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Originally Posted by King_of_NYC
I was in a bridal party when this problem with the rehearsal dinner came up. A day or so before the meal, the groom who was one of my best friends & knew since we were young kids, informed me that dinner was for bridal party only and significant others were not invited. I was the only married member of the party & had been married for about 18 months at this point & was not going to go without her. Also, the groom was in MY bridal party & attended our rehearsal dinner. He did attend alone however cuz his gf at the time (now fiancé at the time of this story) had a previous engagement but she was invited.
So I made him aware that if my wife could not attend, I would not be able to go. He repeated that it was for the bridal party only so I didn't go. The wedding was a few days after and he didn't say 2 words to me all day. A few days a after the wedding he came by my house saying I broke wedding etiquette for not honoring his request. At the time I didn't know if this was true (it turns out its not) but I told him I didn't care and for $50 he shouldn't have cared either.
We have hardly spoken since. This was about 8 years ago...
IMO isn't it customary for significant others of the bridal party to be invited to the rehearsal dinner and the reception? And he sprung this on you the day before the rehearsal dinner? FWIW if they didn't have enough money to pay for $50 plates for the bridal party plus significant others, maybe they could have gone somewhere else that was $25 a plate? My sister-in-law didn't have much money for their rehearsal dinner. They had their rehearsal dinner at a pizza joint, and it went over just fine. Or maybe you could have paid for your wife's dinner.....although assuming you pitched in your fair share for the bachelor party and whatever other expenses you had for the wedding (tuxedo, etc.) then I think $50 extra for your wife to attend isn't too much to ask.
Also FWIW, you made it clear that you wouldn't attend without your wife. He should have just accepted that and dropped it right there. If anyone tries to make you choose between them and your wife, if it's your mom, your best friend, whoever, you back your wife 100% of the time.
Cheapest thing I've ever seen.....a woman came into our bank and wanted to deposit rolls of coins. The teller asked her "ma'am, are these rolls full and correct?" She looked a bit taken back, and even I thought that was a weird question. She said "yes, they sure are." He then took a roll of pennies, emptied it, and counted it down. 49 pennies in a 50 cent roll. She said "oh, I'm so sorry...maybe just that one is short." Then he emptied each one out...three rolls of pennies, two rolls of nickels, and a roll of quarters. Each one was short one or two coins. After making the deposit for the right amount of money, the teller told me that particular woman was notorious for doing that.
Last edited by ScottieK; 07-04-2010 at 12:17 PM.