"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2013 Year of the Tall Blonde - Page 1475

Spurious · 03-20-2011, 07:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Henry17

I just got up so maybe I am reading this wrong but did this litterally happen?

You were talking to the girl and she suggested you leave and you didn't?

That's how I read it.

GCG, you are either misrepresenting the situation constantly in your TRs or you leave out major details.
If she gave you "**** me"-eyes, then you must have done something to completely destroy her interest in you. Otherwise, there were no "**** me"-eyes.

Henry17 · 03-20-2011, 07:48 AM

GCG I like you and I want you to succeed but if you are going to get any feedback we need to know the details of the interaction between the time you started talking to her and when she asked you to leave.

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On the topic of guys screwing it up. Last night I watched a guy in the table next to mine tell 3-4 different girls that he was a male go-go dancer at a gay club. He always made sure to mention he was straight cut still WTF. That isn't going to get him laid.

unicorn_lord · 03-20-2011, 08:00 AM

I hit on a girl. Once.

**Karak** · 03-20-2011, 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by GoCubsGo

this isn't actually clever or funny in any way; the hooker joke doesn't tie in to anything. and this has been a disturbing trend in your trolling of me. i don't make it very hard - i'm one of the only posters that is pretty open when i fall flat on my face, thus it's pretty easy to take shots. but these half-baked efforts reflect more poorly upon you than they do on me. maybe your roommates smoke is wafting from the bathroom into your room?

you've trolled my every TR/post harder than just about every other poster ITT. there was a time where i couldnt post anything about what had happened IRL without you making some sort of negative observation or comment, no matter how ridiculous or big of a stretch it was. don't be hypocritical, bro. i can see i really touched a nerve, though, which is more indicative of your mindset here than pretty much anything i could say.

but your TRs are getting progressively more ridiculous, and my posts aren't really meant to be trolling, but a commentary on how weird your social behavior, or, in this case, analysis, has gotten.

you're like... a bit odder than every other poster itt, you seem to be getting unbelievably frustrated with your failure with women, and it's driving you progressively deeper into this really, really weird approach/mindset.

im not trying to do a spurious type internet psychological analysis here, but im really surprised the posters ITT haven't been harder on you than they have (to an ends of for your own good).

zzthe3rd · 03-20-2011, 09:32 AM

Kindof agree with the karakster here GCG. It's almost seeming like a parody at this point.

Holy wow jesus did I regress last night. Was out with artsyGirls brother + his wife, best friend + his girlfriend, and wifes tallSingleFriend. Unfortunately I was too focused on alcohol to pay her much attention for most of the evening while blondeKid (same one that introduced me to muslim + saw artsyGirl for a while) met up with us and started buying her drinks.

Not really sure how this came about because it is all a bit hazy, but we left the bar and on the way back tallFriend was like alternating between holding my arm and my hand (no Karak) while making fun of my pants the whole time (I wore these salmon colored golf pants, they were A+). And I didn't see it as any sort of sign. Like, we got back to brother+wifes apt and while I was smoking wife said "hey ZZ I think tallFriend likes you" and I was like nahhh she hates me. roflWHAT?? Duno what I was thinking, usually not such a moron.

Tricky spot now because artsyGirl just 2 nights ago finally said she actually likes me.. I thought we were on the same page-ish because at the wedding a few weeks back she was saying how it was cool because she never had a friend that she hooked up with before. Gonna need to cool that down for a bit. Think this might prevent me from going after tallFriend for the moment. Definitely do not need a sticky situation to develop.

GoCubsGo · 03-20-2011, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Henry17

GCG I like you and I want you to succeed but if you are going to get any feedback we need to know the details of the interaction between the time you started talking to her and when she asked you to leave.

With this TR I wasn't really looking for feedback, more just letting off steam. It was frustrating cause I was drunk, but I know I made a bunch of mistakes along the way. I don't need you guys to tell me that a bunch of the stuff I did/said was wrong, I already know that. The only thing I may have misperceived was her eye contact -- maybe she was just checking out my friend. I think more likely, she was just returning the gaze of any guy that looked at her, cause at one point she mentioned being bored cause her friend was talking to some guy, so she wanted to just get drunk. At the time, I figured that this may be the case, but it was worth it anyway cause girls never check me out at the bar.

At no point did I think I had a very good chance with her. In actuality, when my friend said he was leaving, he was like "You should really stay," which made me think he was clueing into something I wasn't. Like a minute later, I actually wished I would have just left. I said a few cringeworthy things and overall was just the opposite of smooth. Like I said, not my finest hour. Not really sure why -- I was a bit drunk, but I've definitely been way drunker and still handled these situations well. The girl was really strange though, and even when I'd try to get things back on a normal track, she kept doing weird **** that broke up the flow of the interaction.

She kept taking issue with things I'd say, then she'd get all pissed off, then laugh and say she was just kidding. I wasn't very consistent in my responses...you don't wanna look like a pussy and just agree with everything a girl says, but at the same time it's senseless to get into a disagreement with some girl you just wanna ****. So I tried to walk that line of holding my ground but also not making a big deal of anything...it was just an overall really weird interaction, which I definitely ****ed up, but she was ****ing with me the whole time so it's not totally on me.

If I had trusted my judgment, I would have left the conversation at several points and not bought her the drink. But I figured even if I was right, it was a minimal investment. At a bar at 1:30, friends have left, pretty hot girl is sitting next to me, it was kind of that or go home...Given that I haven't been able to get anything going lately, I think the times that I am wrong and she actually is into me make it worth the more numerous situations in which I'm right and I just waste my time/money.

