What's the point of getting married? Can anyone give me a good reason why marriage is good, besides tax benefits or so your wife can't testify against you?

Every relationship I've been in has ended, and every relationship becomes stagnant after x amount of time. One of the most beautiful things is to go out and meet a new partner, enjoy your time with them, learn, grow....and then move on to the next.

Relationships become stagnant because you've both learned whatever you needed to learn from each other and it becomes dull, this happens to all. So why do people stay together? Simply because they're insecure. They're scared they'll never find someone else again. They're co-dependent for whatever reasons.

If you want kids, that's great! But is it really necessary to get married? It's clearly a failed experiment. Personally, I'd rather have a few baby mama's and pay child support, see my kids when I please and still let my life grow to the tune that I want.

I've been in that place like you all have, where we think we love a girl forever. And it always ends. A girl is the only creature that can become your best friend, and then your WORST enemy in literally one second. This is a FACT. Why the hell would you legally commit yourself to this person "forever"? And even if you say divorce is an option, why even bother getting married in the first place? So they can take half your ****? Marriage is just a title, like stamping "Gucci" on a purse. It's the insecure who like to parade that around.

Cos a man with a good wife is the luckiest man in the world.

My parents have been married for over 50 years. When marriage is done right, it's very special.

It's a way we share ourselves.

Hey man, much props to your parents. Under some circumstances it certainly does work, but it's very very rare for people to be married that long and truly be happy.

Everlasting marriage is so rare because we're talking about two different people whose lives are changing all the time. I'm assuming it took a lot of compromise between those two to make it work for so long and if they're cool with it more power to them!

I should actually change the title to the thread because the truth is that it's not right for me to say marriage is for suckers, the correct thing to say is why marriage is not right for me and why in general marriage does not work out. I apologize and I don't want to offend anyone with what is obviously a biased opinion.

Guess I'm a sucker cause I'm headed down the marriage road again. Yes, again.

Do you mind if I ask why you feel you need to get married?

mine just blew up after 15 years. I'm 37 now and happy as ****. best friend to worst enemy is right, caught her ****ing the doctor at work....so that settled it for me. no more rings and marriage. just "stick and move".

It is not in a girl's best interest to get married. But if you want to have children, I think you should. I'm old fashioned that way. Your statement about having a few baby mamas and seeing them when you feel like it is annoying. Your children deserve better than that.

I agree that certain people do very well with marriage. But it's rare to find someone who truly shares your values and lifestyle. And people are often big phonies. They aren't what they seem to be. They become bored and disenchanted. They become selfish.

yeah, my parents were both from the same remote rural area and had all their values in common.

Big phonies is pretty rough, Katy! But it definitely is easy to drift apart after several years together, even if you aren't married.

Expand on this, please?

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You might want to think about how ****ing poor you would end up being before thinking thats at all any kind of a good idea.

What's so annoying about it? I obviously wouldn't have kids unless I could afford it, and I would be very upfront as to my philosophy. I would be financially and emotionally supportive, and would like to look at their mother's as loving friends. I think that is a better environment to grow up in than to have two parents who are miserable and fight all the time.

Most women want kids because it gives them purpose. It gives them identity. They can always say that they're a "mother" and feel fulfilled. I could justify the same things as a purpose for myself as well, but the thing is that I desire much more in life than to just be a father. I want to make an impact in the world and I know that if I were to dedicate myself as what current society deems a "family man" I will never achieve those things. Yet the way that I'm describing now is what all great leaders did long ago, look at Genghis Khan, etc.

Women marry for family and longevity. They think they will grow old with the guy they marry. Many men, on the other hand, don't want to grow old with an old woman. They want their woman to remain youthful. That's impossible. Not saying that all men are like this, but be realistic, most are. Men lose interest in their women after a certain number of years.

There's a girl at work who has been seeing a married man. He has several kids and has been married for something like 17 years. He is in the process of divorcing his wife and is planning on marrying the girl at work who is something like 15 yrs younger than wife #1. he told me he doesn't care what happens to wife or their house. (wife does not work). I think that the girl at work would be a fool to marry this guy.