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Originally Posted by Swiitch
I'm not saying unmarried relationships aren't tough, but most people view marriage as some end of the road when, in fact, it should be looked upon as the beginning of a different one.
And yeah, the view that you should look to fix it instead of look to find a new one is the correct view, imo. A TV isn't a marriage, if a new model TV comes out and you want it, you get rid of the old one and move on. You don't do that with marriages, and shouldn't do that with relationships, either, imo.
I agree with paragraph one entirely. I agree with paragraph two except for the last sentence. If someone wants to chose to have disposal relationships, there should be nothing wrong with that.
Marriage isn't for everyone.
But most importantly, I think the most important part of swiitch's post is that marriages should be viewed upon as the beginning of a new road. That is the type of mindset that you need to make it last. Its really the beginning of a lot of hard work if it's going to work.
If you take supine's viewpoint that its just a continuation of a long relationship, your not planning for the pitfalls that your going to experience as a couple. That's where many relationships fail.
You have to be committed to work through your problems. Its more about a commitment than love. If your going to merely rely on love, there's a really good chance, someone is going to fall out of love. But if your committed to making it work, you'll forego the times where you don't feel as much love and work through it because your committed to the road you've chosen.