Re: the girl. I guess that's why they call it the "inter-cambio"
. Seriously though, women seem to be hardwired to "believe" in things, so you have to accept stuff like this tarot thing and of course it's good when it works in your favour like this. Don't expect to find a girl who is a copy of yourself. Ayn Rand (I mean the old books about life, not the summaries made by people who want the books to be about modern U.S politics), had the theory that people with similar outlooks on life attract each other and end up together in relationships, and her fiction books are written this way. The basic flaw with this is that in our societies there are far more rational men than women (which is usually visible in Rand's books with 3 rational men fighting over 1 rational woman) - so that's nonsense and you don't need a copy of yourself. I always say a partner should be a teammate like in Badminton (i.e. you each cover different parts of the court), not a teammate like in F1 (you race in your identical cars and at the end of the year they add up your individual points to get your team score), so look for someone who covers the part of the court you don't cover, or "can't see" might be an even better metaphor. Obviously tarot is one of your weak points
though it doesn't seem to be a valuable skill - on the other hand the nature of things is that you can't objectively judge the importance of things you don't know much about so don't be as quick to dismiss e.g. dress-sense as quickly as you would tarot.
If you are anything like me you aren't going to be great at picking out a girl then seducing her - you need to accept the ones who throw themselves at you a bit more and let them steer it where they want it to go. It's not that she's desperate, you probably also impressed her (maybe the tarot readings were her BS pickup line), if she's Spanish and looking for the more reserved man then it would make sense that she would go there looking for someone like you. The thing is to try to be as impressive as you can generally (I mean intelligence wise, calm, depth, playing to your strengths not being impressive as the loudest idiot in the bar) and then just let them come to you. You need to be able to close the deal though, I had big problems with this - as I said to one young guy who came over to Slovakia "the girls here will lay the meal out on the table for you but they won't put it in your mouth for you" - I think its good for me and you to be in countries where people don't hide their intentions so subtly. It's hard read people but if you go by the rule that a first date ends with a kiss on the lips then you are not making a big faux pas - whether they accept the kiss or stop you - and at least that way you've made the key step forward into a dating situation and they can help drive it forward again.
I get the problem with overanalysing things too, people are talking to me and they complain I'm not listening, and I'm not because I'm still thinking about the last thing they said. Analysing situations in depth after the fact happens to me too and sometimes stops me from sleeping.
Re: poker. Aren't the .es player pools meant to be really easy?
PS - sorry I've treated your post as a Rorschach test, hope that at least some of what I wrote is relevant to you.
*The reasons are probably self perpetuating, certainly tarot-guy would get a quick verbal or physical "correction" from his mates whereas tarot-girl is seen as more feminine when she does this. In any case the reasons why are out of the scope of what we're talking about.
Last edited by LektorAJ; 11-30-2015 at 10:21 AM.