And I have absolutely zero..nil..none...desire to do the job. The commute would be horrendous (about 1hr 45 min each way), the work would be mind-numbingly dull, the hours would be long, and the company seems fairly soulless.

Also, I did not particularly care for the people I interviewed with. I did not particularly care for the employees I met. I can bring in some of my own team, but would not feel right dragging some of the people I trust and like working with into this environment.

I just don't know that I can pass up that much money (closer to $250k with bonuses).

Currently make a good living, but nothing close to that. Though I do think my current company is headed towards busto within a year, so I do need to consider all offers. I could well be unemployed any day now.

I just know I will be hating life if I take this job. Also, have a 1-year old daughter, and this would mean much less time with her.

I also know I'll be hating life if I have no job next month.

I think I am going to pass on it. I have till Monday to give them a decision.

I am an idiot.

It just depends on how much you value money. It sounds like you dont really care....so dont take it and be happy about it.

Don't take it. You obviously need to stay around the house and defend your daughter from cats!

No, you're not.


Could you do it for a year, to build up some equity and ride out any crash by your current company? Would it give you some good resume builders?

It might be worth toughing out for a year, if the above is true... and maybe you can wireless-commute on some days?

Based on your description, I'd have to think of reasons to force myself to take the job, if I were going to do it.

You having 1 year old daughter is the biggest key. You know they are expensive and you need to have that money coming in. Providing for her should be your biggest determining factor. The commute is brutal and would be my biggest deterant. However, when you are talking about that much money, I don't know, that's out of my league.

But seriously, once you make that kind of money, you always make that kind of money. Burn two years and lock in your family's future.

Also, get a new house close to new office.

Couldn't you move closer?

decisions are hard

will the extra money you would make dramatically improve your well-being?

sounds like no, from your OP

weigh the pros and cons, write them down, then get drunk and reread them, and see if the balance moves

I am trying to think of reasons to take it. I was only offered the job 6 hours ago and already I have flip flopped about 3 dozen times. I should be happy, but I am actually miserable. I worked in a similar environment once (granted for a lot less money), and vowed NEVER to do it again.

I do not see myself staying there more than a year. But I also know how hard it is to walk away from that type of salary once you start making it. It's how I got on the career path I am currently on, and really kind of want to downsize and get back to my more creative roots.

Thank you for the lol. I spit my bourbon.

TBH, in February I was considering quitting my job to play poker and write. It is something I did in the past and had success with, and poker had been a steady income source. Since Black Friday, that does not seem a viable option anymore. Also, far less pressure being a poker pro when you don't have a kid. I'd prob play a little scared w/o a salary to back it up if everything goes to hell.

Definitely considering this. Will address part 2 further down....

I should still be able to provide even with a lesser paying job. Of course I do feel my current situation is at risk. Still, I like to think I can pick something up that at least pays the bills...but then again, it is a scary economy.

Well, I am currently about $200k underwater on my house (Yay buying a first home in 2006!). Also, my wife just left her old job and started a new job that is 15-20 minutes from home. She loves where she works, and loves her new job. Yes, she makes less than me, but she is happy, and our daughter has a much closer daycare to home. She also loves this house. I currently drive about 75 minutes each way to work.

Ask your wife instead of us

Do you work for pleasure or remuneration?

Did you read OP it said 200000 dorra.

qft

She is being annoyingly supportive and will back any decision I make.

Currently remuneration. Want to get back to pleasure, though.

****ing ninja edit. Are my PMs getting any better? Am thinking of going into that as a career.

This is a point that no one seems to consider. Your stock would skyrocket from even a year of being there.

So we're talking about an hour total extra commute each day? Even that shouldn't be a major part of the decision. Also, I don't know if you can be a little flexible on your hours (meaning work some 11-12 hour days and some 6-7 hour days) but if you can it would allow you to go home some days and stay somewhere closer to work on the other days.

****ty brag thread. You owe a ton of money on your house, already have a really long commute, are at a place you think will go under in a year, and have a 1 year old kid to provide for, and you can think of reasons NOT to take this job?

If your daughter is 1, your wife should be at home. Day care sucks.
Rent your house if you don't want to sell it and move closer to the new job.

Having a stay at home wife is better, you come home to cooked meal and clean house, and it is much better for the child as well.

The extra 30 minutes each way, believe it or not, can be a killer. Right now the last 10 minutes is the worst part. Also, that is on a normal day. Heavy traffic days the commute is 2 hrs plus prob. Dunno how flexible hours will be, but probably not much. It is definitely something I will be asking fro clarification on before Monday.


Wow. Now i wanna slit my wrists!
Here is one more to add: I recently purchased a Prius to save money on my commute. I drive a ****ing Prius 120 miles every day. I am a living, breathing, driving parody of all I hated when I was in college.

You haven't defaulted on that **** yet? Thought that's what all the cool kids were doing.

So moving's out, commute's another hour per day. Assumably more time working as well. Been there and it sucks. It's enough money to get you out of the water in a few years though.

She sounds like a nice gal. Don't call her bluff, you gotta take care of her and kid.

Not sure if srs, but I'll bite. At first, we were anti-day care. Then we decided to do the 2-day a week thing, then 3-days. Now a week. Our daughter LOVES it. Gets a lot of interaction with the kids, and the people there are great. Also, we really took our time with where we sent her, and, for us at least, I would probably keep her in daycare even if wife did quit her job.

Also, I do all the cooking.

There you go. Sell that ******** of **** and get yourself a new awesome car, because you'll spend at least 3 hours a day in it pretty soon.

If you see yourself not adopting to your new salary very quickly (you will, tho) and that it would be possible to save up a huge junk of it, taking the job might be worth it, even tho you'll hate your life.
That's the only way you still have an exit plan.

And also, because this is BBV4LIFE, pics of gf/wife/horse!

I really think you should take it. At least for a year...

Having money's not everything, not having it is...

so like 1 weeks salary or something?

i would say pass

ok, since I am awake and bored and have been in this situation before.....

this is pretty much impossible to answer without knowing your current salary and other local job opportunities.

A long long time ago I took a job that effectively doubled my salary. Yes it made things difficult for a bit but it also improved our quality of life and made getting those next high paying jobs easier.

These days I keep my current job that I completely hate because it keeps me close to my kids. I could make 25-33% more by moving but it isn't worth it, since that amount of money will not make a meaningful impact in our lives.