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Originally Posted by chok1
I used the word bitch out of frustration not because I call her that.
Do you think that's an adequate explanation?
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Lazy? ill work circles around you, im the most driven person I know.
I doubt that you could, but your opinion that you aren't lazy explains your stellar housekeeping record. We aren't talking about jobs here. Do you clean up after you cook, or do you leave that for her? How often do you take your daughter for the evening or a day so your wife can just get out of the house alone? Why did you buy her lingerie that you want to see her in and not what she might feel good in? You can take some consolation in the fact that your wife's problem is nearly universal among women with young children -- it's just that your level of awareness here is absolutely appalling.
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self absorbed? her and my families needs come before mine always. ... Self entitled?
This is what your first post says: "Me. Me. Me me me me me me. She's not doing what I want, make it stop." When she's told you she doesn't feel sexy, did you ask why that might be, or for her to recall when she did feel sexy? Because if you haven't, you should, then try as best you can to get the conditions right.
Women don't feel sexy when they're unhappy and bored. So far you haven't demonstrated that the possibility she's unhappy has even occurred to you. Who knows, it might have. Instead, you've written a fair amount of how this affects YOU-- period-- not how this affects you, has anyone else had this, what's at the bottom of it, how did others address it, what worked and what didn't. Your objective shouldn't be high heels and a thong -- those are side benefits to achieving the real objective of bettering your wife's day-to-day life.