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Originally Posted by thethethe
Sounds great LFS, and congrats on your new piece of paper!
I'm not much of an AAer, although I do think it has a lot of good points. The making amends bit is something I've always found really hard, even though I know it's for my recovery, and, in the long run, will probably make me much happier.
It's definitely hard. I think everybody's approach to the amends is different. I'm sure there are people who would think the meeting I had last week was unnecessary.
I can say that I personally have felt like I've had a number of things hanging over my head for a long time. Putting them to bed feels pretty good, I think anyone can relate to that. I also think that it's likely that I have things put away in the guilt/shame bank that I don't even really remember, or at least don't acknowledge as being meaningful to me. My whole M.O. in the past was to avoid feeling much of anything, and my instinct to isolate/wall myself off emotionally is still strong and effective. So, for me, I think a somewhat ritualized process where I address harms that I've done is worthwhile.
I would also say that I would never be able to do this step, halting as my progress has been, without doing the ones that come before it thoroughly.