Originally Posted by atakdog
is someone who's trying to make meanness more acceptable.
I think referring to our notion as condoning "meanness" does horribly misconstrue the intentions of the people who want to SE-ize the place.
For instance- if I am eating a meal with you and you are chewing with your mouth open and make unpleasant noises, and I politely ask you to stop, is that mean?
Or if you say something that I deem to be rude and I inform you that you are being an arshole mingler and I would appreciate it if you kindly ceased to act toward me in that manner (key distinction from calling you an arshole mingler), is that mean?
I embrace the truth like a mother****er. I like people who are receptive to the truth since I can be open and honest with them. If somebody ever does something that peeves me I try to inform them in the least mean way possible. The whole grievances thread has nothing to do with being mean and everything to do with keeping it real instead of suppressing our occasional ill will toward one another.