Why I don't tell people I play poker. - Page 210

dfbuzzbeater · 06-11-2012, 02:18 PM

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Originally Posted by mirinmycards

I met my wife back when I was playing online/live in 2010. Since it was the beginning of the relationship I feel she was probably a little concerned, but she observed from a distance without getting too involved. - She took notice that I was a good player, and never touched any other games (BJ, slots, Roulette, etc) at the casinos.

We're married now, and only play to supplement our income. I only play live at the local card rooms as it currently stands, but she pretty much just asks "so was it a good night?" - Yes means I made money, No means I didn't. Not much else is said. She supports me and knows I'm a good player.

She told me she'd support me playing for a living, but at this point in our life I don't feel it would be a good decision. As of right now I'm happy to use it as supplemental income and just work my way up in stakes.

It's amazing when you have someone by your side who you know supports you even during swings. I could come home and tell her I was down two buy-ins (she knows the limits I play) and she'd probably just say "Bummer, you'll get 'em next time, baby."

I actually think she'd be a great player herself, but she just never took interest.

+1.

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half now. She never knew anything about poker and was definitely skeptical at first. I had a poker tournament series the first two weekends we were dating so that was odd for sure.

Now she doesn't mind it at all. She's really supportive, and it makes it hurt so so so much less to not worry about coming home to "oh, you lost? Well I guess we won't be going on that trip this fall..." and guilt trips like that. She has seen me win over the long term so she understands the swings.

I did something in the beginning of the relationship that helped. She knows I have my poker bankroll, but she doesn't know what the amount of it is. I kept that separate (I would tell her if she asked, but she has never asked) but I would take out small sums of money to get her flowers or take her to dinner here and there and just tell her "poker paid for this". I think that helped too.

6471849653 · 06-23-2012, 02:36 PM

juu aar an idiat if juu not tel piipal tat u plei pouka aas ta miining ov laif iz tu sei ta tings aas tei aar. Sori abaut joo baad ingliz.

leprous_hand · 06-24-2012, 03:17 AM

so.....that is the meaning of life?

Sciolist · 06-24-2012, 05:33 AM

I cannot believe that that guy has a thousand posts writing like that

Vegasboy · 06-24-2012, 01:48 PM

All I can say is, having a woman in your life understand and support your Poker improves your game a thousand-folds! You just cannot lose when you know deep inside that the cash you will rake in at the end of the night will impress your girl. Doesn't matter if you have to fold that raggity suited hand just because that skinny Asian kid raised your straddle 3 times in a row, or that you have to float/pot with nothing against that old nit that always c-bets and backs down on any remotely scary turn but overbets if he still likes him hand.

My mother however, never supported me when I played Poker as a student. If I had won she'd be like 'meh' and wish me good luck on my next session. If I had a losing session, all hell would break lose! "WHY did you have to play?" - "Did I not tell you it is a bad habit?!" - "Do you have any idea how many hours of work you just flushed down the toilet?" - "WHY did you have to go lose your money at the Casino?" - "EVERYBODY loses at the Casino". Logic would go out the window. Math and expected value would go out the window.

super_shark · 06-25-2012, 06:59 AM

best threat on 2p2 lol

Interpretation · 06-30-2012, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by TimDwayne

So good

di0d80 · 06-30-2012, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Tiltmonkey2

Yeah its pointless telling people about poker. It's like trying to explain to a dog how a t.v works, they just don't get it. They also give you that tilted head confused look like a dog does.

+1000

Every person does this.

cardplayer · 07-01-2012, 03:24 AM

My friends all know I play poker and don't ask me the stupid questions that most of the ppl ITT seem to get asked on a regular basis. As long as i keep picking up the tab at the pool hall at 10$ a pop per pitcher, they couldn't care less where the money comes from.

I did however make the mistake telling the girl that cuts my hair that I played poker. Even after trying to explain that its not all luck and the better players will get the money in the end. She said something like "yeah, but i still feel like there's a lot of luck involved and its still gamboling". I just quit trying and sat there quietly.

I was outside calling a buddy to see if he wanted to shoot some pool (pool hall i play at is right next door) and she walks out and sees me standing next to the BMW I was driving around at that time. Her attitude changed almost instantly.

Now whenever I walk in she's like I remember you, you play poker!

edit: Parents were another thing. First time I told my mom i won a 22$ tourney for just under 4k she's like wow we need to take u to vegas. Then when I told her I'm going to quit my job she's like, "so you're just going to play poker?".

My dad was much easier and even told me to bring my laptop over so he can watch me play on a sunday. I did one time and after I busted all my tourneys he asked so how did you do? I was like I dunno think I lost like 50$ or something and he's like thats 2 bottles of whiskey son!

spooner90 · 07-01-2012, 06:52 AM

"Oh you have been running good at the Casino? That's awesome bro. Any chance you can stake me some funds? I will pay it back as soon as my check comes through next week."

spooner90 · 07-01-2012, 06:56 AM

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Originally Posted by wtfpwnage

Reason why Ivey is the best poker player and why poker is luck

good bannage

Haarlem91 · 07-01-2012, 02:00 PM

tomorrow ill take a day off and read the whole thread

bacats32 · 07-03-2012, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by cardplayer

My dad was much easier and even told me to bring my laptop over so he can watch me play on a sunday. I did one time and after I busted all my tourneys he asked so how did you do? I was like I dunno think I lost like 50$ or something and he's like thats 2 bottles of whiskey son!

gold

kerwinty · 07-04-2012, 12:46 AM

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Originally Posted by boltyou

Yeah, we talked quite a bit. He used to do some high-risk stock trading (before the Lehman collapse in 2008) and said that his job was basically identifying stock trends with high standard deviations, identifying which ones were +EV (basically undervalued because people didn't understand that it was +EV due to its volatility), then getting enough iterations of those types of trades that the variance evened out in the long run. That's not exactly how he phrased it, but that's what was going on.

And it turns out bankroll management is just as important when it comes to high-risk trading. =-) We had so much in common.

good stuff....

mattgood9 · 07-13-2012, 11:59 AM

Conversation I had last week with my mom:
I just won $250 at 1/2 live cardroom

Mom: Where did you go last night?
Me: This cardroom nearby
Mom: WHAT!?! Who runs it?
Me: This Asian businessman. The whole place is really nice and homely though.
Mom: What stakes did you play for?
Me: The blinds were 1/2 dollars.
Mom: What does that mean?
Me: I bought in for $200.
Mom: WHAT!? You're a student, you shouldn't be wasting your money like that.
Me: Well if you cared to ask I've gone multiple times and have won 75% of the times I went. In fact, yesterday I made $250 in three hours of playing.
Mom: Well it's all luck, you'll lose everything if you keep playing.
Me: No I won't, poker is a game of skill.
Mom: You can't control what cards you get.
Me: I know, but I have control over how I play the certain hands I play, and I use a lot of variables to make my decisions. But I can tell you don't care about that. If you want to have an adult conversation about this, I'm ready any time.