Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

hey jack, ever heard of MULTIQUOTE

slay, trust is for all situations, you cant just apply it for the easy ones and say you trust her. she might still be struggling with this ex and is trying to get passed it. she told you she made it clear that she is with you so you shouldnt be worrying. they might still have some unsolved stuff going on. your relationship just started, she possibly cant tell you yet the difficulties she's handling so you shouldnt be expecting that from her. just be patient. this is prolly the cause of her bad mood.

and it's not cuz her ex maybe wants her back that she feels the same and that she deserves you doubting her.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

I have heard of it, but it does not add to poast count, dear.

Daisy, some women aren't supposed to be 100% trusted, just sayin. He should try to talk it out with her, without sounding demanding and ultmatumish. If she can't, at the very least, talk about it somewhat, then something is wrong.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

i just wish if they had unsolved stuff they could chat it out another time. not while im right here lol.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

im just gonna have to wait til she comes next weekend to do it. some things are best said in person and sober :) gonna have to bite my tongue over chat for the next few days :p

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

starting a relationship with distrust is really the way to go.

dont you want this to be over before it gets serious between you two?

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

absolutely, but unfortunately, it got serious very fast. thats why i think she is backpedaling now

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

It's not that I'm suppose to hear it, it's that she shouldn't be talking about anything that she doesn't want me hearing. I'm fine with her walking out of the room if she's talking to her sister, mom, friend etc...As long as she doesn't do it when it's her ex is on the other end of the phone.

Would you be fine with your bf walking out of the room when his ex called?

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Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

I try to do that with every relationship. It's worked great so far!

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

thats why she needs to resolve it asap!

wow. conservative are we.

yes i would be okay with that

yea you better :p

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

It puts itself up there, sometimes you have to climb up there to get it.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

confirmed

Imo, yes.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

My mom is going through menopause and she's acting like I crazy person. She is miserably unhappy and super passive-aggressive with basically everything. She has this whore sister who's her only real friend and she gives my mom advice about stuff when her life is more ****ed up than my mom's and imo she's making things worse. She is super defense when anyone else tries to give some advice like "hey mom, i know you're really tired all the time but I bet if you did some exercise and ate better you'd feel better" I DONT HAVE TIME TO EXERCISE BECAUSE I WORK 3 JOBS. Which is bull**** because I see what she does all day and she creates the illusion she's busy just so she can bring it up all the time when someone tells her something she doesn't like. She is ruining my 7yr old brothers life. He has no discipline whatsoever, he swears at her and when I hear it and kick his ass I'm the bad guy and she swoops in to save him...Not kick his ass literally but I do what I think I brother should do. That pattern repeats over and over and then she whines about how Gabe never listens to her and nobody helps out. She's undermined my dad about so many issues that he basically ignores everything about Gabe and doesn't even bother trying to discipline him.

I pretty much hate her and at this point if I never saw her again it would be a relief. What can I do to make mine or hers life easier instead of forcing her to huffing asbestos or never talking to her again?

This is pretty much how I feel. I have nuthing to hide, I wouldn't mind her seeing or hearing anything I say to anybody.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

No. You can share everything, but you don't have to share every little thing that you're thinking.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

Sorry, I basically never post in this thread, but it's seriously tilting that no-one has suggested breaking up with her. Seems to me like that's your best option from the limited information I have, but at the very least it's crazy if you're not considering it.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

You should re-read the thread. I suggested it, just subtlely.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

my bad, carry on

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

sometimes i think this thread goes faster than omg

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

omg is more whore-monal though.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

so if someone told you something in private you'd tell it to your partner?

i'd help but im afraid im too young to give you the answer you need

you just started dating tho. how can u be so sure so quickly?

she has done nothing wrong weirdos

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

fwiw, reacting overly emotional to something is also a sign of dementia.
But obviously no one can tell you what you should do. if your mom wont listen to anything, what can you do?

that's not what I meant and no where did Daisy's post talk about sharing everything you're thinking. What I mean is you shouldn't ever hide anything. Or at least that's how I would like to carry out my relationships. going into the other room to talk to an ex is, essentially, hiding something. Why would you need to do that? Lots of reasons and none of them would facilitate or show a good, healthy relationship.
I was just coming here to say this. Obviously she doesn't have the same principles as you slay. You're already starting down the track of distrust and hiding things. You should honestly cut and run before you get even deeper, it will not get better. You just don't have the same attitudes to what you want out of a relationship.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

yes i considered it as well, see a few posts back. but i really like her and she seems to really like me. you couldnt pry us apart if u tried up until this happened. this is our first arguement we've had and its still a new relationship. i really had no business being so nosy and she had no business saying things she said. we have made our apologies this morning and im going to give her her space til she comes next weekend and go from there. maybe we just needed to slow things down just a tad. we got very close very fast. she did tell me before when we first started dating that she was nervous to be in such a serious relationship so soon. to be honest, so was/am I.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

Yes. That's also because I trust him with information. If you can't trust your so with information, you've got problems.



[quote[she has done nothing wrong weirdos[/QUOTE]
She is iho, which is what matters. better to stop trying to make things work now when it is obvious they have conflicting ideas on honesty, trust, etc etc.

Re: ***OFFICIAL*** Ask the ladies of 4life any sort of weird/stupid/disgusting question...Pt. 2
 

this is good too, obviously. If you guys are rushing and the break up was pretty recent, I don't think it's unexpected for her to still have unresolved feelings for her ex, fwiw.