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Originally Posted by Dominic
lol...well this was not what I had in mind.
I'm not a misfit who can't socialize in the real world, guys. I was simply wondering if you guys felt the need to - or already do - belong to something.
As Blarg and others have pointed out, being a single man in my 40s, it's not like I have a sports team to bond with fellow members anymore. Poker is ok, but you don't really play with your friends all that often because you don't want to take each others' money.
I was just watching Sons of Anarchy and wanted to belong to a Man-Club where I can shiv a white supremacist and then get a hug by my another gang member who says, "You know I've got your back, right, Brother?"
Yeah, but doesn't there have to be an organic component? I mean, isn't having someone's back just because they're flying identical colors or frat pin or uniform a forced commitment, a form of emotional fascism, to quote Declan McManus?
I'm an only child, and spent a lot of time with a sense of isolation, and wanting to feel a part of something, so I see your point. It is what led me to play the team sports I did, or play in bands. Both of those are merely "gang" substitutes that are more socially acceptable. But the enduring friends I have made, who I would, even in middle age, grab a bottle in a bar fight for, are, with a few exceptions, not folks I met through those endeavors, but friendships that have evolved
outside of those particular social constructs. Not linked by a title or charter. And those relationships are far deeper and more durable than any kind of forced camaraderie, while being no less satisfying to any "pack" urge we may have. In that sense, I have felt a sense of "belonging" for most of my adulthood.
I would guess that you, Dom, are the kind of person who would have your friend's back without having to have that impulse reinforced by a patch or an oath or membership fees. You (and many who have contributed to this rather revealing thread) probably "belongs" in a more salient and real fashion than any Hollywood fabrication.
That said, I guess we could start rocking some Lounge colors. Maybe rumble with some of the other 2+2 forums.
Somehow, I see more
West Side Story than
Sons of Anarchy...