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Originally Posted by harkin
Good thing Vanessa is not the one being "judgemental" or "bothered" or your post would be hilarious.
Also love how people merely pointing out d-bag behavior are somehow "haters" and the ones with psychological problems. Some people have class and manners and some don't. There is still plenty of variety and personality even when people behave as adults, you should try it.
Vanessa may be the one being judgmental about how others play poker but that isn't what I was writing about.
Although I was being sarcastic, I wasn't implying that the anti-Vanessa's are haters nor that they have psychological problems either. I was being serious. I guess I could have left out the sarcasm but like martre said, "I think opinions tend to automatically get more polarized when posted on message boards. It's just the nature of internet and non-verbal communication."
What I was implying is that as people we tend to be harsh on others more-so if they're a celebrity of sorts or an authority figure and it's interesting, from a psychological perspective, as to why that is. It's okay to have an opinion about a person and their behavior but I'm curious as to why that opinion has to be a put down by making statements that they're a person with no class blah blah blah. Maybe it's just about semantics and I could have refrained from posting, idk.
Anyways, I was implying that we all live in glass houses and wasn't pointing martre out either...he just happened to quote and respond to my post.
However, since he did, another interesting point (to me) is "5 years ago". I don't know how old Vanessa is...I could look it up but I don't think she's hit 30 yet. That being said, 5 years ago, that puts her in her early 20's and for what that's worth she's still young now. I don't know about those of you here, but when I think back to **** I did and said in my 20's...ugh. Being young isn't an excuse for what we're referring to as bad behavior here, but that doesn't instantly make her a person with no class and manners as is stated on various pages itt either. (for the record I noticed that in martre's post he doesn't put down her person, only her actions)
Not that you hit 40 or 50 or whatever and you're suddenly behaving perfectly but we do tend to grow as people, learn to relax more, mature. We've typically experienced more and hopefully have grown into what would be considered a more positive direction as a person.
So my implication was twofold: One, to give her a break. She, like all of us, is learning to be the best person that she can and she's pretty new to it if you're measuring years. There isn't any value in putting her down as a person. Although there may value may be in a discerning discussion about why this behavior occurs and bothers others. Two, as previously stated, we all live in glass houses.