressant thing and hope he sticks around until you get back to normal again.

Is it out of the question to give him a blowjob to keep him satisfied for the time being?