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dude, it's 2017. The guys who are ****ing more than one woman aren't keeping harems. I mean, yes, some guys are running simultaneous relationships, but the point you're trying to make here treats women as some sort of consumable, once a guy has impregnated one she's off the market forever, and that women never switch partners.
These guys aren't like alpha lions who keep all the women for themselves and run off the beta males into the wilderness.
I'm not gonna belabor this because that's not the point I'm making. I think the ultimate misinterpretation here is due to the fact the internet is so full up with MRA/PUA/incel herp derp that the point gets lost and any discussion of it seems like it's coming from there. Simply put: sex partners aren't distributed evenly. I ain't gonna bury the thread in links but iill provide some. The core points.
- The total number of ~sexless people varies by culture but in the US and most of Europe, it IS evenly distributed among men and women, but once you factor in desire (e.g., there are more asexual women then men) you have more sexless frustrated men.
See Kinsey Institute research, etc.
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more mothers than fathers in our collective genes
- genetic testing consistently
discovers surprising amounts of unreported cuckoldry
- self-reported surveys (which are admittedly problematic)
reveal males have more sexual partners than females
So I agree: women aren't consumable, partner switching is incredibly common. The point is basically, glibly that when we measure human sex pairings, it's not 1:1 where every sexually active woman is matched by every 1 sexually active male, or that every 1 sexual encounter between a woman and a man evenly distributes the sex evenly among all sexually active men. I think that's not controversial and basically intuitive.
I only really want to get the point that there are sexually frustrated men at the bottom of social hierarchies. Remember I was responding to the "but surely even white trash guys, nerds, the socially awkward must pair up with low status females eventually?" The answer from lots of disciplines: not quite.
None of this has anything to do with justifying misogyny, those MRA/PUA guys are creepy freaks, etc. Just to get across that the idea that the alpha/beta framing is garbagey but SOME of the underlying ideas (there are socially dominant men, that social dominance manifests as more sex for some men than others) has some empirical validity. That's where I stop. I think the typical PUA/incel *******s go from there to say that the feelings of inferiority that produces -- that women are to blame, that there's a bunch of unsavory characteristics about women that explain lack of sex for nerds and losers, etc. I don't justify any of that. Just that some underlying data supports the perception that status among men is more than just height or athletic skill or intelligence or wealth, and we can measure and notice differences in sexual prowess too, and low status men aren't ignorant to this. And then from there, that has political implications.
Last edited by DVaut1; 08-24-2017 at 11:38 AM.