Originally Posted by MicroBob
kingofnyc - Why would your wife be pissed at something like this?
If I was the one in the wedding party my sig-other would be completely cool with me going to the dinner. Similarly, if my sig-other was in the wedding party and I wasn't invited to the dinner I would also be completely cool with it.
I think the issue is that this dinner is really no different than any other sort of dinner party. If a spouse is invited, it's understood that the other half is also invited. There are exception like bridal showers, bachelor parties or even guys/girls nite out. I don't think this is one of those exceptions.
Now of course she could have opted out and not go, but not to be included in the invite to start with is not rite imo.