We see that ZZ made the opposite mistake: Not realizing a girl was into him when she really was. It's good to be cautious like this in social circle/work settings, but with some random girl in the bar, I'd be kicking myself way more if a girl liked me and I missed it, than if a girl didn't like me and I wasted time talking to her.

**LKJ** · 03-20-2011, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by GoCubsGo

this isn't actually clever or funny in any way;

Since when would that stop Karak from telling a joke? Are you new to the thread?

With that said, his criticism isn't off point. Your TRs, if accurate, do come off as increasingly ridiculous. There's a reason that the "raging animal" thing was coined. You do seem to be pressing really, really hard. Then when you get criticized you make defensive posts like:

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Originally Posted by GoCubsGo

You guys (i.e. dude w. Mountain avatar whose posts I skipped) keep struggling to maintain the status quo. Cling to what you know. I'll keep not giving a **** about girls I'll never see again.

I don't think that many, if any, posters around here actually dislike you...so it really would be better if you actually digested some of the criticism and tried to put it to use. You don't actually not give a **** about these girls at all; you get pissed when things go awry. In this case, you openly have a bad rapport with this girl, you dislike her and she apparently even suggests that you go away at one point, and then you ask her back to your place anyway? And you're mad when she says no?

Jetto · 03-20-2011, 01:52 PM

go cubs go you might be overthinking during your chatting.

but if thats not the case then I just feel that you should og out with your bros just to have a great time. dont think about getting laid. let the energy/vibe of the party/bar come to you. youre plan everynight you go out is not to get laid but to rather have fun.

**Karak** · 03-20-2011, 02:04 PM

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Originally Posted by LKJ

Since when would that stop Karak from telling a joke? Are you new to the thread?

With that said, his criticism isn't off point. Your TRs, if accurate, do come off as increasingly ridiculous. There's a reason that the "raging animal" thing was coined. You do seem to be pressing really, really hard. Then when you get criticized you make defensive posts like:

I don't think that many, if any, posters around here actually dislike you...so it really would be better if you actually digested some of the criticism and tried to put it to use. You don't actually not give a **** about these girls at all; you get pissed when things go awry. In this case, you openly have a bad rapport with this girl, you dislike her and she apparently even suggests that you go away at one point, and then you ask her back to your place anyway? And you're mad when she says no?

Really well said. LKJ put this a lot better than I could.

I really do like you GCG, but the stuff you are writing about is getting so silly. You are either massively exaggerating or need a reality check. You don't respond to criticism well, so we (or I, I suppose) naturally go to the types of posts I made before. I ain't sure how else to tell you.

crackedquads · 03-20-2011, 02:13 PM

Hooked up (all the way) with an ex last night. We were hanging out with a big group of friends and went to a couple of bars, I drove to the second bar and dropped everyone else back off at their cars with her's being the last one. I either blatantly asked or told her to come back to my place and she sort of got angry because of my lack of effort (in pursuing her). I got annoyed and told her to just go home, which somehow turned into us making out then going back to my place.

Apparently I'm doing something, as I had another girl on St. Paddy's day also criticize me for not making a move on her. Ironically (coincidentally?) this was after we had already made out 2-3 times.

GoCubsGo · 03-20-2011, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by LKJ

With that said, his criticism isn't off point. Your TRs, if accurate, do come off as increasingly ridiculous. There's a reason that the "raging animal" thing was coined. You do seem to be pressing really, really hard.

Yeah, see my above post. Most of the time I probably walk away from this girl. I stuck around longer than I should have. Still though, not a huge mistake. I was frustrated about it last night, mostly I kinda regret putting up with talking to her.

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I don't think that many, if any, posters around here actually dislike you...so it really would be better if you actually digested some of the criticism and tried to put it to use. You don't actually not give a **** about these girls at all; you get pissed when things go awry. In this case, you openly have a bad rapport with this girl, you dislike her and she apparently even suggests that you go away at one point, and then you ask her back to your place anyway? And you're mad when she says no?

lol I see your point. My frustration obviously wasn't rational. Probably shoulda walked away from this girl, and if I wanted to take a flier and stick around, at least keep in mind that it was a longshot. Like I said, I think the most frustrating part was that talking to her was such a pain in the ass. By that point I'd already decided to stay and buy her a drink, so I felt like I should see it through to the end, but again, lots of points where I could have just cut my losses.

Can't say I regret any of it too much. I shoulda just left when my friend left, but whatever. I woulda just gone home and went to sleep a bit earlier.

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Originally Posted by Jetto

I just feel that you should og out with your bros just to have a great time. dont think about getting laid. let the energy/vibe of the party/bar come to you. youre plan everynight you go out is not to get laid but to rather have fun.

I've gotten this advice before, and I have been trying to do this. Last night I went out with friends and it was fun for a while, then I got beyond bored. We changed venues and I was chatting with my buddies and having a good time again. Then I noticed this girl staring at me and chatted her up. Went back to chatting to my buddies, and then she is staring at me again. So I think that a. this is good advice and b. it's what I've been doing lately.

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CQ, is this the ex that you left cause she wouldn't sex enough?

crackedquads · 03-20-2011, 02:24 PM

GCG I admittedly don't hit up complete randoms that often, and it takes a lot from them to earn drinks from me, so you undoubtedly have more experience doing what you're doing that I do. That said, you should have bailed when the girl tells you that you should leave with your friend. You also should have bailed the any number of times you started bickering with her.

And yes, it's that ex. She's extremely good when she wants to be, but I doubt I could get back into a relationship with her after what transpired before. She was a really good girlfriend for the most part, but her behavior then still has me confused and I refuse to put up with it again.