There's not going to be anything. I don't text married women. ;-). At least not yet. You guys, except for Dom, make it seem pretty harmless.

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While I was lobbying for medium ambivalence when it comes to communicating, I have to concede that medium matters more when it comes to ****ing.

your too old to be out texting the opposite sex. if you want to communicate call, or dont .

I fully support JC.
Without a prior relationship or exigent need, I'm not texting a married women either.
I think it's nice you would help an ex move. Locally. Out of state is a bit much.

I'm on-board with this.

Helping an ex move is fine--if you are not married or in a serious relationship. Particularly if you are helping the ex move farther away from you.

I am sure that I am missing something here. Please provide samples of the texts you guys send to women. I feel that I may really need to step up my texting game.

If I text the girl working the desk at the Bellagio, "pls put me on mixed list", have I committed adultery in my heart? Are we preparing, at long last, to rehabilitate the last of the conservative presidents, Jimmy Carter?

I assume that if texting married women is out of bounds, so then is talking to them on the phone. How about in person? What is it about texts? Is it the evidence you leave behind that worries you?

How about if he texted her, "look, dont want to get involved w all ur problems unless u r really gd in bed. pls rate on scale 1 - 10." Can we all get behind that?

Dion has some excellent advice:

I am not married or in a serious relationship--or any relationship for that matter. She will be moving closer to me, but it would be an eleven hour drive still, so the distance, while shorter, remains considerable.

Full trip report to follow if I do help her.

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I am tempted to give you all her number. You can text and let her know that despite my reluctance to text married women, I am a long-time, highly respected member of a thoroughly disreputable but distinguished community. And I still have all my own teeth. That alone, at my age, makes me a good catch.

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look if you really in your heart want her and she isnt happy now go for it. there isnt some kind of underground rules to what you can do as long as it isnt a friend or close associate that she is wth. give it a small test to see.
just beware that the other half my get even.

Ray,

No, I don't "want" her. Our mutual friend simply has suggested I text her, and when I replied that I don't think it's right to text married women, especially unhappily married women, she accused me of being hopelessly old fashioned. I was just wondering if I am hopelessly old fashioned. Wookie seems to believe I am. Others seem to agree with me.

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Avoid

deep inside you do or you wouldn't have brought it out.
but being old fashioned is a plus old man.

Soul reads ITT. I'd hate to try and get something past Ray at the poker table.

Time to get this thread back on track. Here's another version of the Who that better shows what made Keith Moon the dominant drummer of his generation...

Whenever there is any doubt, there is no doubt.

after a limited amount of thought wookie is right go for it. or are you just scared.

I'm always scared. But that's beside the point.

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u mean the point you are trying to weasel out of now that you put your foot in this.

currently waiting on your report of what you did this weekend. if you must wait that long.

The "stay away" crowd is well past 30.

Everyone is idealistic until the rug burn starts bleeding.

in the lounge we have a need to help poor john cole
so perhaps we should maybe take a poll
you see he has to decide if to text
as it is time for him get, get back into sex
this missing link might be needed to make him whole

I this what has become of the world? We've become afraid of a little rug burn?

A person should not live their life scared or in fear. Possible exceptions are when being chased by a bear, When a shark is nibbling on you, a wildland fire is about to overtake you, pretty much anything where painful death is a real possibility.

Set a personal moral code that you are OK with, not afraid of possible consequences and stick to it. Doesn't matter what others think at some point. If you can live with your actions and you are not hurting someone who doesn't deserve it, green light.

If you are not socially interested in someone due to whatever the circumstance might be, don't be in contact with them in social situations ie. calling, texting, or meeting in hotel bars. If the little voice in your head is saying to stay away or not do something there is a reason for that and you should likely listen.

Who said "afraid?"

Rug Burn is amazing fun, but it gets boring.

You also realize that psychologists get paid like $75 per hour and limits the contacting to one hour a week, for good reason.

When dealing with women, painful death is always a possibility. That's what makes them so much fun.

If rug burn gets boring, I'm pretty sure you're doing it wrong.

But since I don't even understand the perils of texting, it's possible that I don't understand modern developments in rug burn, either.