"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2013 Year of the Tall Blonde - Page 159

Vintage00 · 02-03-2010, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Spurious

Seems pretty obvious to me that she wants to party, get drunk, make out and ****.

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Originally Posted by Stinger88

yeah that's my read

Yeah, I'm getting those vibes too. There's a lot there though. More on this later in this post.

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Originally Posted by yeotaJMU

personally i wouldnt be able to/mess with someone who i dated for that long and havent seen in some time unless i still had feelings for them. id be careful at any rate, and i definitely wouldnt give up a different potential hookup because she is there.

do you have feelings for her still?

See, up until the phone call yesterday, I had just kinda dismissed it as "first love, high school sweetheart" type stuff, just all in the past. I assumed people just about always had SOME sort of feelings for the first girl that they ever loved. Now that it's not 100% in the past, I don't really know what to feel.

I think my approach is going to be "if it happens, it happens" and just kinda go with the flow. I think she is looking for a comfortable situation (she just moved to a new town <6mo ago) and to be able to have fun and be happy. I can do that. If we bang one out, whatev. Wouldn't be the first time.

yeotaJMU · 02-03-2010, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Vintage00

See, up until the phone call yesterday, I had just kinda dismissed it as "first love, high school sweetheart" type stuff, just all in the past. I assumed people just about always had SOME sort of feelings for the first girl that they ever loved. Now that it's not 100% in the past, I don't really know what to feel.

I think my approach is going to be "if it happens, it happens" and just kinda go with the flow. I think she is looking for a comfortable situation (she just moved to a new town <6mo ago) and to be able to have fun and be happy. I can do that. If we bang one out, whatev. Wouldn't be the first time.

sounds like youve got your head on right, might as well enjoy her company

il_martilo · 02-03-2010, 03:30 PM

Yeah the plan is to text her tonight, and see how that goes. If I like the response I'm getting then I'll call tomorrow night and invite her out with my group on Friday.

Stinger88 · 02-03-2010, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by GoodGame

stinger i'm surprised you don't throw parties. maybe you've grown out of it by now or were never into it but it seems like that would be a huge help.

idk who it was but didn't someone on here throw a champagne party in college where everyone had their own bottle? more reasonable would be the kinda party they had in the poker film when stealthmonk visited georgia and tdomeski ppl

Meh, I have occasionally, although I'm generally more interested in entertaining everyone and making sure my house makes it out in one piece than trying to hook up with girls when I do. More often I just have people over for pregame or afterhours, which is less hassle and in the case of afterhours probably more hookup potential anyway. That said, I don't really care right now because I'm really into A and it seems to be progressing nicely now.

edit - Also, flaunting wealth is just totally not my style, although I stock up on booze and let everyone drink for free when I have ppl over

Geddy Lee · 02-03-2010, 03:39 PM

Stinger, you're the ****ing man. GG.

**Karak** · 02-03-2010, 04:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Stinger88

I stock up on booze and let everyone drink for free when I have ppl over

hey i do this too

i am very generous with my low to mid level liquors and bargain deer piss beers

**LKJ** · 02-03-2010, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by yeotaJMU

call her out for not sitting next to you on the couch. she goes to the chair, say something along the lines of "are you too good for the couch or something?". have a blanket available, and make sure you are sitting in the middle of the couch so she has to sit near you.

little bit into the movie, throw the blanket on both of you. escalate from there to some cuddling, a kiss moment should be in there somewhere.

The call-out line for simply going to the seat she normally goes to would seem a bit weird to me, but I'll take a modified version of this line I think. I'll get her over to the couch under some pretense (I've got one in mind that should work well) and if she tries to bounce away after sitting there then I might throw out some line about it to gauge for reaction. We'll see how it goes.

**Karak** · 02-03-2010, 04:19 PM

im in a ****ing terrible mood so i apologize in advance for any tone issues

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Originally Posted by Vintage00

Yeah, I'm getting those vibes too. There's a lot there though. More on this later in this post.

See, up until the phone call yesterday, I had just kinda dismissed it as "first love, high school sweetheart" type stuff, just all in the past. I assumed people just about always had SOME sort of feelings for the first girl that they ever loved. Now that it's not 100% in the past, I don't really know what to feel.

