"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2013 Year of the Tall Blonde

[Karak]

in 6 months hopefully ill be studying law in new york, boston or chicago

(to translate: NYU/Columbia, Harvard, UChicago)

[Gold and Blue]

Originally Posted by GoodGame

i think best case scenario that happens if karak tells A he likes her is that she says "i like you to but not in that way as long as i'm with my boyfriend, maybe in the future something could happen".

then 6 months later they breakup and if karak is still somewhat around he's #1 on the rebound list because it will make her current bf jealous that you hung out with her in the relationship and she went straight to you.

but the talk could backfire and make things so awkward that in 6 months when their relationship is over you might not be around anymore.

I found out the hard way recently. Telling a girl you like her is digging your own friendzone grave and jumping right in.

Also, waiting around for a girl to be her potential rebound is silly. You've gotta move on.

[LT22]

I forgot that you want to move far away from your current location. If you have a very realistic shot at moving to one of those schools, I would give up on trying to establish anything serious with any girl. Date and have casual relationships as you see fit into your schedule, but man I would seriously avoid chasing A for a LTR at this point when moving away so soon (hopefully).

What's ur odds of moving?

[il_martilo]

Originally Posted by Karak

it is hilarious and entertaining

and it does stroke my ego

HOWEVER, it is getting in the way of my study time at the library. i cant do my readings or concentrate on my work because this is constantly going on and this constant ****ing battle rages. i cant do work anywhere but the library. i cant work well at home.

i like A, a lot. i guess i should tell her.

BUT TELLING HER IS SO ****ING AGAINST EVERYTHING INGRAINED IN MY 2+2 GIRL THEORY BONES

****

+ Life EV is more important than - WomanEV IMHO.

[il_martilo]

Age-Old Question of 2nd Communication Initiation

This is wrt one of the girls I met on Friday and got her number. I thought I remembered her being the cutest of the 3 that I talked to and really the only one that I had any kind of actual interest in (I always get a number just in case though).

I called Sunday night around 9pm hoping to get voicemail. I'm great at leaving messages (it's like the best of both worlds-- you get to premeditate exactly what you're going to say like a text, but you don't look like a wimp for texting) and was taken slightly off guard when she picked up after 5.5 rings.

Phone conversation was a little slow at first. Obviously I wasn't going to beat around the bush and make small talk for 15 minutes, but it was a little awkward at first. FWIW I didn't remember that much of our conversation either (I wasn't even totally sure her name was in my phone correctly) just that she was cute.

Her-- "Hello?"
ILM-- "Hey how's it going. It's ILM"
Her-- "Who"
ILM-- "ILM.... we talked for a while Friday night at XXXX."
Her-- "Oh yeah. How are things?"
ILM-- "Rough weekend too I see?"

...

I make small talk for a couple minutes, say I had a good time on Friday and wanted to see what she was up to the following night. She pauses for a second and says this week is bad because of tests and stuff, and then says maybe this weekend? The line itself wasn't that terrible but something about her intonation set off my bull**** detector at the time.

It goes without saying that this is the most classically ambiguous response of all time. My initial reaction was to chalk it up as BS and never talk to her again.

Today I get a friend request from her on facebook. She did not know my last name. There are a few routes she could have gone to find me, but they would have taken some SERIOUS effort (e.g. she knew where I went to high school, so looked up a mutual friend from my hs, and searched his friends for my first name?).

Discuss.

[fezjones]

Originally Posted by il_martilo

Today I get a friend request from her on facebook. She did not know my last name. There are a few routes she could have gone to find me, but they would have taken some SERIOUS effort (e.g. she knew where I went to high school, so looked up a mutual friend from my hs, and searched his friends for my first name?).

Discuss.

she wants your dick in her mouth bro

[Karak]

Originally Posted by Gold and Blue

I found out the hard way recently. Telling a girl you like her is digging your own friendzone grave and jumping right in.

Also, waiting around for a girl to be her potential rebound is silly. You've gotta move on.

I don't wait around for women, but she's always there!

Originally Posted by LT22

I forgot that you want to move far away from your current location. If you have a very realistic shot at moving to one of those schools, I would give up on trying to establish anything serious with any girl. Date and have casual relationships as you see fit into your schedule, but man I would seriously avoid chasing A for a LTR at this point when moving away so soon (hopefully).

What's ur odds of moving?

They are pretty good, and I never said I'm chasing A for a LTR at any point. That potential is there, sure, but it's the furthest thing from my mind.

Either way, Henry17 in EDF recommended just continually doing date-ish activities with her and putting yourself in the position (+ alcohol or something) for her to make a move, rather than setting yourself up to getting guilted by her.

[Dankenstein]

Originally Posted by Gold and Blue

Yeah, you know better than to go down that road with A.

I'm pretty much with lastchance on this. Getting A would involve using B. All this will take time, possibly complicate things further, and most certainly tilt you harder.

Really though, it might be best to ignore them or do something of the sort if it is seriously interfering with your work. You are in a very enviable position (law school wise). Another rocking semester and you could have the world by the balls. I'm sure you won't let this happen, but just don't allow these broads to distract you from your studies.

You really should just ignore them. There is no point in chasing this if you're getting teased. If they are truly interested, they'll realize the heat is on and that they might lose you and they will get more aggressive / make a move on you. Just do your own thing. I mean don't be obnoxious and obviously talk to them when you see them, but don't make an active effort to pursue them or ask them out to functions etc...

[Karak]

Originally Posted by Dankenstein

You really should just ignore them. There is no point in chasing this if you're getting teased. If they are truly interested, they'll realize the heat is on and that they might lose you and they will get more aggressive / make a move on you. Just do your own thing. I mean don't be obnoxious and obviously talk to them when you see them, but don't make an active effort to pursue them or ask them out to functions etc...

Yeah this will rarely ever work with a girl in a relationship. Sorry. They need to be pushed.

[TurnUpTheSun]

but you havent had to push her yet, shes always hanging all over you.
if you ignore her, you dont think she will eventually come out with the truth?

[Karak]

i dunno, but she's getting hangier and hangier every day

what im going to do is give her the opportunity, and she'll have to take it. im gunna spend a weekish worrying about this, and if she doesn't jump at it by then, ill suddenly pull back.

[TurnUpTheSun]

youre gonna give her the opportunity to cheat?
i would think she wouldnt want to be the instigator of cheating, and would want to wait for you to make a move to lesson her guilt.

[toomanyletters]

OKKK..help me here

So a good friend of mine always asked why I don't date girls. I really havnt been wanting to get involved in the dating scene till now. Today she asked me again, and said go on a date w/ my sister, it will be a blind date. I never seen her sister, but I told her I dont do the dating thing.

I checked out her sister and she is pretty damn cute. So now should I just say to her, yeah hook me up with her and I'll take her out to dinner or something?

How should I go about this, i've never done a blind date be4.


btw. I didnt see the girl again, I was running late where i usually see her. I think I got the idea though on just how to go about talking to her.

[Karak]

[LazyTops5]

lol TML

Stop overthink Sh*t and just go with the flow. Go on the blind date with the sister