****ty brag thread. You owe a ton of money on your house, already have a really long commute, are at a place you think will go under in a year, and have a 1 year old kid to provide for, and you can think of reasons NOT to take this job?

If your daughter is 1, your wife should be at home. Day care sucks.
Rent your house if you don't want to sell it and move closer to the new job.

Having a stay at home wife is better, you come home to cooked meal and clean house, and it is much better for the child as well.

The extra 30 minutes each way, believe it or not, can be a killer. Right now the last 10 minutes is the worst part. Also, that is on a normal day. Heavy traffic days the commute is 2 hrs plus prob. Dunno how flexible hours will be, but probably not much. It is definitely something I will be asking fro clarification on before Monday.


Wow. Now i wanna slit my wrists!
Here is one more to add: I recently purchased a Prius to save money on my commute. I drive a ****ing Prius 120 miles every day. I am a living, breathing, driving parody of all I hated when I was in college.

You haven't defaulted on that **** yet? Thought that's what all the cool kids were doing.

So moving's out, commute's another hour per day. Assumably more time working as well. Been there and it sucks. It's enough money to get you out of the water in a few years though.

She sounds like a nice gal. Don't call her bluff, you gotta take care of her and kid.

Not sure if srs, but I'll bite. At first, we were anti-day care. Then we decided to do the 2-day a week thing, then 3-days. Now a week. Our daughter LOVES it. Gets a lot of interaction with the kids, and the people there are great. Also, we really took our time with where we sent her, and, for us at least, I would probably keep her in daycare even if wife did quit her job.

Also, I do all the cooking.

There you go. Sell that ******** of **** and get yourself a new awesome car, because you'll spend at least 3 hours a day in it pretty soon.

If you see yourself not adopting to your new salary very quickly (you will, tho) and that it would be possible to save up a huge junk of it, taking the job might be worth it, even tho you'll hate your life.
That's the only way you still have an exit plan.

And also, because this is BBV4LIFE, pics of gf/wife/horse!

I really think you should take it. At least for a year...

Having money's not everything, not having it is...

so like 1 weeks salary or something?

i would say pass

ok, since I am awake and bored and have been in this situation before.....

this is pretty much impossible to answer without knowing your current salary and other local job opportunities.

A long long time ago I took a job that effectively doubled my salary. Yes it made things difficult for a bit but it also improved our quality of life and made getting those next high paying jobs easier.

These days I keep my current job that I completely hate because it keeps me close to my kids. I could make 25-33% more by moving but it isn't worth it, since that amount of money will not make a meaningful impact in our lives.

Hire a babysitter,



Problem solved.

i say take the job and live through as many years of it as possible. then you can lead a comfortable lifestyle and spend plenty of time with your family and pursue other hobbies. i think temporarily sacrificing your happiness to build a promising future for your family is the correct decision

What do you do for living OP?

Why did you interview for the job and waste their time if you don't even want it? Didn't you think about any of that crap you mention in OP ahead of time? Now when you turn it down you'll look like a dickbag & they'll never give you another chance w/that company again.

If you want to potentially play poker and write, you have the potential to make that possible via a short (<5 years) in this position. You would be able to fund your daughter's education, pay off the house, purchase a real car, and, assuming you continue living within your current means, you appear to be having a pretty nice BR.

The EV of this decision, both financially and with consideration as to your overall happiness, seems to be +++ in the long run. It may just take some time after leaving the position for your run good to catch up with the guaranteed 5 year downswing.