I think my approach is going to be "if it happens, it happens" and just kinda go with the flow. I think she is looking for a comfortable situation (she just moved to a new town <6mo ago) and to be able to have fun and be happy. I can do that. If we bang one out, whatev. Wouldn't be the first time.

This sounds fine.

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Originally Posted by il_martilo

Yeah the plan is to text her tonight, and see how that goes. If I like the response I'm getting then I'll call tomorrow night and invite her out with my group on Friday.

What will you be texting her?

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Originally Posted by LKJ

The call-out line for simply going to the seat she normally goes to would seem a bit weird to me.

You're right.

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, but I'll take a modified version of this line I think. I'll get her over to the couch under some pretense (I've got one in mind that should work well) and if she tries to bounce away after sitting there then I might throw out some line about it to gauge for reaction. We'll see how it goes

Don't do this, more below.

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Originally Posted by yeotaJMU

call her out for not sitting next to you on the couch. she goes to the chair, say something along the lines of "are you too good for the couch or something?". have a blanket available, and make sure you are sitting in the middle of the couch so she has to sit near you.

No, this is the wrong answer to what, really, is a **** test from a girl that is evaluating her attraction to you. You don't even ****ing recognize that she's on the other couch. You give her a reason to come over there. Do NOT call her out on it. Don't even make it apparent that you give a ****. Get your laptop out and offer to show her a youtube video, make a bowl of popcorn do SOMETHING so that you create an action for her to undertake. Do not admit you are annoyed or feel left out because she is on the other couch.

thebigeasy59 · 02-03-2010, 04:44 PM

LKJ- Sit in her seat, forcing her to the couch. Get up for whatever reason (grab a beer, go for a piss, etc.) and sit down on the couch beside her when you come back.

LT22 · 02-03-2010, 04:54 PM

that is such dumb passive aggressive behavior imo

just go with the popcorn, laptop youtube videos, etc + make a move

GoodGame · 02-03-2010, 05:04 PM

wtf is up with showing ppl youtube videos. idk about u guys but that's one of the most irritating things ever to me

toomanyletters · 02-03-2010, 05:23 PM

how the **** is that a bad question. ive done what yo said now I am going out with a girl and won't even tell me if it's normal or ok on what to do.

il_martilo · 02-03-2010, 05:26 PM

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What will you be texting her?

I'm gonna start with "Impressive facebook detective skills" or some variant of that and go from there.

Honestly, I don't have a lot more to go with than that.

il_martilo · 02-03-2010, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by toomanyletters

how the **** is that a bad question. ive done what yo said now I am going out with a girl and won't even tell me if it's normal or ok on what to do.

Dinner is ok but cliche. Better than a movie, worse than something more interesting.

**LKJ** · 02-03-2010, 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Vintage00

I assumed people just about always had SOME sort of feelings for the first girl that they ever loved.

Pretty sure that I have zero feelings or even respect for mine. She was crazy, but I put up with it because...well, it's difficult to give up action the first time you're getting it. I thought at the time that I loved her, but who the **** knows at that young age.

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Originally Posted by Karak

No, this is the wrong answer to what, really, is a **** test from a girl that is evaluating her attraction to you. You don't even ****ing recognize that she's on the other couch. You give her a reason to come over there. Do NOT call her out on it. Don't even make it apparent that you give a ****. Get your laptop out and offer to show her a youtube video, make a bowl of popcorn do SOMETHING so that you create an action for her to undertake. Do not admit you are annoyed or feel left out because she is on the other couch.

Fair enough. I have a better option than a YouTube video in mind but it would take too much time to be worth explaining. Your advice on not saying anything if she bounces away rings true.

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Originally Posted by thebigeasy59

LKJ- Sit in her seat, forcing her to the couch. Get up for whatever reason (grab a beer, go for a piss, etc.) and sit down on the couch beside her when you come back.

This would work, but sounds a little awkward and obvious to me. I'll think about it. "Obvious" isn't necessarily a bad thing, but "obviously scripted" is.