Originally Posted by whacked

DON'T DO IT.
Believe me the only thing you would ever regret by not taking the job is a few bucks you never will miss.

the kid of yours...you WILL regret missing out the hours lost you will NEVER get back.
I have been commuting 1.75 hours each way, sitting in a fricking cube for 30 years.
Both kids are grown and now have grandkids that I cant spend time with. The times I do have with them I am so worn out I am in Zombieland... my daughter calls me one of the POD people.

the fact that you weren't fistpumping after the job offer should tell you something...

Originally Posted by Blizzuff

For the love of god take it, worst case scenario you put a couple hundred in the bank PER YEAR for a couple of years and move on.

Do it for all of us who can't.

Originally Posted by i69ronaldino

pics of wife?

Originally Posted by King Fish

And I have absolutely zero..nil..none...desire to do the job. The commute would be horrendous (about 1hr 45 min each way), the work would be mind-numbingly dull, the hours would be long, and the company seems fairly soulless.

Also, I did not particularly care for the people I interviewed with. I did not particularly care for the employees I met. I can bring in some of my own team, but would not feel right dragging some of the people I trust and like working with into this environment.

I just don't know that I can pass up that much money (closer to $250k with bonuses).

Currently make a good living, but nothing close to that. Though I do think my current company is headed towards busto within a year, so I do need to consider all offers. I could well be unemployed any day now.

I just know I will be hating life if I take this job. Also, have a 1-year old daughter, and this would mean much less time with her.

I also know I'll be hating life if I have no job next month.

I think I am going to pass on it. I have till Monday to give them a decision.

I am an idiot.

Originally Posted by King Fish

Thanks all for advice. I posted this thing while drinking a bit expecting/wanting to get flamed. I didn't expect real advice!

I've flipped again and now leaning towards taking it, and believe it or not 2p2 is affecting my decision a bit. I still need more time to think it over, and will probably vacillate another 50 times between now and then. It's such a marginal decision on something that will have a far than marginal impact on my life. I appreciate the advice. 2p2 never fails to surprise.

To answer some questions: I currently make around $150k/yr (with bonuses). Wife makes about $95k. We aren't hurting by any means. Live a comfortable life, have a savings, putting away for our daughter, etc. Poker was giving me an additional $40-70k per year, but I have to assume that is dried up, so really my quality of life will probably stay somewhat status quo, even though it is a huge bump in salary.

Moving is an option, and would have to be considered, but my wife specifically left her job to go to this new place that is close to home and has an awesome daycare. My daughter spending less time in a car is more important to me than me spending less time in a car.

As to why I interviewed, colleague/friend who worked at the company recommended me. I actually blew them off for a month, but they persisted. I went in figuring "what the hell...if they blow me away with an offer than maybe." They asked what my demands were. I said something I thought was a bit ridiculous. They said no problem, when can you start?

I work in marketing, but not on the commercial side anymore. It is mind numbingly dull. Started as a copywriter. Loved that. Eventually pushed towards management, and I hate it, but it pays the bills. When I took my first management role, I said it would be temporary, and would go back to what I love after a few years. You can see why I am reluctant to make the same "mistake?" again. I am a middle-leaning liberal wussbag who has hippie ideals and hates everything about a cubical environment and vowed that would not be me. I have little respect for the people I work for, but fear I am starting to become one of them.

I have not written for myself (outside of trololoolololoing) in about 5 years. I have 3 unfinished books. They will all be best sellers one day, and Michael Bay will produce (but not direct) the feature movies. I will be arrested one day for snorting coke off of a supermodel's inner thigh, and my wife will understand. She will be disappointed but she will understand. In the end, the experience will bring me closer to Robert Downy Jr., and it will result in a collab that will win us both Oscars. SrslySirius will direct the film, but will not be nominated for an award. We will exchange harsh words because of it and it will sever the tenuous hold on our friendship that existed since the early days of shooting the film. I will be upset but will be able to buy new friends. He will fade into obscurity and eventually kill a hooker and go to jail, where he will be raped often. No one will remember him, except as the guy who directed that KingFish/RDJ production all those years ago. I will not visit him in prison.

In addition to the Prius I have an Audi A6 and a Honda Pilot. We need 4WD where we live, which is why 2 people have 3 cars (I wanted to sell Pilot but wife loves that car too much). I feel like a weenie when I drive the Prius, but it saves me about $20/day in gas.

Anything I left out?