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Originally Posted by napsus
*hear neighbours talking right behind the window
--> get slightly annoyed by that
*try to focus on breathing again
*hear another neighbour opening the electronic garage door which sound annoys me
This happens to everyone, and it's amazing! Because when you really think about it, it's pretty hilarious that the mind sees everything as annoying hindrances to "MY meditation time". The mind wants things to be a certain way, and when reality in its usual manner fails to comply to our wishes, we become angry, as if we genuinely expected things to go exactly as we desired.
This is at the root of all suffering, our wanting things to be different from the way they are. Meditation practice is basically learning to accept reality as it is, which tends to lead to peace, since you are no longer bothered by things you can't change, like your background noise. So if you keep at it, eventually some day you'll start to just let things be.
Neighbours being loud - okay, that's the way it is at this moment.
Some small pain arising in the leg - okay, let there be a little pain.
Mind is restless, or annoyed and judging - okay, that's the nature of the mind. It will pass.
In the beginning, a lot of this learning happens in hindsight. Noise occurs, followed by annoyance, followed by judgement when you realize you weren't able to accept the noise with a neutral mind, then you're annoyed at the judgement, and so on. It's okay, this happens. But after the process has finished, you can use hindsight briefly to observe what happened - oh, just the mind again with its usual reactions. Back to the breath.
Acceptance is basically a skill to learn, like any other. It will spread from meditation to everything. Bad weather today? Okay, that's the way it is, no point fighting it. Dress warm. Laptop/phone/car broke down? Okay, so it broke. That's simply what happens to possessions, they're impermanent just like everything else in the world. Downswing? It's how it is. Acceptance is the path to tiltlessness.
Good luck with the meditation. =)